A pair of best friends falling in love is normal, but sometimes there are complications because the story is not as beautiful as this. The results showed that as ordinary friends, men are more easily attracted to women than women to men. Relationships that grow out of friendships can be great fun, but the time between you start liking a girl friend and find out if she likes you is usually a challenge.
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Method 1 of 2: Observing Sign Language
Step 1. Pay attention to his body language
One easy way to find out if someone is in love is to observe their body language. When the two of you hang out with friends, notice if he or she often stands or sits across from you? Does he sit closer when next to you? Does he touch you more often than other male friends? If the answer is yes, maybe he sees you as more than just a friend. A woman may like the man she is talking to if he:
- Often touches his hair.
- Always smiling at you.
- Busy yourself with things that are nearby.
- Sit or stand up straight while slightly puffing out your chest to make it look more attractive.
Step 2. Observe the change in his attitude towards you
If he's in love with you, he may seem awkward when he meets you, but at the same time, he's always eager to see you. In addition, he is faster to reply to your messages or contact you more often. If he tells you more about his family and background, he's actually expecting you to do the same. This could mean he is looking for a match between the two of you and possibly a romantic relationship.
If he enjoys spending time alone with you, don't jump to conclusions! These signals have multiple meanings and are very easy to misunderstand. Maybe he really wants to be in a romantic relationship, but it could also be that he just wants to strengthen the friendship
Step 3. Observe the way he looks at you
If he hasn't expressed his feelings yet, pay attention to whether he often shys away when you look at him. However, he also secretly stares at you until he finally finds out. If his eyes are always wide when he looks at you, then he probably likes you.
Step 4. Find specific clues to find out if he wants to be in a relationship with you
If he's always complimenting you or saying he wants to be in a serious relationship with "someone," he probably likes you but is still hesitant to say it. If he asks you to attend an important event with him, such as a family member's birthday party or a coworker's wedding and he won't invite any other male friends, this may be a very clear sign that he likes you.
Method 2 of 2: Approaching with Action
Step 1. Dare to seduce her and then watch her response
If he responds to you in a positive manner, especially if he seems a bit flirtatious, he may be interested in you. However, make sure first whether his attitude is not solely because of his personality. Maybe he would do the same to anyone because there are people who like to joke and like to flirt. If he doesn't respond or seems shy, he probably doesn't like you. So you better back off.
Step 2. Share your feelings with a mutual friend
Your friends may be watching you both from afar and don't like gossiping. Ask them if your crush has ever expressed his feelings about you. This takes a lot of courage, but it's worth getting enough information before you make a big decision.
Step 3. Ask him directly
Asking is the only way to know how he really feels, but you'll feel awkward if he doesn't feel the same way. Since it can ruin a friendship, do this when you're sure that he likes you too. However, it's better to find out the truth than to keep wondering, for example by doing the following ways:
- Start the conversation by expressing your desire to express your feelings. Tell him you love him and then ask him if he feels the same way. Don't forget to apologize because this conversation made the atmosphere uncomfortable and then listen to the answer. Start the conversation by saying: “Something's been bothering me lately, but it's hard for me to express. Honestly, I love you. Sorry if I sound pushy, but I wonder if you feel the same way?”
- Invite him to speak in public, but do not let others hear. He will feel more secure and will not have to give a pleasant answer, but the opposite of how he really feels. You can ask her to meet at the park, at the beach, or at a less crowded cafe.
- Explain that you really value his friendship. If he initiates the conversation, explain that you've always wanted to be good friends with him, but recently you've been feeling something different. You want to make sure that the friendship with him is genuine and nothing is hidden.
Tips
- Even if he gives you a signal that he likes you, it doesn't necessarily mean he wants to be in a relationship with you.
- Many men mistake a woman's friendliness for seduction. Be careful not to make the same mistake!
- Men tend to think excessively in relationships with the opposite sex. Be careful how you pick up the signal so you don't misinterpret it.
- Let him wonder by being flirtatious to tease him without ruining the friendship.
- Show respect for women and never enter into relationships by manipulating others because this will lead to failure in love relationships and destroy friendships.
- Don't feel guilty if he doesn't love you. Although it is painful and makes relationships feel awkward, many people have experienced this in their lives.
