The shape of your nose may not be like the shape of most noses and it could be because of that you see your nose as a barrier to social success and happiness. It's natural to focus on yourself, but these thoughts don't reflect what other people feel is most important and valuable about you. Also, you can feel attractive and happy with an unusual nose shape. Read on to learn how to accept the shape of your nose and its beauty.
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Method 1 of 4: Identifying How You Feel About Your Nose
Step 1. Find out why you are so worried about the shape of your nose
People tend to be influenced by their surroundings and the opinions of others. Maybe someone has made an unkind comment about your nose, or you've suddenly noticed a nose imperfection that's bothering you. Or, you focus on other people's noses such as your friend or a famous model.
Write down your thoughts about your nose. Try asking yourself what you don't like about him. Is your nose too long, too big, too square, too round? This will help you identify self-assessments
Step 2. Find out who or what influenced your thinking
Unfortunately, other people can say unkind things to you, even those close to you such as friends or family. One of the steps to combating negative perceptions of your own body is knowing who said those hurtful words to you. These people are most likely people you trust and you take their words to heart.
Think about whether you are influenced by the general public's perception of the perfect nose shape. It's also possible that you get your perception of this perfect nose from photos in magazines, internet sites and television
Step 3. Try to remember any social situations where you feel comfortable with the shape of your nose
It could be when you are around your parents or close friends. Or when you do an activity or sport that you enjoy because you don't pay attention to your nose at all.
Maybe you feel comfortable around certain people because you know they accept and love you for who you are, including your nose. They see all the beautiful aspects of you. Keep this in mind when you leave the house. There are people who accept your appearance and who you are
Step 4. Know when you have extreme thoughts about your appearance
Often negative thoughts arise because you imagine the worst or most extreme scenario. Focusing only on your nose and making it the center of your life is an extreme behavior. There are many other aspects that make up who you are besides the shape of your nose.
For example, you might go to extremes if you feel you have to put on a thick layer of makeup to modify the shape of your nose before you leave the house. In reality, other people most likely don't pay attention to your nose at all
Method 2 of 4: Building Confidence
Step 1. Notice that the shape of the nose changes over time
The shape of a person's nose is constantly changing. The support inside the nose will weaken with age and the nose will begin to sag. As a person gets older, chances are his nose will look longer or bigger.
No matter what you think about your nose right now, your nose will continue to change, just as the rest of your body is constantly changing
Step 2. Try a cognitive belief exercise
This exercise helps remind us of what we think cognitively is the most important thing about being human. When we are asked what we like most about ourselves, we often mention our personality, rather than our physical self. It reminds us that personality and abilities are more important than physical things. We are also reminded that we have the power to define ourselves according to our standards, not the standards that exist in society.
- List three of your favorite physical features. You can train yourself to think more positively about your overall body shape. This can help you to accept the shape of your nose and find it beautiful too. Make a list of three physical features that you like about yourself. For example, you might write, "I love my eyes. My eyelashes are long, and my toes are beautiful."
- Make a list of the personalities you like. You might write, "I'm a hard worker, I'm a good friend, and I have a great sense of humor."
- Combine these two lists and order them starting with the most important. Write one sentence for each item on the list.
- Most people who do this exercise tend to put personality on a higher level than physical things.
Step 3. Increase self-confidence when it comes to beauty
Write down some of your favorite physical traits again. If you're having a hard time, think about the physical thing that bothers you the least.
- Write positive sentences for each of these features. For example, you might say, "I love my blue eyes because they glow in the light."
- Use this information you collect to make small changes in the way you carry yourself on a daily basis. If you think your eyes are beautiful, try wearing clothes that highlight your eye color. Wear eye makeup that accentuates the eyes.
Step 4. Silence your inner critic
Once you have identified the source of your negative thoughts, you can work to change your thoughts and perceptions of your body. You may find yourself having negative thoughts about yourself. When this happens, try to jot down the thought. Try asking yourself these questions:
- Is this comment good?
- Do I want to tell my friends?
- Does this comment make me feel good?
Step 5. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts
When you've realized when you're criticizing yourself, stop. Replace those thoughts with something positive.
For example, you might think, "My nose seems to fill my entire face." Stop that and try to think positively: "My nose is unique. If I replaced my nose with another nose shape, my face would look weird. I'm a beautiful woman."
Step 6. Understand that the perception of beauty is shaped by culture
Different cultures like different styles and aesthetics of beauty. Maybe one culture favors a small, advanced nose, but there may be another culture that prefers a big, wider nose. Beauty is a value shaped by culture.
For example, some cultures have historically favored wearing earrings and other jewelry on the nose that accentuated the nose
Method 3 of 4: Interacting with Others
Step 1. Ignore other people's ridicule
Many people feel insecure about the shape of their nose after others make fun of them. The best strategy for this is to ignore the teasing because he usually just wants to make you angry. Follow these steps to ignore ridicule:
- Try to be calm: Don't react to the ridicule. Keep facial expressions neutral and don't let your body show signs of aggression.
- Keep your mouth shut: Don't respond verbally, let alone say harsh words.
- Go: Leave the person. You can do it physically, by walking out the door, or you can do it mentally by turning around and doing another activity.
Step 2. Turn your attention to something else
You're wasting valuable brain power if you're too busy worrying about the shape of your nose. People will still like you regardless of the shape of your nose if you listen to them.
- One way to make sure the other person's attention doesn't go to your nose is to turn the subject on him. Everyone is proud of something, such as their job, family, church or faith. If you're worried that this person will notice the shape of your nose, listen carefully to the story to find out what they're proud of. When you figure it out, compliment it. If possible, you can use it as a non-offensive joke.
- Focusing on other people can be challenging. By practicing this, your focus will be on something else, instead of your nose. This way, you feel more positive and can become more likeable to others.
Method 4 of 4: Seeking Support
Step 1. Find a role model with a unique nose shape
Your nose does not determine success in life, but you can also try to find examples of successful people who have unique nose shapes. They can be your role models as you build your confidence. Some famous people with big and unique noses include: Barbra Streisand, Bette Midler, Andy Samberg, Sofia Coppola, Oprah Winfrey, and others.
Step 2. Tell a trusted friend
Try to get your best friend to talk about how you feel about your nose. Often times, when you put your anxiety into words to other people, you'll find that you're the only one who's really having a problem with it.
Step 3. Talk to a brother
Chances are there is someone in the family who has a nose like yours. Try sharing your worries with this person. Try asking him if he's ever lost confidence because of his nose. Try asking how he deals with it.
Step 4. Join a group that can help you deal with body anxiety
See if there is a group like this in your city where people who are not comfortable with their physical appearance gather and share their feelings about it.
Step 5. Talk to a mental health professional
If you're still having trouble accepting your appearance, you may want to see a mental health professional. This person can help you deal with your emotions regarding the shape of your nose. He can also offer strategies that you can use to accept the shape of your nose.
