Your friends are still flat-chested, while you seem to be entering puberty at breakneck speed. If you had to wear a bra at a very young age, there's no need to feel ashamed or insecure. Everyone has their own pace of development and they will eventually catch up with you. These are all natural processes that you have to go through in order to mature, but you don't have to face them alone. Share your feelings with your mom or aunt, ask friends for support, and learn what's going on with your body.
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Method 1 of 4: Wearing the Right Bra
Step 1. Measure your chest
Buying a bra of the right size will make you feel comfortable when it's time to put it on. Take a meter and measure yourself:
- Loop the tape measure around your ribs. Don't pull it too tight, the meter should fit snugly and not sag.
- Write down this measurement and convert it to inches. Round to the nearest number. Add 5 to this number. This is your chest measurement or bust circumference (size 32, 34, 36, etc.).
Step 2. Measure your bust
Wrap the tape measure around the breast, where it is most prominent. Again, don't pull the meter too tight. Instead, let the tape measure comfortably, but don't let it sag.
Write down this size. Round to the nearest number. This number will be used to calculate your bra cup size (AA, A, B, C, D, etc.) in the next step
Step 3. Calculate the cup size of your bra
The correct size of the bowl is very important so that you don't have to wear something that is too small so that the breasts cannot be fully accommodated and consequently overflow to the sides. Of course, you also don't want to wear something that is too big to make the bra uncomfortable. To calculate the bowl size, read the following explanation:
- AA: if the bust and bowl are the same size, you'll need an AA-sized bowl.
- A: if there is a difference of less than 2.5 cm between the bust and bowl sizes.
- B: if there is a difference of 2.5-6.25 cm between the bust and bowl sizes.
- C: if there is a difference of 6.25-8.75 cm between the bust and bowl sizes.
- D: if there is a difference of 8.75-11.5 cm between the bust and bowl sizes.
- DD: if there is a difference of 11.5-15 cm between the bust and bowl sizes.
- Over time, your first bra won't fit anymore. Every six months, take your measurements again to make sure you're wearing the right bra.
Step 4. Invite an adult you trust
Go bra shopping with an adult you trust, like your mom or aunt. They can give you honest feedback about how the bra will look when you put it on, and they may be able to buy you some.
Step 5. Try different types of bras
Bras can feel different when you try them on and when you wear them all day. Try different types of bras, such as sports bras, cami (tflap-shaped bras), and regular bras with bowls, to see which type of bra is most comfortable. Purchase a selection of bras and try them on when you get home. Which one is most comfortable for you?
- Try a sports bra, especially if your breasts tend to be small. Sports bras usually don't have separate bowls, they are usually more comfortable than regular bras.
- Try a bra with wire support if you have larger breasts. This type of bra can provide more adequate support.
- Try a tank top with a bra that blends inside. Get used to wearing a bra by choosing a tank top equipped with a bra on the inside. Your appearance will look like wearing a tank top. Wear a shirt or t-shirt over a tank top.
- Maybe it's not time for you to mess around with push-up bras (bras that have lift) or padded bras (bras that have extra padding). This type of bra usually makes your breasts appear bigger and can attract unwanted attention. However, a padded bra can shape the appearance of your breasts better.
Step 6. Wear a bra that is not shaded from the outside
Don't draw unnecessary attention to yourself with a bra that's shadowed from the outside. Forget dark bras when you wear a light colored shirt. Instead, wear a neutral colored bra.
- It's best not to wear a bra made of a material that's too thin, because your nipples can be seen clearly from under the clothes.
- Try wearing a shirt over a bra and see how it looks. Who knows, your bra is equipped with embellishments that might stick out from under the shirt and attract attention.
Method 2 of 4: Avoiding Fun or Shame
Step 1. Ignore all the jokes
You may be very upset if someone makes fun of you, especially if it's done in public. Just ignore it as much as you can. Sometimes people make fun of them because they want to know, or they don't understand what's going on, or maybe they're actually in a situation like yours.
- You can try to find a counter-comment that's emphatic to show how mature you are and how childish they are.
- If the banter continues for more than a day or two, talk to a teacher or an adult you trust. You don't deserve to be made fun of just because your body is growing.
- Show a calm demeanor when you talk to them. If you are defensive and angry, they may not take you seriously. If you are calm, you will be able to convey how you feel better and more seriously.
Step 2. Stop the kids playing with your bra straps
One of the worst - and most common - things kids do on a whim is snapping someone's bra straps. Boys are probably the most curious about bras and they want to figure out how to get your attention. But snapping the bra straps is an upsetting act and can even be painful.
- Tell them to stop touching your clothes. Explain that you don't like it and don't want it. If they don't stop, report it to a teacher or an adult you trust.
- If someone grabs your breast, instruct them to stop and report it immediately to a teacher or an adult you trust.
- If you feel threatened or unable to stop their behavior, you may be experiencing sexual harassment. It means someone's behavior that makes you insecure. To get more information about sexual harassment visit the following site.
Step 3. Go to a place that has privacy if you need to change clothes
While you don't really need to feel embarrassed about your body development and the bra you have to wear, it may be more comfortable if you change your clothes in a place that provides some privacy. If you're staying at a friend's house, you can change in the bathroom.
If you need to change clothes for gym class, you can do it in the bathroom cubicle, or try to change your clothes discreetly if you can. Choose a locker near your friend's. They are more likely to support you than to make fun of you. Turn around so your back is to the other girls in the dressing room. Look for tips on how to change clothes in the school locker room in other wikiHow articles
Step 4. Tuck the shirt into the pants while on the playing field
If you're rocking up and down at the monkey bar, your shirt may come off and reveal your bra. Tuck in your shirt to prevent embarrassing incidents or reveal the real situation.
Step 5. Use a sports bra during gym class
When you take exercise lessons, you may need extra support for your breasts. Otherwise, you will find yourself in an uncomfortable situation when running or jumping. Use a sports bra that is the right size for your workout and you will feel more comfortable.
Method 3 of 4: Handling Your Friends
Step 1. Tell your best friend about your situation
The best friend gets the title because of something. He wants to help you feel good about yourself. If something bothers you, talk to him about the concern. Your best friend will come to your aid if someone makes fun of you.
Step 2. Be a source of information for your friends
While you may feel inferior about having to wear a bra when your friends don't, they may want to know what will happen to their bodies. You can be a source of information for your friends by telling them how to buy bras, what types of bras are on the market, and what it's like to hit puberty.
Step 3. Support other girls
If you find other girls who also have to wear a bra at a very young age, support them. Take their side if someone is making fun of them. Help them find ways to talk to their mother or aunt. This step can lead you to new friendships.
Method 4 of 4: Learning about Your Body Development
Step 1. Talk to an adult you trust
Find an adult you can trust, such as your mother, aunt, or older sister, to discuss your concerns. Your body may be going through other changes, which you also want to discuss. You may find it helpful to talk to a woman with experience wearing bras, rather than talking to your dad. Start by expressing your desire to talk, and show a positive attitude about the conversation. Reassure them that there is nothing to worry about, and that you just want to ask them a few questions related to your body and the issues surrounding development into adulthood.
You can start the conversation with questions like, “When did you first wear a bra?”
Step 2. Ask for the conversation to be considered private
When talking to the person, ask him or her to keep the conversation private. Some parents or other adults may feel excited that you are starting puberty and growing into a woman. But this conversation has the potential to evoke feelings of embarrassment for you. Ask an adult you trust not to tell others about your growing situation.
Step 3. Ask for help dealing with issues with your sibling
If you have a nosy younger brother or sister, they may not realize that there are boundaries to follow. If you feel embarrassed about having to wear a bra, ask an adult you trust to make sure your siblings don't make fun of you. If you don't feel comfortable discussing this with your parents, an adult you can trust can say something on your behalf.
Step 4. Read a book about your development
Visit the library and borrow a book about puberty for teenage girls and find out more about what's going on with your body. You will find that breast growth is a very natural thing, even if it happens a little faster to you than to your friends.
- If you feel reluctant to borrow such a book from the library, ask your mother to buy a similar one.
- There are many good sites on the internet that contain information about puberty for teenage girls. These sites can provide answers to questions you may have about your body, including Tanyadok.com, Girls.co.id, KidsHealth.org, BeingGirl.com, and GirlsHealth.gov.
Step 5. Learn more about body image and media
Body image is the way a person views himself and the feelings he has about his body and personality. The images you see in commercials, movies, magazines, and TV can be misleading, and instill in your mind an image of a normal body that is not supposed to be when in reality every teenage girl and woman is different and no one body is perfect..
There are several websites that talk about body image and media worth checking out, such as MediaSmarts.ca and KidsHealth.org
Step 6. Visit your pediatrician
Talking about your body with your doctor may help. You can ask questions privately and the doctor will give honest answers without judging or making you feel inferior.
