Many people think that silence is a negative trait. In fact, this trait can be a positive thing, or at least not a bad thing. In fact, there are many benefits to being a quiet person. There are several ways to accept your quiet nature.
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Method 1 of 3: Acknowledging the Positives
Step 1. List the positives
Although our society tends to value people who are extraverted and outgoing, this doesn't mean you don't value yourself as highly as these people. List all the positive effects of your quiet nature.
- Maybe you are a good listener.
- You also play it safe and are good at negotiating.
- Maybe you are someone who pays attention to other people and can judge situations well.
- You are seen as a person who is not exaggerating.
- You are seen as a long-sighted person.
- … various other positive impacts of your own choosing!
Step 2. Start writing a diary
If you don't know what the positive effects of being quiet have, start writing a diary that lists situations when silence has worked for you. Your memory may be more likely to remember negative things, but this technique can help you look for the positives about your personality.
- If you have a smartphone, write down your notes on it, then transfer them to a Word document or jot down your notes in a notebook.
- If you don't have a cell phone where you can write when you're out of the house/office, always have paper and pen ready so you can always write before you forget.
Step 3. Study your personality
Many people have done research on the benefits of a quiet personality. There are several sources of reference that you can read. Hopefully, after reading these resources, you can develop a new, more powerful perspective on yourself. For example:
- The book "Quiet" by Susan Cain:
- Read about the evolutionary logic behind your personality. In certain environments, intraverts are more developed than extraverts, especially when humans have more to lose by being talkative than being quiet. For example, when living in a place with a lot of infectious diseases. In such an environment, being sociable (often sociable) actually makes it easier for your body to catch infections.
- In other words, from a human safety perspective, there is no 'best' personality. Personality that is beneficial to an individual will depend on the environment in which the individual lives. Here is the source:
Step 4. Make peace with yourself
Once you realize the positive effects of being quiet, try to accept yourself. Self-acceptance is a positive trait. Of course, the most important thing is that you are happy about yourself. In fact, for many people, self-happiness is more important than adjusting to other people/environments. There are several things you can do to feel happier about yourself:
- Write down your strengths.
- Forgive yourself for the mistakes you made in the past. Remember that you can learn from these mistakes and don't let them stop you.
- Treat yourself well. Remember that no human is perfect. You will have a bad side, just like everyone else. That's okay!
Step 5. Learn about successful intraverts
There are many quiet people who are successful in their own way. For example::
- Bill Gates, founder of Microsoft.
- J. K. Rowling, author of the "Harry Potter" series.
- Albert Einstein, one of the greatest physicists in the world.
- Rosa Parks, civil rights activist.
Method 2 of 3: Hanging Out with Quiet Fellows
Step 1. Think about the people you know
Find out which of these people have the same traits as you. Then, approach this person. You will be more receptive to your personality if you are surrounded by like-minded people.
Maybe you'll be better suited to hang out with people who are equally quiet, and not with people who are talkative/extraverts
Step 2. Look for groups of like-minded people
Use social networking sites to find like-minded people.
If there are no events around you, get started
Step 3. Follow internet forums
Communicating with other people of the same nature over the internet can help you accept your own silence. If you realize that there are plenty of people who are just as quiet as you are, you may find it easier to accept that you are normal and that you have nothing to be ashamed of.
To search internet forums, use the term "intravert group" or search Kaskus
Step 4. Create a support group
If you're having trouble accepting yourself, start a support group and recruit people who have the same problem so you have social support.
- You may need to organize this group, for example regarding the meeting place, group name, and so on.
- You also need to advertise this group. You can recruit online or place an ad at bus stops or other places in your neighborhood.
Method 3 of 3: Seek Professional Medical Help
Step 1. Seek professional medical help for mental disorders
Sometimes it's hard to accept yourself, even though you've tried hard. This is okay and normal. You may make progress if you meet with a professional therapist, such as a psychologist, psychiatrist, clinical therapist, professional counselor, or marriage counselor. They can help solve your problem.
- You can find a psychologist in your area online.
- To find a professional therapist, you can use Google.
Step 2. Ask your doctor
Maybe you have social anxiety disorder. If so, you need to consult your doctor for a possible prescription for anxiety medication.
You may experience social anxiety when ordinary social interactions can cause intense anxiety, fear, or embarrassment, as a result of fear of being judged negatively by others
Step 3. List your various symptoms
If you want to see a professional therapist, there are a number of things you can do to make your meeting truly worthwhile. Start by writing down the symptoms you are experiencing and the situations that cause them.
Write down as much detail as possible. Your doctor will determine which information is important and which is not
Step 4. Make a list of questions
You may have a few things on your mind, and you want to make sure your meeting with the doctor is worthwhile. Write down a list of questions that you can use when you see your doctor. For example:
- What drugs can you take.
- Benefits and disadvantages of taking medication to solve psychological problems.
- There are alternatives to not needing to take medication, such as changing your lifestyle.
- Drug side effects
- The basic cause of your social anxiety
