Having a sibling can be a fun experience, but it can also be annoying and frustrating. Both brother and sister, sometimes you feel his presence actually makes your life miserable! Luckily, you can improve your interactions with them. You can communicate with him and other family members, distance yourself, and compromise.
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Method 1 of 3: Communicating with Siblings, Parents, and Other Family Members
Step 1. Ask why you are showing a certain attitude
The first and easiest thing to resolve a conflict with your sibling is to talk to him directly. Ask thoughtful and sincere questions about why it shows an attitude that you feel is problematic.
- Make sure he's in a good mood when you want to talk to him. When angry, he will usually ignore your questions. Some direct questions that can be asked include:
- "Why are you being so annoying lately?"
- "Is there anything I can do to get us back together?"
- "Is something bothering you and making you behave badly?"
Step 2. Stay calm and don't get angry
Your anger or rudeness actually provokes his emotions and prompts him to continue to annoy or annoy you. Take deep breaths as you try to speak to keep yourself calm. After that, re-evaluate the situation and talk to him when you are no longer angry.
Step 3. Show understanding
Respect your brother and the situation he is in, and try to put yourself in his shoes. Maybe he's jealous, angry for some reason, or just wants attention.
Step 4. Explain the situation to him from your point of view
Ask him to think about how he would feel if you treated him the way he treated you. That way, you can persuade him to empathize with your situation, and imagine how it would feel from your point of view.
Step 5. Speak directly and clearly
Explain how you're feeling directly without going over the edge, and ask him to stop his negative behavior. Tell her actions or behavior that bother you, regardless of whether she's your brother or sister. You can say:
- "Your behavior makes it difficult for me to complete my task. I care and love you, but your attitude is out of bounds."
- "You and your friends are making fun of me, and I can't take it. Your attitude hurts my feelings."
- "I don't like it when you take my things without permission. I'd be more than happy to share mine with you, but I don't want to lose them either."
Step 6. Seek advice from a parent or guardian if your relationship with your sibling is not going well
Your parents will certainly know your and your sibling's behavior and history, and can provide valuable advice on how to behave and why.
Step 7. Ask your parents to intervene
While no one likes or wants to be thought of as a “complainant”, there are situations where your parents may need to intervene and help you directly. They can discipline your brother or speak to him on your behalf.
Step 8. Have your parents chat with you and your sibling in a neutral conversation
If you can't change the situation by talking to your sibling, ask your parents to observe the conversation with your sibling to keep the situation calm and under control.
Step 9. Ask your friends for advice
Of course, many of your friends also have siblings and have experienced the same problem. Whether you have a brother or a sister, your friends usually have great advice and stories about how they can solve problems in the family.
Method 2 of 3: Setting the Distance
Step 1. Spend some time without your sibling
If your sibling annoys or bullies you to the point of frustration, take some time to be alone and distance yourself. By keeping your distance and seeking privacy, you can calm down, think about your feelings and opinions, and reassess the situation when you feel better. There are several things you can do to distance yourself from your sibling:
- Get into your bedroom or workspace and do your homework.
- Take a shower or bath
- Go and have fun with friends
- Join a specific club or activity group
- Visit the library to read a book or use the internet
Step 2. Ignore the bad behavior
Always avoiding problems with your sibling won't change his behavior, but actually ignoring him when he starts "acting out" can have a significant impact. Oftentimes, your sibling (and other people in general) is annoying or annoying because they want to get your attention. If you don't give him the attention he wants and ignore it, you could indicate that his attitude or behavior isn't working.
Step 3. Strive to maintain peace in your relationship with your sibling
If he often annoys and annoys you, count to ten and refrain from retaliating. Step away and calm yourself from the situation to ease your anger.
Step 4. Ask your parents to separate you from your sibling
As with suggestions or interventions, you can also ask your parents to separate you when things heat up. Thus, your brother's bad behavior can be stopped.
Method 3 of 3: Compromise
Step 1. Realize that your sibling may want something from you
Sometimes, when your sibling is "acting out," all he wants is time and attention. This is possible, especially if your sibling is younger than you. He may want you to read stories, play games, or just spend time with him.
Step 2. Feel free to defend yourself
If he upsets you, you can make it clear that you are disgusted by his behavior, as long as you express your feelings in a polite manner. By asking him to stop being annoying, you can better control the situation. You can also have the power to defend yourself later on. On the other hand, your sibling will learn that you too have limits to your patience.
Step 3. Explain that you need some alone time
Make your sibling understand that he needs to respect your time, whether it's for studying, having fun with friends, or working on a project or assignment.
Step 4. Set aside time to do activities with him
You don't have to spend a lot of time on your brother. Try to make time, several times for about 15 minutes a day to play or interact with him. Try playing football, chatting about daily activities, cooking, or playing with the toys that come with him.
Step 5. Spend a whole day with him
Ask him what he wants to do and spend the day adventuring with your sibling.
- Take him to the museum and see the exhibits.
- Watch sports matches with him.
- Go shopping and buy him something.
- Go to the cinema to see a movie, then find a restaurant to eat with.
Step 6. Make an offer
If simply reprimanding him doesn't keep your brother on his toes, try making an offer. Give him something he wants so that you can get the desired “peace” at home. You can invite him to compromise, such as:
- "If you can stop bugging me for a week, I'll do your homework for a week."
- "If you can just leave me alone while I do my homework, I'll take you out for ice cream after."
- "If you can stop bugging me, you can have as much fun home as you can when your friends come over on Friday."
Step 7. Realize that you may have annoyed him too
Think about whether you've been rude or annoying lately, or demanded a lot of things from him. You can do the same to him, as he did to you. Ask him if your attitude bothers him, and promise to break your bad habit if he manages to get rid of his bad attitude.
Tips
- Remember that fighting between siblings is normal. As with any relationship, you won't always have a perfect day or interaction. Try to consider this.
- Don't forget that you still love your brother. No matter how annoying your brother is, he is still your family and will always be there for you.
- Treat him the way you want to be treated.
- Remember that sometimes your sibling will say something hurtful, like “I hate you!”. However, those words came out probably because he was in a bad mood.
- If the argument heats up, stay away from him and try to be alone. Don't let yourself feel so depressed! Remember that he will always love you and give your presence when you are truly need it.
- Try to avoid situations that quickly escalate.
Warning
- If your sibling starts to be rude, immediately report the behavior to a parent or adult. Don't try to handle the situation on your own. If your parents (or other adults) aren't home, keep your distance so you can calm down.
- never ever commit physical violence. Although irritation can trigger anger, stay calm by taking deep breaths and moving away from the situation.
