We are often tempted to open up with the people around us - In the end, what do you care if he knows a million things about you? But if we really want to get someone's attention, being mysterious can be a better strategy. If you want to make people think “what” is he really like?” start reading.
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Method 1 of 3: Mysterious Thinking
Step 1. Be yourself
Have you ever met someone who was very different from you? It's very different from the way he looks at the world and that's very…interesting? These people are not mysterious by nature, they are mysterious because there is a “difference” between you. You know the only way to be different from everyone else? Be yourself.
Really think about this. When a man and a woman date, the main mysterious element arises from how they see and interact with each other's world. A man sees a woman floating in his feminine world, and knows that he can never enter it or vice versa. The same is true of your unique world. Regardless of your gender, regardless of your relationship
Step 2. Be confident
In order to be who you are in today's world (someone who has the personality most talked about and fits the trend of today), you "must" be confident. When the world says, “sink or swim?”, the only way is to swim. And, yes, people like someone who is confident; they are very eye catching. They are captivating, attractive, and amazing and we often don't know why that is?
There is absolutely nothing mysterious about being humble. When it bothers you, all your actions are driven by your thought, “Will people accept me? A) It's not interesting at all and B) It's very easy to see and guess. A confident person, one who is comfortable in their own skin, asserts themselves, stands on what they believe in, someone who naturally leads those who see her to say, “What is she really like?”
Step 3. Stay calm
People who express emotions using their arms will not leave an impression. After a few days, you find out what they eat, what makes them happy, and makes them want to push you around the corner. But if you're someone who stays calm all the time, no one will ever know what you're really doing. This can also backfire on you – they'll be even harder to guess!
Be the one who stays calm in stressful situations. And if you show your emotions, show them a little that doesn't relate directly to the situation. For example: It's cold outside but no snow? What is this, a natural phenomenon?! What game is he playing?! Come on, this winter is so worth it. You then move to Belize
Step 4. Be polite
Since being mysterious is often associated with "darkness" and "aloneness," it's important to get rid of those bad thoughts by being polite. Being mysterious “doesn't mean” having to be rude or uncaring. Don't mix the two! Everyone deserves to be treated well, no matter if you're trying to be mysterious.
Keeping a small smile on your face every time is a good way to start. Not only will it make you more friendly and approachable, but people will think, “What is he really thinking?” If you've ever walked by someone on the street and saw him smile or laugh a little, you'll know how it feels
Step 5. Don't be afraid to be silly
As we age, we slowly get caught up in what our environment expects us to be and how we should act. You can put chicken wings in your mouth, chew, and then spit the bones out onto the floor, but you don't have to (probably). You don't need to take that example to heart. Think of something you can do without causing trouble. When the waiter comes to you, sometimes you just say, “I want to tell you-then say I have to kill you.” Totally in an even tone. And that's okay.
While not the most effective strategy, it will make people think what's really going on in your brain. And it can be a lot of fun! So next you can order a shrimp salad, and say “I have a seafood allergy”. When they ask then why did you order it, say that you will face the allergy
Method 2 of 3: Interacting with Others
Step 1. Don't go into too much detail
When people ask something, we actually know what answer they expect. When someone asks, “Are you dating?” we know for sure what they mean: “Are you dating? If so, with whom and in what way?” So instead of replying with, “Yes, I have a boyfriend- his name is George. George Glass." Just answer, "yes." They won't know if they can disassemble any further-but they certainly want to disassemble it!
- Try to conclude something as true and accurate as possible without getting too deep into it. Don't add comments - stick to what really happened.
- If your boyfriend asks about your ex-girlfriend. Instead of explaining why the relationship didn't work out, just say, "We're not compatible. When our relationship was over, I decided to stop to think about it.” Simple, sharp, maybe, but to the point and honest.
Step 2. Be someone who is hard to read
Be unpredictable. Most interactions with other people are non-verbal. We always have a dozen things "to tell" to other people about feelings at any one time. Pay attention to this and take advantage of the patterns people believe in. You know how James Bond always looks serious even when he's joking? More or less. When he attacks a woman, he still looks calm. And he's one of those mysterious men.
Pay attention to your body position when interacting with other people. Experiment with changing positions and see how other people respond. Play high and low. Your eye contact. Make them think how you really feel
Step 3. Move the focus to the other person
Surprising because this one is so easy. Have a chat with someone and all you need to do is ask them to keep them talking. Once that's over, they'll feel how nice you are to talk to without realizing they haven't learned anything about you at all. In short, people love to talk about themselves, so this is an advantage!
Ask open-ended questions. When you see sparks from them, jump right in. Let them talk about it. Act like you're interested in keeping them talking. You'll look great, like a good listener, and it'll be fun to be around you even when you're not doing anything. See? Very easy
Step 4. Say facts
When the conversation starts to move about you, speak facts about other things. Don't share your opinions, beliefs, or experiences. This way you can add value to your conversation without letting them know anything about you.
Instead of saying, “Oh my God, I read this on the internet a few days ago when I wanted to spend some time before going out for a drink with Sally about how drinking a liter of water every day can lead to long term weight loss and I will definitely give it a try. Just exercising is not enough!” give it a try, “Some studies say increasing the water you drink can lead to weight loss. It's a tactic worth trying." You're saying the same thing without revealing too much about yourself
Step 5. Disappear mysteriously
So in order to get an invite to a party, you have to actually show up when you're invited. But once your feet enter the door and people love your presence. You can freely disappear mysteriously. Don't show anything. Make people think where you are. Come late. Leave the party without explanation. Let them imagine what really happened.
Don't do things too often. If you come and go from parties all the time, this will be considered a bit of a nuisance to you. If you never show up, you will stop being invited to the party. So, just like anything else, define your strategy well
Step 6. Let your past be a secret
If you're new to town and want to use this method, don't talk about your past. You will be surprised at what you can do! When someone starts asking you where you're from, respond like, "It doesn't matter where you're from-it's where you're going." Or, you know. Keep it simple by saying “Utah” but don't go into details. It would probably cause a strange expression.
If holding on to the past sounds like you're hiding a problem, make it a game. Tell everyone a story about you living in Vietnam for some time and working on a weasel farm. Then tell how you were a cook at a good restaurant in your past. And then like magic enter a random conversation that tells of the year you spent with Charlie Sheen. Maybe this can kick out your strong impression, right?
Method 3 of 3: Strengthen Your Mysterious Charm
Step 1. Show perfect posture
Standing hunched over shows that you are insecure, rather mysterious, or that you seem shy, like a loner. Of course you don't want to be thought of that way. You can achieve the perfect posture by puffing out your breastbone, pulling your shoulders back, and flattening your stomach. If your posture is bad, practice to improve it. A perfect body posture will make you look attractive and confident that will attract the attention of both men and women. That way, there are more people you can talk to.
Step 2. Develop your unique sense of style
Unfortunately, fashion trends make us very predictable-or at least the impression that you are predictable. Wearing a thick scarf, and sunglasses? You're a hipster. Wearing tops that show off your chest and short skirts? No need to explain anymore. Is it possible for you to lower your pants down to your knees and leave your shoes untied? You are a sheesh. So instead of following an existing style, create your own.
If you like it, do it. You can mix styles in one look, or you can use different styles at different times. One you you appear in black-rimmed glasses, the next day northern style. And the next day use your own homemade top. Or all three at the same time. Anything that can sail "you" style
Step 3. Choose an unrelated hobby
If you looked like a normal football kid at school, people might think, "Well, he might be a little athletic, takes classes like carpentry, likes to party on weekends and dates rich girlfriends." If you looked like the kid in the band at school, people might think, “A little introverted. Smart. Maybe have some close friends. Close to family. In general, good. Maybe he played too many video games." When all of that sounds cliché and isn't entirely true, just mix the two. Be the girl who wears lipstick and a short skirt but carries a comedy book. Saxophone player who also plays football on weekends. Do everything.
The more dynamic you are, the more difficult it is for you to be boxed in by others. And once people can box you in, you're no longer a mystery. So go out there and say it's not what you normally do. Not only will you become mysterious, but you may find something you really like that you never thought of before
Step 4. Don't show your emotions too much
If people can easily provoke your emotions, they will. When they know what excites you, what excites you, they'll feel like they've got you. Avoid using emotions when interacting so that you are not easily guessed. When people can't feel how you feel, they'll never know what's really going on. When you succeed, they won't know what your likes and dislikes are, and what your goals are. Most people can't keep their mouths shut!
It's a good idea to turn your volume down too. Ever realized that loud people are never mysterious? No one ever said, “Americans, a mysterious bunch of people!” So don't hesitate to whisper to the person next to you with your flat, hard-to-read expression. Everyone will think you are talking about them. And you win the game you play
Step 5. Don't spend too much time on social media
You know the guy who updates his Facebook status every six seconds with something like “OMG, I forgot to eat dinner” and how does it taste? Don't be that kind of person. People like that are ruining Facebook for people like us. Don't publish all the photos of whatever you put in your mouth, don't publish your selfies in the bathroom when you're bored, don't let Facebook seem to express your tenderness and your passionate emotions. When you have something to say online, say something worth saying.
The fact is that we don't need to know what we're doing all the time. The less we know, the better. If you want to be mysterious, let people think where you are, who you are with, and what you do. So avoid coming to Starbucks every morning. Avoid the “Hello, so….and so…” status. Avoid the temptation to use hashtags in anything you say. While social media is useful, don't use it to tell the world what you're doing and thinking
Step 6. Do it to the limit
There's a lot out there that can give you an advantage if you "really" want to be mysterious. You can do silly things like wear sunglasses. You can purposely decorate your Gothic themed room to be Princess themed now. You can use a quote by saying something like, “I went to the “post office” today.” You can also use travel robes. And how far will you go in such clothes.
Want a little fun? Pretend you're not who you are. When you go to a party, tell people your fake name and you've been there a while ago, it's not going to be the same as when you were just being yourself, but it's going to be a lot of fun
Tips
- Don't involve too many people in your mysterious game. Because you will no longer be mysterious.
- Try using the words the other person is trying to say after talking to you.
- When sending messages, don't use words like LOL. Better say "That's funny." It might hurt, but it adds to the mystery, and people are starting to notice it.
- Try not to be called "mysterious". As strange as it sounds, once you've been dubbed that way, your mysteriousness is no longer mysterious.
- This way is to stand out by mixing it all up. This means that you can be known as a person who has a unique personality without having to look brave.
- Know why you want to be mysterious. Is this the game you want to play
Warning
- Being mysterious doesn't mean you can't have friends. You can have lots of friends and still be mysterious. It all depends on how you do it. (as in: present oneself).
- Getting too serious can make people-especially your parents-think you're doing something bad. Loosen up, and don't cross the line.
- Some people may find you "weird." Don't take it as an attack, just take it as a compliment.
- People can think that you don't like them anymore and stop bothering you and forget about you and find someone else. If you want to stay with your friends, don't do this all the time. There's no point in being a loner, even if it's for fun.
- You might be called moody'."
