Everyone wants to love better. For many people, especially men, the inability to offer a partner a long-lasting sexual experience is a source of worry and even stress. However, avoiding premature ejaculation in men and lack of sexual stamina in each young partner can be made easier with proper bedroom techniques and lifestyle changes. Here are some steps to help up your bedroom game and ensure satisfaction for you and your partner.
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Method 1 of 3: In the Bedroom
Step 1. Take it easy
Sex doesn't have to be like Fast and Furious. Keep your movements slow and steady and allow stimulation to build up gradually. Instead of being pushy, tease and stimulate your partner by holding back and changing the angle, speed, and depth of penetration. When you're both ready, you can speed up together to reach an explosive climax.
One variation is called the "7 and 9" technique: keep you (and possibly your partner) aroused without climaxing by alternating between seven fast and nine slow movements
Step 2. Vary
One of the best ways to maintain energy, prevent cramps and avoid premature ejaculation is to change position, pace and action more often. When you feel you are approaching orgasm, move to a new position or stop to give your partner manual or oral pleasure. Along with helping you last longer, this will give you a more interesting and varied sexual experience.
Step 3. Take a break
If you feel yourself approaching your climax, or running out of energy, pause for a few minutes. You can use this time to enjoy foreplay, whisper sensual words, or change positions to stimulate your partner manually or orally. Once you've had a chance to cool off, jump back into the next round of sex.
Step 4. Focus on foreplay
Penetrating sex is not the most important factor in sex. You can give your partner a longer experience by holding off on some great foreplay. Kissing, touching, chatting, and using toys or restraints can make for a great and memorable sex experience. Give your partner plenty of oral and manual stimulation to get them ahead of you-or even make them climax one or more times before penetration. If you take advantage of some or all of the activity in your sexual toolbox, a few minutes of intercourse may be all that your partner needs-or wants-want to feel gratified.
Step 5. Use thicker protection
While some argue that there is little difference between condoms, many men and women admit that using a thicker condom can reduce sensitivity and allow them to hold on to orgasm longer. Using lubricants along with condoms has also been shown to help men last longer.
Step 6. Try a cream to reduce sensitivity
Many sex shops and sexual health retailers sell creams that can be applied to the penis to numb sensations during sex, thereby allowing men to hold climax longer. Of course quitting on chemical creams isn't the sexiest thing you can do in bed, so this method is best kept for a comfortable, committed sexual relationship.
Look for a cream that absorbs into the skin to prevent your partner from numbing it
Method 2 of 3: In Your Life
Step 1. Eat right
Lack of sexual stamina, in both men and women, can be a symptom of a bigger problem with your health and diet. To have a great sex life, eat a healthy diet and maintain an ideal weight.
Avoid foods that are high in saturated fat and cholesterol, as these can clog your arteries and slow blood flow. Good blood flow is important to have the best sexual experience
Step 2. Exercise
Good sex can be exhausting hard work! Like any other physical activity, your stamina in bed can be increased by staying healthy. Do 30 minutes of aerobic exercise at least five times a week, plus weight training twice a week. Regular exercise, especially aerobics, will keep you healthy, increase blood flow and give you the energy to have a great sex. In addition, exercise can improve your body image and make you a more confident lover.
Step 3. Get away from stress
Stress can make it difficult for you to stay focused, aroused and happy during sex - and it can block the blood flow necessary for healthy sex. To increase stamina and enjoyment, both men and women should reduce stress in their lives-or at least learn to leave it outside the bedroom.
Step 4. Practice
Like any other activity, practice leads to perfection. Have more frequent sex with your partner using the techniques above and immediately your stamina and control over your orgasm will increase and feel more natural.
- Masturbation is also a good way to train yourself to control your climax. Practice until you're close to orgasm, but stop just before. Repeat several times before you are done. This will help you learn to pay attention to when you're at your climax, and to control yourself when you get there. You don't have to do this every time you masturbate, but occasionally challenging yourself to see how long you can last can be fun and helpful.
- However, masturbating too often in the same way can train your body to react only to certain types of stimuli-which can trigger problems when you "want" to climax during sex. Be sure to vary your routine: changing hands, applying lubricant, trying sex toys, and exploring all kinds of mental and visual stimuli.
Method 3 of 3: In Your Head
Step 1. Don't worry
One of the common causes of premature ejaculation in men is worry and anxiety about the quality of their performance. The best way is to relax and focus on enjoying your closeness with your partner. Remember that sex is about intimacy as well as fun, and great sex comes down to chemistry more than stamina or skill. If you're feeling depressed or "doubtful," take a deep breath and take some time to reconnect with your partner.
Step 2. Think about something else
The classic way that men, and some women, use to control the timing of their orgasms is to concentrate on light topics during sex. Forget for a moment the pleasure you will receive, and try to solve basic math problems in your head until you are ready to climax.
- Avoid thinking about topics or images that stress you out or turn off your passions. This can deprive you of sex drive, and not let you prolong it. Think about something more abstract, like visualizing geometric shapes or remembering the lyrics to a favorite song.
- Don't prolong your stamina at the expense of your connection with your partner. Long sex can be boring for both of you if you spend all the time with your thoughts in the clouds. Don't overuse this technique and focus on connecting and being active with your partner.
