Everyone wants to hang out with fun people. No one wants to be considered "boring". It's just that some of us need a little help in this matter. Being a fun person to hang out with starts with having healthy self-confidence, an adventurous spirit, and a sympathetic personality. All of these things can make you an ideal person to hang out with.
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Method 1 of 3: Developing a Pleasant Trait
Step 1. Try to be confident
Have healthy self-confidence. Before you start trying to be fun, you have to believe that you can be fun. There's nothing wrong with believing in yourself, and it's something people like, not dislike. In addition, most people who are confident also still have things that make them feel inferior.
- There are many ways to build self-confidence. Try making a list of your strengths and accomplishments. People often focus on their failures rather than their successes. Try to remind yourself why other people should find you nice.
- Try to identify and get rid of negative views about yourself. If you view yourself negatively, others will do the same.
- It is important to know what your weaknesses are and try to improve them.
- Don't be overconfident. People who have high egos are not fun. Also, don't be arrogant. People don't like arrogant people.
Step 2. Be willing to open
If you close yourself off, other people can't recognize you. If they can't get to know you, they won't think you're fun either. Try to learn to open up.
Be a "connected" figure. People want to hang out with people who share their aspirations and anxieties. Share your aspirations and concerns with others. Talk about your life goals, family, other friends, your love of dogs, anything you can talk about. Everyone has the same goals or thoughts. If you're willing to give it a try, chances are you can find something in common with anyone
Step 3. Be spontaneous
Don't be afraid to take chances. Think about the nice people you know. These people usually don't miss an opportunity.
This will be difficult at first and you will need practice for it. But the more often you do it, the sooner it will become a part of you. Try not to think too much, even if other people say otherwise. Don't overanalyze and don't spend a lot of time thinking about how things went badly, what other people would say if they were in your position, or how you might best respond to what others would say
Step 4. Try to be open minded
Open yourself up to new experiences and different opinions.
- Try new things. These things can be spontaneous or pre-planned. If your friend wants to go to a concert but you don't like the band playing, try to go anyway. Try to be open to new experiences even if they don't suit your taste. You can definitely find a way to have fun.
- Everyone has the right to have their own opinion. You can still have fun with other people even if you don't agree with their political or religious views. Find something you both have and use it in conversation. If you know your friend has a controversial opinion on a topic, avoid the topic.
Method 2 of 3: Be a Fun Person to Talk to
Step 1. Show interest
The most important thing to remember when having a conversation is that a conversation is a dialogue, not a monologue. Listen to the other person's words and show sympathy. If the other person feels they can talk to you about anything, they'll be more likely to ask you out. Don't monopolize the conversation. If you ignore other people or talk about yourself all the time, he won't even ask you to see him again.
- Ask questions. This is a great way to keep the conversation going. It also shows the other person that you are trying to understand the story or the problem.
- Provide advice if needed or requested. Some people just want someone to listen to the story. These people just need to make a fuss. Try to be someone who will listen. Give advice based on personal experience.
Step 2. Try to be positive
Focus on the positive aspects of your life, what excites you or what you want to do. Indeed, when we are sad, we want someone to accompany us. But if you are always sad or gloomy, other people will feel reluctant to hang out with you.
- If you find yourself saying something negative, try to balance things out by making two positive comments.
- Try to encourage the people around you. Your attitude will show them that you are a sympathetic person and they will get the impression that you are a nice and fun person.
- Being positive is the goal and the instructions you must follow. By trying to be positive, your mood will be affected and so will your quality of life. If you're having a bad day, you can discuss it with those around you, but don't get caught up in this. Try to think positively that things will get better. By being positive, stress levels, depression levels and even blood pressure will be reduced.
Step 3. Have positive body language
Your body should match your personality. You can try to be cool, say nice things, and appear confident, but if your body language suggests otherwise, people may not want to hang out with you.
- Give open body language. Don't cover yourself up by crossing your arms or bending over. It's a good idea to make your body language let others know that you welcome them warmly.
- Lean your body forward. Psychologists explain that leaning forward during a conversation shows interest. People will think you're more fun if you show interest in what they have to say. Try leaning slightly forward toward the table while your friend is talking to you.
- Make eye contact. This is a great way to let someone know that you are listening to what they are saying.
- Don't overdo this body language principle. By exposing yourself too much (such as walking around with your arms and legs spread out as wide as possible), leaning too forward, and making constant eye contact, other people can feel shy too.
Step 4. Tell a joke
Try to be confident with your sense of humor. Accept all the bad jokes and the good ones. If your joke isn't met with laughter, continue the conversation. Don't make it feel awkward.
- Don't be afraid to crack a silly joke. Express something with facial expressions if it fits the context of the conversation. Try imitating someone you and your friends know, maybe a teacher or a coworker. Try taking funny references from popular movies or television series.
- Don't be afraid to look stupid if you feel comfortable. You can dance silly, pretend like you're the best dancer in the world. Wear silly clothes or T-shirts with silly writing.
Step 5. Smile and laugh
Even if you don't feel like doing it, your smile shows that you are approachable, have a positive attitude, and are friendly. Trying to look fun is only half the battle and it's not really a struggle once you get used to it because you'll immediately smile reflexively and become an attractive person.:)
Of course, don't overdo it and become an annoying person. You definitely don't want to make other people feel uncomfortable
Method 3 of 3: Have Fun Interests
Step 1. Learn how to "hang out"
Hanging out can mean different things to different people. Some people just like to sit back, watch television, play games, or just chat. While for others, hanging out can mean doing interesting activities outside the home. Find out what your friends or potential friends like to do while hanging out and tailor your interests to theirs.
Step 2. Follow the popular culture
At least, know what is currently popular. Once you have a solid foundation in place, you'll be able to follow along and contribute to a wide variety of conversations.
Don't be tempted to over-critique popular culture. Observe the existing situation. Don't be the only person who constantly scoffs at the topic of popular culture. You're welcome to have an opinion, but make sure it doesn't offend or upset other people
Step 3. Develop a variety of interests
If you have an interesting interest or skill, other people will approach you if they share the same interests. Find out what interests you, then emphasize those aspects of your personality. Try to limit the available options. What is considered cool by one person may be considered strange by another.
- Don't be afraid to learn to do physical activity. You can learn juggling games, learn gymnastics, play sports games, or dance. You can invite other people to do this with you once you've developed their skills. And they will admire you too. Apart from that you will have a topic of conversation with them.
- Learn something new that excites you. You've already found the wikiHow site, so this shouldn't be hard to do. You could learn a new language, learn how to make Italian food from scratch, figure out what it takes to become a good stand-up comedian, how to write fiction, or how to identify birds by their songs. It doesn't matter what new thing you learn, as long as it really interests you. People love to learn new things and if you know a lot about something, you can share your interest in it with them.
Step 4. Explore a new area of your city or area of residence
Just like with skill or knowledge, some people like to go out and try new things. Find something new in a new area of your city that you have never explored and invite your friends to do it together and go on this new adventure. Perhaps you can find information about this new area online.
- Get to know your area. Look for information about new restaurants or events open to the public. Everyone needs food, so if you know a good restaurant, you can suggest one. Everyone loves listening to music. Find out information about concerts in your area and you can suggest going to them.
- Don't be afraid to think outside the box. Look for different events such as events held at museums or galleries, cooking classes, yoga activities in the park, and so on. Take part in unusual events. Actions like this will show how spontaneous and open-minded you are.
Tips
- Make sure you have fun. Because if you are happy, other people around you will feel it too!
- Be honest and keep your promises. Honesty is important to other people and if they know you are someone they can rely on, they will relax around you.
- Treat others the way you would want to be treated. Show interest in them and they will show interest in you too.
- Make sure you choose people who are fun to hang out with. If you are not happy, then you are in the wrong place.
