Have you ever realized that there are fun things that you can get from daily activities? Maybe you want to be closer to the people around you. While you may not be the center of attention at every event, you will be able to forge more enjoyable relationships with other people in a variety of activities. Start by finding what you love and doing it in your daily life. Take the following steps so that you can become a more pleasant person.
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Part 1 of 4: Knowing Yourself
Step 1. Write down all the skills and things you enjoy
Decide what "fun" means to you. What feels good is not always the same for everyone. Try to find what you like so that you seem more pleasant when interacting with other people. Find things you are good at and hone your skills. It's easier than trying to force yourself to learn something you don't like.
- Think of a personality and activity that you really enjoy. What do you find pleasing about yourself or others?
- It's easier to talk about a topic you're passionate about than pretending to be interested in discussing other people's lives just to make them happy.
Step 2. Think about what “fun” means to other people
Your skills and those of those around you will determine what “fun” means and how to achieve it. For example, for a great musician who enjoys making friends with music fans, "fun" could mean developing musical knowledge and playing skills. On the other hand, if you're a sports or car enthusiast, those aspects may not really matter so you can become a more pleasant person.
Don't try to adapt the conversation to just please the other person. You can't be a nice person by talking about things you don't like. Be as you are so that you can become a more pleasant person
Step 3. Accept your uniqueness
Realize that you have become a pleasant person. You can become a more pleasant person to others by showing your unique strengths.
Even though it may seem contradictory at first, trying to be yourself is the best way to make yourself seem totally comfortable. It makes other people feel comfortable around you
Part 2 of 4: Expanding Insights
Step 1. Do new activities to expand your comfort zone
Explore new activities you might enjoy. Leave the daily routine to expand your comfort zone. Take on new activities so you can enjoy more fun, make new friends, and feel more adventurous.
Volunteer for a nonprofit, do a sport you've never tried, or try a new hobby. Choose and do activities you've never done
Step 2. Develop your personality by doing concrete activities
Your desire to be a more likable person could mean being a braver or kinder person. However, this trait is difficult for you to have without a specific plan. Do concrete activities or develop your skills, instead of just developing one aspect of your personality.
For example, instead of trying to convince yourself that you need to be more courageous, you should participate in activities that cause some degree of fear when you think about them. For example, take up rock climbing if you have a fear of heights or go to the zoo if you have a fear of animals. Forcing yourself to leave your comfort zone makes you feel more comfortable participating in activities that are fun for you and for others
Step 3. Meet new people
You will find it easier to be in fun situations and activities by expanding your social network. Make new friends by asking questions about their lives.
For example, after starting a conversation, it turns out that this person is good at bookkeeping, an activity you've always wanted to learn
Step 4. Travel as often as possible
Seeing life in other countries enables you to understand the differences between people of different backgrounds and ethnicities. Other people will feel more comfortable around you if you are able to be sensitive to the differences that affect the two of you.
- This will give you a better understanding of what is considered fun in other countries.
- Make special vacation plans. Go to exotic places and do new activities, such as adventure, skateboarding, mountain climbing, or jungle safaris.
Step 5. Get into the habit of reading
Read a book on a fun topic, such as making unique cocktails, exotic vacation spots, or how to be a good lover. The topic will give you plenty of material to start a conversation with.
Part 3 of 4: Interacting with Others
Step 1. Learn how to get to know people through their interests
You need to learn how to get to know other people, even if you're not interested in the topic at hand. Conversation is a process of reciprocal negotiation with other people who can discuss any topic. In this case, openness is needed so that you can be a pleasant person. Ask questions to show that you are interested in the ongoing conversation. This will make it easier for you to find things to talk about and more things to ask.
- For example, after learning that you have just met a bookkeeper, ask the question, “I really want to learn bookkeeping. How can I get started?” You give the other person the opportunity to share their experience through the question, a fun thing that many people enjoy.
- If you're chatting with someone about their job, ask the question, "Have you always wanted to be a journalist?" or, “Which journalist do you admire the most?”
Step 2. Make friends with fun people
Look for people with skills and interests that you admire. Prioritize time to hang out with them because the people you meet often greatly influence the development of your personality and interests. The environmental community to the community in your country has a very clear impact on your life. Paying attention to pleasant people can be a great way to achieve what you want.
Step 3. Be a smile and laugh a lot
Research has shown that smiling triggers the release of brain chemicals that make you feel more comfortable, even when you're not happy. By smiling, you make other people feel comfortable too. In addition, smiling and laughing has been shown to reduce symptoms of mild depression and anxiety.
If you want to be a more fun person, but don't know where to start, find an atmosphere that makes it easier for you to smile and laugh
Step 4. Learn to ignore criticism or insults
Everyone has interests and ways of behaving in daily life. Making yourself liked by everyone is impossible because there will always be people who find you unpleasant or even dislike you. Accepting yourself as you are makes you seem more pleasant to people who are able to appreciate you as a unique person.
- Let others do some self-introspection. Say to yourself, "This person may be in trouble." then say something nice to him. This can be a reminder that he has been rude to other people.
- You can exaggerate his demeaning attitude by joking. For example, if someone says, "A lot of people are already skiing faster than you," respond by saying, "I just want to learn to walk straight up for now, so I think my speed is good enough."
Part 4 of 4: Be a Good Talker
Step 1. Work on knowing what the other person wants to hear
In addition to talking about yourself, being a more pleasant person also means showing interest in other people. Talk about her child or her recent vacation. Be a pleasant person to talk to so that he feels comfortable in your presence.
Step 2. Ask questions
Don't let the conversation end because you don't seem interested. Try to keep the conversation going by asking questions. This way shows that you listen and care about what he has to say.
Ask open-ended questions during the conversation. This question invites the other person to talk more, not just answering a question with a "yes" or "no"
Step 3. Be a good storyteller
A person is considered pleasant usually because he is pleasant to listen to. Whatever the topic, he can tell a good story, tell funny little things, engage the audience, and stay on topic.
A great story that you're telling others has certain elements like those in a book or movie, such as the characters' characters, relevant details, conflicts, turning points, and even, surprising endings. Even if it's just a short story, try to make it fun for the listeners
Step 4. Be an active listener
Oftentimes, you can become a more agreeable person simply by letting others have their say without interrupting or giving moral judgments. This sounds easy, but it's hard to do, especially if you want to state exactly what you're thinking without stopping to think. Being an active listener means listening to what other people have to say without imposing your own ideas and thoughts during the conversation.
- Active listening also means paying attention to what the other person is saying without thinking about what you want to say. If someone invites you to chat, allow them to finish while paying close attention to what they have to say.
- Watch for changes in facial expression or tone of voice. In order to listen well, you must pay attention to the nonverbal aspects of what is being said.
- People tend to prefer someone who is willing to give them a chance to say what they think.
Step 5. Use reassuring body language
Maintain your posture to show confidence by trying to straighten your back, straighten your shoulders, and lift your chin. To be more expressive, you can use hand signals instead of putting them in your pocket.
When talking to other people, give your full attention with confident body language, by standing in front of each other and making eye contact. If there are a lot of distractions where you're chatting, try to focus on the person you're talking to
Tips
- Explore your interests and fashion style. Using bright and unique colors makes you stand out and make you seem like a more pleasant person.
- Study something interesting or unique, such as outer space. Sharing simple facts in a conversation can add to the fun and make you more interesting.
