Feel like you haven't been a good child to your parents? Don't worry too much, because in fact the attitude and behavior of a child to his parents can always be improved. Although the methods used and indirectly "agreed on" by each family are different, in general, you need to learn to show your love and appreciation to your parents. The trick is to listen to their words, help them whenever needed, and be a child who is able to take responsibility for all their words and actions. In addition, establish good, honest, and open communication with parents. Trust me, no matter how bad your relationship with your previous parents was, appreciating them is the best way to improve the relationship and show how important they are in your life.
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Method 1 of 3: Be a Responsible Child
Step 1. Help your parents at home
Do all your chores at home without having to be reminded by your parents. In addition, take on extra responsibilities such as helping to clean the living room and dining room after cleaning your room. Trust me, your help will be highly appreciated by your parents!
- Don't take shortcuts in doing household chores. That is, complete your tasks at home properly and thoroughly.
- Increase your sensitivity to do simple things that can ease your parents' work, such as cleaning the table after dinner.
Step 2. Help them to look after your sister
If you have younger siblings, help your parents to look after and care for them. If possible, try changing your sister's diaper, washing and filling her bottle, or helping her with homework. If you are old enough, offer to look after them at home while your parents are out of town or even out of town.
- If you can be left alone at home, chances are your parents will allow you to look after your younger sibling while they're out of the house.
- You could say, "Because after this I can start to be left alone at home, Mom and Dad you can go out to dinner or watch a movie at the cinema together while I take care of my sister at home."
Step 3. Listen to them
When your parents are giving you advice or simply sharing information with you, don't ignore them. Remember, their life experiences are far more than yours. Therefore, respect their knowledge and apply the advice they give you so you don't repeat the mistakes they made when you were your age.
For example, if they ask you to drive below the speed limit, make sure you always drive carefully. If they can't trust one of your friends, cut back on the time you spend with them
Step 4. Respect their decision
If your parents ask you to come home before 11 p.m., come home at 10:45. Always respect their rules while you still live in their house. Show that you want to respect them and won't ignore them.
Step 5. Finish your homework
If you are still in school, make sure all your homework is done on time or even before the deadline. Don't let your parents always remind you. If you need their help, don't hesitate to ask! Remember, most parents feel happy when their children need it, even though they are old.
Step 6. Be honest with them
If you make a mistake or run into trouble, don't be shy about telling them! Basically, you don't have to keep anything a secret from your parents. If there's a serious topic you want to share with them, invite them to sit down and discuss the topic. Be honest with them!
For example, if you fail at school, invite them to sit down together to listen to your problem and your plans for fixing it. If necessary, also ask for help and/or advice from them
Step 7. Define your vision and mission
Setting goals and working to achieve them can show your determination to your parents. Therefore, share your life goals with your parents and ask for their support as you progress towards the finish line. Show that you are capable of being independent and responsible for your goals. As a result, the relationship that exists between you and your parents will be even closer!
Step 8. Offer additional help
If your parents seem to be having a hard time getting things done, offer to help. For example, if your mom seems to be having a hard time lifting the grocery bag, ask her to sit down and lift the entire bag to take her place. If they are having financial difficulties, work part time so you don't have to ask them for pocket money anymore.
Step 9. Introduce your parents to your friends and their parents
Allow your parents to be involved in your personal life by introducing them to all your friends and their parents. Remember, parents have the right and need to know the people they spend most of their time with. So, don't hesitate to open that access.
- If you want to travel with your friends, don't forget to mention their names to your parents.
- Also introduce your boyfriend to them.
Method 2 of 3: Showing Love to Parents
Step 1. Always remember your parents' birthdays and important celebrations for them
All parents would love to have a child who can remember important dates in their lives, such as birthdays or other celebration dates. So try jotting down the dates that are important to your parents on your phone calendar or a special notebook, and when those dates come, give them a call or do something special to celebrate with them.
At these moments, invite them to dinner together, send a greeting card with a fun message, or give them a gift
Step 2. Send text messages and greeting cards expressing your affection
Periodically, send a text message that says “I love you” or “Have a nice Father/Mother's day, okay?” Even though it only takes a few seconds to type and send the message, trust that it means a lot to your parents. If you want, do this even after you no longer live with them.
Step 3. Buy or make a simple gift for them
If you can afford it, buy a gift like a new television or something as simple as a book your dad craves. Whatever gift you choose, your parents will see it as an expression of your love and care for them.
- Can't afford a gift? Try making it yourself! After all today, there are so many homemade gift ideas that are no less good than factory-made products.
- Ask if there is anything you can do for them.
Step 4. Express your gratitude
In fact, your expression of gratitude will mean much deeper than the gifts you give and the positive behavior you show them. Therefore, always remind them that you are very grateful for everything they have done, and continue to do, for you.
Say, “Thank you for being a special parent to me, okay? Mom and Dad are excellent role models for me, and I'm grateful to have parents like you."
Step 5. Spend time with them
At least take a few days a week to spend with your parents. The older you get, the greater their appreciation for the time you're willing to spend. For example, invite them to have a picnic in the city park, play bowling together, or just take a leisurely stroll in the evening.
Spend time with your father and mother alternately. For example, go out to dinner with your mom today, then go to the movies with your dad the next day
Step 6. Remember the good times with your parents
For example, take an album containing old photos of your family, then invite your parents to look through it together while relaxing in the afternoon or having dinner, and reminiscing about the good times you've had together. Take advantage of the moment to explain how important the moment is to you.
For example, you could say, “Wow, I remember our vacation at the beach that time, okay? I was so happy that time, especially when Dad was bitten by a crab, I couldn't stop laughing!”
Method 3 of 3: Being a Good Child to Parents when Growing Up
Step 1. Call your parents every week
If you're an adult and live separately from your parents, don't forget to check on them regularly, such as over the phone. At that moment, also tell the things that have just come into your life.
Sometimes, being busy makes it difficult for you to call your parents for a very long time. If that's the case, try sending them a short message saying how much you love them and that you're thinking about them. If you want, take advantage of the moment to schedule further communication via phone, Skype, or FaceTime
Step 2. Inform the major and important decisions in your life
Before making any big decisions, talk to your parents. Trust me, they will appreciate the time you take to ask for advice. Moreover, they are likely to be able to help you make the best decision!
- For example, inform decisions regarding the university you want to go to or the house you want to buy.
- Always share the latest information about your life with your parents. Don't just tell them big and important things. Instead, talk about trivial things like your work or college situation, the person you're currently dating, or the television shows and movies you've had a crush on recently.
Step 3. Visit your parents' house as often as possible
If you and they no longer live in the same house, remember to visit them as often as possible. At least visit them once a month just to have dinner or a movie together. If your parents are elderly, visit to help them clean the house or buy the necessities of life they need.
If you're married and have kids, don't forget to take your kids to see their grandparents at least a few times a year. If you want, you can also plan a vacation that involves all family members so that the relationship between your parents and their grandchildren can be even closer
Step 4. Always provide support for your parents
Just as you always needed their help and support as a child, so do they, especially as they get older. For example, accompany your parents when they have to perform surgery in the hospital. If they receive an award at work, be there to show your support. Remember, being a good child means being there whenever your parents need you.
Step 5. Arrange a vacation agenda with your parents
Don't just travel with friends or partner while on vacation! Remember, your parents will definitely be happy if they can vacation with their beloved children. Therefore, try planning a vacation with them, such as going to the beach or even staying in another city for a few days, if your schedule allows. Spend quality time with them and be the best child of those times!
Step 6. Take time to accompany your parents in activities they enjoy
Chances are, your parents have spent most of their lives watching cartoons or visiting amusement parks, even if they don't like those activities. Therefore, repay them when you are an adult. Even if you don't like visiting art museums, for example, as far as the activity can make your mother smile, don't hesitate to accompany her. Do you think bird watching is a boring activity? If your dad likes it, at least do it for him.
