Being a good boy is not easy. Sometimes, you make mistakes and don't know how to fix them. Other times, you disagree with your parents and don't know how to express their opinion without fighting. The most important thing to remember is that being a boy has its challenges, so does parenting, and the best thing you can do is show your parents love and support. In the end, your parents will be proud of you for watching their son grow up happily and become a responsible adult.
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Method 1 of 3: Show Your Love
Step 1. Spend your time with your parents
One of the things you can do to show your parents how much you love them is simply by spending time with them. Even though you may have activities between school, playing with friends and private life, you should always spend as much time with your family as possible. You can have dinner with them, play games together, watch TV or stay at home instead of traveling with your friends. You never know the time you spend with them means a lot to them.
- When you spend time with them, don't complain or take it as a necessity. Better, you look for special moments that you have together.
- Have regular evenings to spend together such as Sunday or Monday afternoons, so you don't have to assume it's part of your busy schedule.
Step 2. Tell your parents about what is happening in your life
Your parents love you and want to know what's going on in your life. Maybe they don't need to know about your friendship life or who you watch sports with, they may want to know what's on your mind, from your efforts in studies to the big problems you have with your friends. They really care, and even when they can't help it, they just want to know what's really going on. Your parents will be annoyed if they don't know about your life.
- Try to leave your bedroom door open, so greet your parents by having a conversation with you when they want. Don't let them assume you don't want to do anything with your parents.
- Don't be afraid to ask for advice. Believe it or not, your parents were once your age and have experienced the same thing that you are going through. They will be happy if you value their opinion, and you will learn a lot during the process.
Step 3. Be grateful
It is very easy for your parents to trust you. Furthermore, there comes a time when they do everything for you, from bathing you to taking care of your nutrition and keeping you sleep well. As you get older, it's natural for you to forget the things your parents did to take care of you, and you have to remember to be grateful for what they did. Whether it's by saying "thank you" every time your parents do something nice for you, writing a letter to thank them, calling them, or returning the favor they did, it's very important for you to show that you really love them.
- Don't think that writing letters or greeting cards to your parents is useless just because you live with them. They will love what you do.
- When you say “thank you,” look them in the eye to show that you mean it and not just thank you because you are obligated to do so.
Step 4. Teach your parents various things
Your parents may be less tech savvy and not very knowledgeable about things in the modern world. If your mom wants to know how her new iPhone works or your dad wants to set up a Facebook account, help them out how to operate the modern stuff. Try not to laugh at them or treat them as if they don't know it, you better help them to learn new skills, remember that they teach you things too.
- By teaching them, your relationship will become even closer. You may not want to study with them all the time, and spending time with them may be more interesting.
- Don't complain when you help them, show pleasure when you help them.
Step 5. Do activities together with your parents
In spending time with your parents at home, you can do something with your parents. Activities can be fishing, hiking or camping with your dad, or going for a walk, watching a movie or eating with your mom. Don't think that all son activities are done only with dad, make sure your activities are balanced with your mother, such as cooking, walking the dog together, or spending an afternoon at the shared library.
- Camp with the family several times a year.
- Spend time together by cooking.
- Do housework with your mom or dad, such as gluing tiles, polishing furniture, or building bookshelves.
- Look for television broadcasts, you and your parents can watch it together and make it your weekly routine.
- Volunteer for a park or library in your area with your parents.
- Watch your favorite sports team play with your mom or dad.
Step 6. Don't let your parents fight each other
If you want to be a good boy, then you have to keep the relationship between your parents strong (if your parents are still together). Relationships are quite difficult to maintain, you should not try to trigger a fight between parents. Follow your parents' rules as a unit, rather than looking for parents who let you do whatever you want. Keep their relationship strong; it can make you happy when you see your parents together.
If you say to your mother, "But dad said yes!" when your mother does not allow you to do something, then you will trigger a dispute between your parents
Step 7. Willing to listen
You may think that the relationship with your parents is limited to one-sided, and they should listen to you and your problems and give you input. In fact, sometimes your parents also need you to listen to them, when let's say they are struggling with one of their siblings or having problems with your grandparents. They may not even have a problem, it's just that they want to tell something dancing that happened at work or in something they read. The important thing is that you are there to listen rather than pretending to be listening and pretending to be too busy on your phone every five minutes. Give them the time they need to tell what's on their mind; they deserve it.
When your parents talk to you, give them your full attention. Don't stick your leg out or look casually through your bedroom. Don't make them think that you have more important things to do than talk to you
Method 2 of 3: Developing a Strong Character
Step 1. Help with homework without being asked
You may have a to-do list or you may have a desire that you should help your parents when they need it. Whatever the rules in your house, you must take the initiative and help your relatives before they tell you to. Whether it's doing the dishes, washing clothes, mowing the lawn, or picking up groceries, you must do it without coercion and without expecting anything in return, because it is one of your obligations as a boy.
The least you can do is clean yourself, be it washing clothes or dishes yourself or cleaning your own room. But after that, you have to help clean the bathroom floor, take out the trash or even clean the refrigerator
Step 2. Go to school as best you can
Your parents wouldn't expect you to be a rocket scientist or go to Harvard. However, they will be very happy if you respect your teacher, do your homework, and keep your grades up. If you need help at school, ask your teacher or parents for help, and make learning a priority over socializing. This will not only lead you to success in the future, but will also make life easier for your parents.
The best thing you can do is respect your educational institution instead of complaining about it all the time. Your parents will not force you to see the value of education
Step 3. Build your independence
As you grow older, you will find that you cannot depend on your family for anything. Your parents will appreciate you when you are independent and want to do things on your own - even so, of course they want to love and care for you. When you are 10-12 years old, you will start thinking about cleaning yourself, don't ask your parents for help with basic chores like washing clothes or dishes, start to think about yourself more. It can help you to build a strong character and make you a better boy.
- Your parents will appreciate you if you start learning things on your own, from making your own food to taking the initiative to clean things up. Your initiative will help you to do this.
- Don't be afraid to be different from your parents. They will not think that you are a clone of themselves.
Step 4. Be nice to you
One of the best things you can do to be a good son and brother is to be kind to your brother. It is not easy to get along with your sibling, be it brother or sister, but you should try to build relationships with those who are mutually supportive and non-competitive. It won't help you be a good role model for your sibling, but it will help your parents more than you know.
You can also be a good boy by helping them with their homework, cleaning or learning basic skills. This can give your parents more time to rest
Step 5. Know when to agree or not
As you grow up and develop your personality and ideals, you will find that you and your parents basically disagree on many things. Maybe your parents were Catholic when you tried to believe something else. Maybe your parents were conservative when you were a liberal. The most important thing to know is that you don't have to agree with what your parents believe, but you do have to know how to respectfully disagree rather than start a fight over every little difference you have.
If your parents want you to do something you don't want to do, like go to church, try to explain to them why you don't want to. Don't just refuse, but make an opinion calmly when you explain what you believe. If your parents don't budge, find ways to stay calm and avoid topics that could spark conflict
Step 6. Try to view your parents as human beings
As you get older, you have to start seeing your parents as people who are more than just “Mom” and “Dad.” They have busy lives, friendships, relationships with their own parents, careers they like or don't like, and at least one child to look after. Take a moment to reflect on how busy and overwhelmed parents' lives can be, and reflect on how difficult the situation they were in before you protested too much.
- It takes character to become a person. When you get into a fight with one of your parents, try to look at the situation from their point of view to see if that gives a better picture of why they disagree with you. This can help you strengthen your relationship and understand more deeply who your parents really are.
- To see them as people, you can also ask them about their friends, work, childhood or anything else that can shed light on who they really are.
Step 7. Apologize when you do something wrong
As an anal male, it's natural for you to make mistakes, and your parents don't expect perfection from you. However, they will think that you have to take responsibility for the mistakes that have been made, and the most important thing you can do is apologize when you make a mistake. If you do something wrong, no matter how big or small, it is very important that you sit down with your parents, look them in the eye and tell them that you made a mistake. It is also important for you to say that you will not do it again.
- Make sure they know what you mean, and you're not saying it just to make your parents not mad at you.
- If you upset one of your siblings, it's a good idea to apologize to them too.
Method 3 of 3: Be a good boy as an adult
Step 1. Communicate with your parents as often as possible
Whether you're out of the house, on campus, or living in another city due to work, it's very important that you keep in touch with your parents. Call them at least once a week, email them when you think of them, and make a schedule to come home for the holidays, long weekends, or as often as you can. They will appreciate the time you give them and will feel loved and cared for because of the effort you put into meeting them.
Remember anniversaries and birthdays. It is important that you send them a birthday card or gift on their anniversary or Mother's Day or Father's Day (if your family celebrates it). This shows them that they are still on your mind even though you are apart
Step 2. Be happy - and reassure your parents when you are unhappy
Research shows that parents are happiest when their adult children are happy. This doesn't mean you have to have a perfect life or have to grieve when disaster strikes you, but it does mean that you should strive to live a meaningful life. If all the time you complain about work, romance, or life situations to them, then they will feel like a failure by giving you a bad life. Speak to them the good things in your life and beautify the problems you are going through as much as possible, as long as you feel it is not a lie.
Know that your happiness is more important to your parents than if you earn a big salary, live in a luxurious environment, or date the most beautiful woman in your city. It's more important to them that you make the best of what you have, than to achieve some vague happiness
Step 3. Ask for and accept help when you need it
You would feel that your parents would be disappointed if you asked for financial help, or even emotional help as an adult, but research shows that parents are very happy to be able to help their children. They are happy when they can still help you and you shouldn't be ashamed to ask for their help. This can help your relationship grow closer and make you more mature.
While it's very important for you to become independent from your parents as you get older and develop your own view of your world and follow the chosen direction, you can still get help from them every now and then
Step 4. Don't try to teach your parents
As you get older, you may have a desire to tell your parents how to live. When they need help as they get older, especially if they have trouble taking care of themselves, you should still not make them feel powerless about themselves. Give them the help they need without talking or as if they had an intermediary, and they'll love you for it.
- Avoid demeaning themselves, being defiant, or commenting on something they did in their own way. Even if your way is faster or more efficient, they may want to stick with their old routine, and you can't fight it.
- Be patient with them. As they get older, they will take longer to do things than usual, but that doesn't mean you're frustrated.
Step 5. Treat your parents like any other older colleague
Another thing you can do to keep your relationship strong as you get older is to treat them as your old companions, rather than constantly thinking that they are in the “Mom” or “Dad” role. This can help you talk about topics like finance or parenting, and can encourage you to get some great advice. While don't look down on your parents when you think you need to look after them, treating them like any other old partner can help add a dynamic element to your relationship.
If you treat them as old comrades, you can be honest with them rather than just telling them what you think they want to hear from a common sense man. They will appreciate your directness
Tips
- Think before you speak! Every word that comes out of your mouth can affect them. (They are your parents) So be careful.
- Hugging your parents when they come home from work and when you wake up in the morning can help you to build a very strong bond.
- Help your parents everywhere. They will appreciate it!
- Know what they like. Everyone has their own hairstyle, feelings, hobbies, etc. If you want to be closer to your parents, you have to know everything they like and don't like.
- Remember that you can depend on your parents, so tell them what's bothering you so they can help.
- You have to let your parents know that you care about your family even if you really want to go out with friends.
- You can share something interesting or a joke with your parents at dinner.
Warning
- Never try to have power over your parents.
- Never curse your parents.
- If your parents are wrong, don't justify them outright.
- Never try to prove your parents wrong.
