Research has shown that the way people react to other people and the events they experience is strongly influenced by their own perceptions, not by other people or events. A negative attitude will negatively affect everything around you. By doing the following ways, you can prevent and change negative attitudes to become a person who always has a positive attitude.
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Method 1 of 2: Eliminate the Negatives
Step 1. Take responsibility for your thoughts and actions
The only person in control of your life is you and the negative situations or thoughts that arise are directly influenced by you. Try to eliminate negativity from your life and create positivity by taking responsibility for every action you take.
- Negative thoughts will form negative actions. You can make positive changes once you've made the decision to be positive.
- For example, if you fail to get a promotion at work, it's not because your boss doesn't like you, but because it may have something to do with your work performance. Instead of blaming your boss, invite him to discuss things you should do to improve the quality of your work and make changes.
Step 2. Write down the negative things in your life and start changing them
If you experience negative things in your daily life, admit it and work to change what you can control. Burn this note as a symbol of the loss of negativity from your life.
- Write down everything you think is negative and then determine what you can change. For example, you can change a negative relationship by breaking up or you can change a bad financial situation by saving.
- After thinking about how to change the negative influence in your life, burn the notebook as a symbol of the loss of the negative and then make a new list of the positive things in your life.
Step 3. Eliminate expectations
Negative things often arise because of expectations of themselves or others. In addition to helping you change your attitude, eliminating unrealistic or negative expectations can create a more positive atmosphere in your life.
- Accept the fact that nothing is perfect in this world. Imperfection will shape a person's character and eliminating expectations for perfection helps you focus on the positive side of the other person or situation you are in.
- When something bad happens, try to forget it and then imagine what happened to you. Likewise, if someone says something negative, think about it for a moment and then forget about it. Thinking about negative things only creates negative feelings.
Step 4. Forgive yourself and others
Holding grudges and thinking about imperfections will only form a negative attitude. The ability to forgive and forget mistakes helps you focus on the positives that you and others have.
Forgiveness is a way of removing negative attitudes and forming positive ones. In addition, forgiveness will also relieve stress, foster a sense of peace, and create peace in your life
Step 5. Limit or stay away from negative people in your daily life
The people around us have a big influence on our attitude. You can change your attitude by limiting or avoiding negative people.
If you can't stay away from someone or don't want to hurt their feelings, limit your contact with them. You can resist his negative attitude and outlook by pointing out the positive in his own words and actions. That way, you won't be dragged into his habit of being negative
Step 6. Respond to changes
Negative emotions often arise when change occurs and the best way to deal with change is to respond, not react. Make the decision to respond positively to every situation so that you can break the habit of being negative.
- You can't control every situation or person, but you can determine how you respond. Dealing with negative situations or people in a positive way gives you the ability to be positive and come up with a positive resolution in any situation.
- For example, if someone sends you an e-mail about something bad, don't react immediately. Draft a response to it and then wait 24 hours before submitting it. The next day, read the draft email again. Maybe you want to soften the strings so the situation doesn't escalate.
- If something bad happens, for example you lose your job, thank your employer for this opportunity and say “This experience was a moment of change to find something better that I really wanted.”
Step 7. Keep trying
It's normal and acceptable to think negatively every now and then, but don't dwell on negative thoughts. You can change a negative attitude by trying to direct your mind to positive things.
Method 2 of 2: Focusing on the Positive
Step 1. Look at the positive in everything
Negative thoughts and attitudes are very energy draining and will only get stronger if you give up. Your mindset will change to positive if you are able to see the positive side of every person or situation you are in.
- There is always a positive side, even in the worst of situations. Being able to see the positive in anything will help you avoid a negative attitude, although it may take some time for you to accept this perspective.
- A study shows that a positive attitude has a greater effect than knowledge and skills in determining a person's success.
Step 2. Write down all the things you are grateful for
Gratitude will form a positive attitude. Writing down all the things you are grateful for is a way to prevent negative thoughts from arising.
When negative feelings arise, reread the list of things you are grateful for to remind you to stay positive
Step 3. Say positive words
The words you choose greatly affect your attitude and emotions. The habit of saying positive words and statements in your daily life helps you stay positive and prevents negative attitudes from forming.
- Get in the habit of choosing positive sentences, such as "I'm always optimistic" or "I'm sure there must be a way out." These statements support you to always be positive and influence the people around you so that they feel positive too.
- Every morning when you wake up, give yourself positive affirmations to keep you feeling positive while doing activities throughout the day. For example, you might say to yourself, “Today is going to be a special day. I feel very happy and ready to do new things.”
- Write positive quotes and put them in a place that is easily visible. By reading notes that remind you of positive things, it will be easier for you to think positively and feel positive throughout the day.
Step 4. Make friends with positive people
Supportive people who have a positive mindset around you can encourage you to be positive. The habit of hanging out with positive people will eliminate negative attitudes and help you turn into a positive person.
Step 5. Help others
You can improve your attitude by being kind and helping others. Apart from improving your life, this method will distract you from your problems and make you feel more positive.
- You can volunteer at a hospital, nursing home, or charity. Realizing that you are healthy and able to support yourself is a way of living a meaningful life. In addition, you can make decisions to change the negative things in your daily life.
- By helping friends and family members, you can change negative habits because your help makes other people happy and so you feel good too.
- Giving and receiving love and support allows you to see life in a more positive light.
