Starting to have menstruation is an important thing that marks the growth of a girl into a woman. Menstruation is experienced by all women, so you don't have to feel ashamed if you experience it. It is important for you to let your father know that you have started having your period, because you may need his help in getting supplies or medical assistance. Telling your dad about it may be scary, uncomfortable, or even intimidating, but you should tell your dad about it, especially if he's your only living parent.
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Method 1 of 2: Telling Dad Directly
Step 1. Find a good time to talk to dad in private
You should know his schedule well enough so that you know when he will be home from work and have some free time to talk to you.
- Ask him if you can talk about something important, such as "Dad, I want to discuss something important after dinner, can you?"
- If he says that the time is not right, ask him about when he has time to talk with you for a few minutes.
Step 2. Remember that you know about the menstrual cycle
Even if your mom isn't around now, your dad should understand the basics of the menstrual cycle.
- He might as well learn it in school first.
- He may also have knowledge of menstruation when he lived with his mother, sister or aunt, as well as other women in your family, such as your mother or sister.
Step 3. Prepare what you want to say to him
If you are her first daughter, she may not have guessed that you have started having periods. It's best if you don't tell the news out of the blue, as this will only make the conversation awkward. Make your point clear, but make sure that you do it in a relaxed manner.
- "Dad, I want to tell you about the changes that have occurred in my life. I'm starting to have my period".
- "Dad, I want to tell you honestly about what happened to me. You should know that I have started having my period."
- "I don't want this conversation to get too awkward, but I've started having my period."
- "I know this might be a little uncomfortable to talk about, but my monthly cycle has started."
Step 4. Prepare a plan to ask dad for help in getting the things you need, if necessary
If your mother is away, for whatever reason, it is your father who is responsible for taking care of your needs.
- "Can you take me to the store to buy feminine products?"
- "May I ask for money to buy a sanitary pad?"
- "Can you buy some pads for me when you go to the store later?"
- "I have cramps during my period, I think I need some pain reliever, dad."
- "My head hurts, and I need painkillers to deal with it."
Step 5. Make sure that you stay calm
It may feel scary and scary, but if you stay calm, your dad will calm down too.
- Take a deep breath and focus.
- Don't make your dad think that something bad has happened. Having your period is natural, so don't scare your dad into thinking you're sick or injured.
Step 6. Tell dad when you have time to chat with him
When you get time to sit down with him and tell him what you're going through, it's important that you keep the news clear and complete.
- Don't feel embarrassed or awkward. He will also feel awkward and embarrassed if you do, making the situation uncomfortable for you and your father. Instead, try to tell him confidently.
- The conversation need not go on at length. Simply tell him what he needs to know, ask for the help you need, then end the conversation.
Step 7. Suggest to use a specific code to convey that you are having your period
That way, you can say that you're having your period more comfortable and funnier.
- "Red Cross"
- “Monthly Guest”
- “Red waves/red sea”
- “M wave”
- "My little friend"
Step 8. Thank your dad for supporting and caring for you
Your dad will always want the best for you, and he will want you to stay healthy and happy.
- "Thank you for understanding and supporting me, father".
- "I thank you for taking the time to talk about this."
- "Father, thank you for being by my side".
Method 2 of 2: Telling Dad via Notes
Step 1. Remember that your father knows about the menstrual cycle
It doesn't matter whether your mother is with you or not, it is certain that a father understands about menstruation.
- Maybe he learned it at school.
- It is also possible that he got knowledge about menstruation from the women in his life, for example his mother, sister, aunt, and others.
Step 2. Write a draft of what you want to tell him
Some people find it easier to communicate through writing than speaking in person, so take advantage of that. Write an outline of what you want to convey.
- "Dad, I've started having my period."
- "My life has changed recently, and that's because I started having my period."
- "I don't feel comfortable saying it in person, and it just feels easier for me."
- "I'm afraid I'll feel awkward if I tell you directly, father".
- "I need feminine products, can we go to the store?"
- "May I ask for money to buy a pad, dad?"
- "I need painkillers to deal with the cramps I'm feeling."
Step 3. Suggest to use a specific code to convey that you are having your period
That way, you can say that you're having your period more comfortably and funnierly
- "Red Cross"
- “Monthly Guest”
- “Red waves/red sea”
- “M wave”
Step 4. Thank him for supporting and caring for you
He wants to help you, and he also wants what's best for you.
- "Thank you for understanding and supporting me, father".
- "I'm glad that I finally found a way to tell papa this."
- "Father, thank you for always being by my side".
Step 5. Find stationery or small notepad
You don't have to write a long letter to say that you're starting to get your period. Keep it short and direct, and use an appropriately sized paper to do so.
Step 6. Write a note to dad
Make sure that you tell him what happened and what you need from him, as planned in Step 2.
- Use clear, legible handwriting so dad can understand the content of your letter.
- Begin the note with a greeting such as "My dear daddy" or "Hi, papa."
- End the note with a closing word like "Lovely, Susie" or "Thank you, daddy."
Step 7. Put the note in the envelope, then close it tightly
If you are using small notebook paper to deliver it, there may be a special envelope for that paper. If not, you can fold the note and then put it in a mailing envelope.
- You can seal the envelope tightly by licking it, using an envelope humidifier, or a damp sponge.
- On the front of the envelope, write that the letter is for your father, for example with the words "Papa", "Dad", or "Papa".
Step 8. Leave a note where he can find it
Consider leaving it in a room where your dad goes often or near something he uses frequently, such as his suitcase or laptop bag.
- Don't leave notes in public, because someone else may take the letter.
- Leave notes where they will be seen, such as near a device they use frequently, in their suitcase, or on their desk.
Step 9. Ask him to confirm if he reads your notes
If dad doesn't ask you about the note you left, it's best if you ask him if he read it after about a day or so. (Make sure that you ask him directly). That way, you can be sure if he knows that you've started having your period and can help you buy necessities.
Make sure that you are confident when asking questions. Ask "Did you get a note from me?", and make sure you tell him when you need to go to the store to buy necessities
Tips
- Choose the way that is most comfortable for you and the relationship between you and him.
- Do not be afraid. He's your dad, even if it's a little awkward, he's still your dad and you have to tell him!
