Your relationship with your partner just ended against your will? If you have a very strong desire to win her heart back, don't act hastily! Try first to assess his actions and words, then talk to him one-on-one. Through this series of methods, you will surely find out whether your ex-spouse still cares and loves you or not.
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Method 1 of 3: Assessing His Actions
Step 1. Observe a consistent and friendly communication style
Positive and friendly communication after the end of the relationship shows that your relationship is fine. Plus, it's likely that he still has feelings for you and wants to stay involved in your life. Some of the indicators you need to watch for are:
- He still greets you often, even though you met him that day. A simple greeting like this shows that he still wants to communicate with you, but is feeling nervous or unsure about taking a bolder step.
- He still often asks how you're doing via text message or phone.
- He still often comments on or likes the things you share on social media.
- She sends you pictures of herself having fun, looking good, or doing something you also enjoy.
Step 2. Be aware of an inappropriate or inconsistent communication style
Be careful, ex-partners who are still trying to manipulate, scare, or stalk you also need to be wary of. If he doesn't want to accept your rejection, chances are he's not 'still in love' with you, but is obsessed and wants to control you. Be wary of and stay away from ex-partners who are not willing to respect your personal realm.
If he only calls you once a few months or after ending his relationship with you, he's most likely looking for attention and doesn't really care about you
Step 3. Observe her body language
If he still loves you, he's likely to be constantly trying to be close to you. For example, he may hug you, kiss you on the cheek, or engage in other physical intimacy to show his affection. If he's still grieving after breaking up with you, he's more likely to avoid eye contact, look down, or even cry when he sees you.
His feelings will definitely be seen from his actions. He may laugh louder, smile more often, or speak in a higher tone near you. They are all micro-expressions that indicate that he still has uncontrollable feelings for you
Step 4. Observe how often you pass each other or spend time together
If your ex is always trying to take you on a trip together (or always 'accidentally' going to places you frequent), chances are that he or she really wants to spend time with you. Maybe he's trying to get your attention or just misses your presence. It's also possible that he's actually looking for an opportunity to ask him how you feel right now.
Specifically, mark places where he was lazy before (when you were still dating) but lately he's been going more often just because you were there
Step 5. Observe the things he gave you after the breakup
Does he still send birthday gifts, Christmas cards, or other gifts on your special moments? If so, chances are that he still wants to show you his care and affection.
Step 6. Observe the social media pages
If he's writing about his desire to move on with his life, chances are he's either trying to forget you or trying to convince himself to do so. If he writes a more explicit status like “miss your ex”, chances are that he really does miss you. The fact that he's posted his miss on social media shows that he does want you to read and find out!
Observe if he has deleted all your photos from his phone and laptop. Getting rid of shared memories is a major indicator that he really wants to move on with his life without you
Step 7. Look up information from your mutual friends
Involving your friends is not a wise move; but at the very least, it's okay to ask how your ex is doing in casual conversation, especially if you haven't heard from him in a long time. Chances are, your friend will give you a brief information about how your ex is currently feeling. However, if he doesn't want to tell you anything, don't force him.
- Say something like, “I suddenly remembered Dave at the library yesterday. You know I love going to the library with Dave. How are you?"
- If you are on very good terms with his friend, try asking him directly, "Do you think Dave still likes me?".
Step 8. Observe if he is still flirting with you
The ex-partner's affection and attention may or may not be shown explicitly. So make sure you watch for implicit signs like when he touches you, compliments you, winks at you, or seduces you. If he does and interacts regularly with you, chances are he still likes you.
If your ex isn't the type of guy who is good at flirting but tries to do it in front of you, the chances that he still likes you are even greater
Method 2 of 3: Analyzing His Speech
Step 1. Count the number of times he says “I miss you
Sometimes, your ex might say something to show that he still loves you. If he admits that he misses you, chances are he still has feelings for you.
Step 2. Observe if he brings up old memories frequently
If your ex still loves you, he or she will most likely invite you to reminisce. The goal is only one, namely for you to remember the good times spent with him so that you are willing to re-establish a relationship with him.
Positive signals appear if he starts bringing up your vacation trip, internal jokes between you, or the good times you've had together
Step 3. Observe if he talks about his current love life
If your ex still loves you, he or she will most likely try to make you jealous to see how you feel for them. If he keeps telling you about his dates with other women, it's possible that he still likes you.
- In particular, observe if he suddenly brings up the topic in a highly irrelevant situation. For example, he suddenly mentions the new woman in his life when you are discussing other topics such as work or family. If he does, chances are he really wants to provoke your jealousy.
- Think back to how he treated his exes. If he also shows the same concern for his other exes, it's more than likely his character.
Step 4. Observe how often he asks the status of your love life
If he still loves you, chances are he will continue to monitor your love life. If he still often asks, “Who is your boyfriend now?” or “You must have watched that movie with your new boyfriend, didn't you?”, a sign that he still likes you.
- Also notice if he is always making jokes about the guy you are dating. Most likely, he is trying to destroy the positive image of the guy and make himself stand out in your mind.
- If your ex looks at another guy with disapproval, or if he's trying to take you and your time away from him, chances are he's possessive and doesn't want you to go on without him.
Step 5. Be aware of the compliment
If he compliments you on your appearance or on other things that he used to compliment frequently, he's most likely trying to create a positive image in your mind. It's also possible that he's trying to make you feel special or nostalgic.
Step 6. Observe if he apologizes to you often
If your ex still loves you, he or she will likely reflect on your relationship and feel guilty afterwards. In order to get your heart back, he will apologize to you more often, especially so that you are willing to accept his love back.
Method 3 of 3: Communicating With Him
Step 1. Speak calmly, calmly, and clearly
Ask him, "Can we talk for a minute in a more private place?". As awkward as it may seem, it's actually the only way you'll be able to understand his deepest feelings. Of course you can directly confront him whenever the opportunity arises; however, it's best to ask the time and location that he thinks is the most appropriate to talk. If you're too nervous, use indirect communication techniques such as over the phone, email, or text message.
Step 2. Choose a location that is convenient for both of you
Talk to him in a casual public place like a cafe or a city park, but make sure you choose a quiet and neutral place to make it easier for your ex to express their feelings.
Take a long time to chat with him. Don't talk to him if you have to come home soon for a meeting or schoolwork
Step 3. Show the best version of yourself
If you want to get him back, make sure you present the best version of yourself when you're chatting with him. For example, wear your favorite clothes and style your hair as neatly as possible. Take the time to get your ex's attention and show that you're comfortable, confident, and worthy of getting their heart back.
Step 4. Tell him how you feel
If you want to be honest, it will be easier for him to convey his feelings. Make sure you always speak calmly and clearly. Try saying, “I still like you,” or “I still see you as more than just a friend,”.
Say that you regret the end of your relationship and want to get back into a relationship with him. Don't forget to give specific reasons such as, "I miss the good times we spent together," or "I really feel comfortable and at peace around you,"
Step 5. Listen to the words
You're not the only one who has a lot to say; so does he. Therefore, let him convey his feelings and listen to his words carefully. I'm sure it will help you to know if he still cares, loves you, and wants to get back in touch with you.
If he admits he wants to end the conversation, let him go. Don't try to control him or force him to do something he doesn't want to discuss
Step 6. Accept the decision
If your ex still loves you and wants to get back in touch with you, congratulations! Accept the decision and work on creating a new, more established and stronger relationship! Gradually, overcome the various problems that had colored the relationship between the two of you. But if he admits he no longer loves you and wants to continue his life without you, accept the decision with grace. Learn to move on without it, spend more time with friends, and improve your performance at school or work. Don't worry, you can always build better relationships with other people when you're ready to do it.
Tips
- Don't look desperate.
- Control yourself; don't act too aggressively.
