Marriage is beautiful, but it takes hard work. Regardless of whether you are a newlywed or long-married, there are trials in every marriage. If you feel you need to improve the quality of your marriage, there are steps you can practice to make your wife happier every day.
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Method 1 of 2: Doing Things For Her
Step 1. Give him appreciation
Married couples will feel comfortable with each other. This makes them lose some of the intense connection that used to be the reason they got married. To prevent this from happening, show your appreciation for him every day. When he walks into the room, let him know that you are aware of his presence. Give a passionate kiss when you both wake up in the morning or when he comes home from work. Let your wife feel cared for and still feel the connection between the two of you.
Try to hug him too. A hug is a simple physical relationship that shows how much you love your wife and shows that you appreciate her presence
Step 2. Tell him that you love him
Something as simple as expressing love to your wife can make her happy. Everyday life is so busy that little things like this are often forgotten. You can say it every day, but make sure you say it sincerely. Look your wife in the eye before leaving for work and tell her how much you love her. Let him know that you are saying this out of a feeling, not out of habit. Deep down, he must know you love him, but hearing you say it with confidence will make him feel the same way.
Pair your expression of love with affectionate gestures, such as hugs, kisses, or caresses. Do this romantically, but not sexually. You want him to feel that you want him every day, just like the time before you were married
Step 3. Buy her a gift
Surprise your wife once in a while with a gift. There is no need to give elaborate or expensive gifts. You can give him a small gift that shows you care for him. Come home with a box of chocolates. Buy a bunch of flowers after work. Give him the book he's looking for online. Identify what he's up to and surprise him with the gift you bought him. Not only will your wife love the gift, but she will also be happy that you went to the trouble of buying it.
The gifts given do not have to be purchased. Whatever surprise you give him is bound to work. Surprise him by cooking his favorite food. Do the laundry because you know he doesn't like the job. You can even take the kids outside so they can spend time with their friends
Step 4. Say thank you
A marriage sometimes breaks down due to chatter like “I did this, so you have to do that.” Don't let your treatment of each other feel like a return to the favor for treating your partner. However, find time each day to thank your wife for everything she does. Say this in the morning while he is brewing coffee. Say thank you when he picks up the laundry after work while you're still busy in a meeting. No matter the time of day, let your wife know that you saw all the hard work for you.
Try to be grateful for simple things. Tell him “thank you for being who you are” or “thank you for being the best wife to me”. This will let him know that your gratitude doesn't just come from the things he does for you
Step 5. Make room for it
You were both single before getting married. Just because you two live together, doesn't mean you have to spend all of your time together. Give the wife time to write all day in the room if you want. Let him go to the gym alone. Give him the space he needs to do his own hobby. He will appreciate the time you give and feel happier.
Don't be offended if he wants to do something alone. Just because he wants to go to the bookstore alone, doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Give him the freedom to do the things he likes and do the same for yourself. If you are happy as an individual, you will feel happier as a couple
Step 6. Let him make his decision
There are many small decisions in everyday married life. This could be something as small as deciding what to eat for dinner. Ask him what he wants for dinner. Let him choose what movies to watch on date night. Give the television controller to him while sitting watching television at night. Play his favorite game on a special game night. Letting your wife know that her opinion matters and that you care enough to let her make the choice will make your wife happy.
Don't complain or show disappointment with the choice. This will only make him angry and see you as a bitch
Step 7. Write her a love letter
Writing a love letter can seem daunting, but it's a simple and effective way to please your wife. You don't need to have a talent for writing, just tell him how you feel. Let your wife know what things you like about her and how you feel about them. Tell him that you can't imagine life without him. Explain that you will not be perfect without his presence in your life. Mention simple things, such as saying that the way he laughs is the best sound in the world or how much you like his hair tickling you at night while you sleep.
Hide gifts in easy-to-find locations in the house. Put the gift in her makeup bag or under her pillow before you both go to bed. These gifts will be a pleasant surprise and keep him happy all day long
Method 2 of 2: Keeping Your Relationship
Step 1. Praise him in front of others
When you and your wife meet new people, introduce them in a flattering way. Use sentences such as, “Meet my beautiful wife” or “This is my half soul”. This will let him know how much his presence means to you. He will also realize that you want others to know how much you value him.
You can also do this in his absence. During your break at work, talk about your wife who is good at cooking or who just got a big promotion at work. He will be the star of your next office party and he will know how much you adore and love him. Plus, colleagues and friends will see how close you two are as a couple and treat you both better because of this
Step 2. Make a regular date schedule
The tradition of going on a date is often lost as a result of everyday life in the household. Make sure to have a regular schedule of dates with your wife every week. Do something that you both enjoy. Try something new on every date. Go to the movies. Go out to dinner and dance. This can be done simply, for example by getting rid of both of you. Turn off your phone and make it a special date night to spend time alone while expressing how much you both love each other. Your wife will be happy to get rid of other things to spend the night alone with you.
- If you have children, find a reliable nanny so you don't have to worry about them on a date. This will keep both of you fully focused on each other.
- There's no need to go on a date every week if you're both busy with work and family. Make sure there's not too long a gap between your dates and make this a routine. Don't just do it once in a while, then just forget about it.
Step 3. Take care of yourself
When you've been married for a long time, you may let a part of yourself go because you're comfortable with someone else. Show your wife your love by showing the best. Don't just dress up for special occasions. Try to look good for him at home. Wear nice jeans along with a clean shirt to dinner instead of sweatpants. This will make him feel special and happy at the same time.
Step 4. Offer to help
Ask your wife what you can do for her. Even if it's just doing the dishes at night or picking up the kids from school, ask him what you can do to make his job easier. Put the shopping cart back when finished shopping at the supermarket, Offer to take the child for a walk when he has to give a presentation at work. This can be done as simply as possible by asking if you lighten the load by being by his side.
- Don't wait for him to tell you to do something. If you see a pile of dirty dishes, there's no need to ask permission. Just wash everything until clean.
- Make sure you do this regularly. Doing this once in a while is fine, but making it a habit will make your wife happier every day.
Step 5. Make your wife the first to get the news
When something happens, tell your wife first. Let him know that he is the most important person in your life. If you get a promotion at work, don't call your friends to show off. Wait until you get home from work and tell your wife about it. After that, you can tell everyone. The wife will know that she is valuable to you and this will make her happy.
Step 6. Listen to your wife
When your wife talks about her problems, listen to what she has to say. Don't interrupt, show anger, or say that you can fix the problem. If he tells that someone took advantage of him from his work at the office, there is no need to be angry because of the injustice. You will stop listening to him and take the opportunity to get annoyed. Let him get angry and show you his frustration, so that his frustration is conveyed.
- Let him know you're listening by nodding when he's complaining. Your presence to support him is what he wants and this will make him happy.
- Keep your answers simple and sincere. You could say something like, “That sucks, honey. I understand your feeling." This will let him know that you understand how serious the situation is.
Step 7. Show affection in public
Some romantic things can disappear from a relationship when you get married. Bring back some simple forms of intimacy. Hold her hand when walking outside. Embrace him at dinner. Give an intimate kiss while waiting for your turn to cross the road. Affectionate things like this will let him know how much he means to you. He'll also know that you want everyone to see your love for each other.
Keep your intimacy simple and appropriate. You don't have to kiss him lustfully in a restaurant. Make sure what you do is fun for both of you
Step 8. Do what he wants in bed
Sexual relations are an important aspect of a strong married life. Don't fall into the routine of having sex at the same time and place every week. Getting married gives you space to explore and find out what exactly he needs from you to satisfy his desires. Ask the wife what she wants in bed. Try something new every now and then to make her happier.
As often as possible say that you enjoy having sex with him. Let him know that sex with him is the best in your life
Step 9. Build intimacy and desire outside the bed
While sex is very important, there are many ways to show desire and intimacy outside of the bed. Simple things like asking her for advice on issues that occur at work will bring intimacy in your relationship. Show your passion by hugging and kissing him while washing. Cuddle him on the couch while the two of you are reading a book or listening to music. The closer the two of you are, the happier your wife will be.
- Take time each day to interact with your wife. This can be done by drinking a cup of coffee or tea together in the morning while discussing your plans for the day. This activity can also be done after dinner while you talk about what happened that day. Make sure you interact with him every day to let him know that you care.
- Desire and intimacy are different for each partner. Find out what your wife likes. Find a time when you feel connected to him. Talk about what he wants and needs from you to feel closer.
Step 10. Talk to him
Silencing your wife will make her feel distant from you. Talk about the contents of your day. Be honest and open about your feelings every day. Tell him if you feel insecure or upset about something. Let him know if he accidentally hurt your feelings or made you happy. The more honest you are with him, the closer and happier you will be as a couple.
