You can be shy and mysterious in many ways, be it in your love life or in your everyday life. This can help you attract the attention of guys or make new friends. In love life, being shy and mysterious is a time-tested trick to attract a guy's attention. If you want to attract the opposite sex, keep your relationship with your boyfriend exciting, or simply change your everyday attitude, you can easily become shy and mysterious by following these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Attract Men's Attention
Step 1. Throw a shy smile at him
If a handsome guy you don't know approaches you, smile gently at him. Don't look too enthusiastic as this can slow him down. Just smile at him, then blink a few times. He'll know that you're quite attracted to him but don't really expect your presence. This will give you the impression of being open without looking overwhelming.
The same trick could work for the guy across the room. If you want a guy to come up to you and talk to you, smile at him from across the room, making eye contact. This will send a signal that you care about him and are open to talking to him
Step 2. Flirt with your eyes
Using your eyes is a great way to get a guy's attention. When you meet a guy for the first time, don't look at him too much and seem too expecting his attention. Just blink your eyes, avert your eyes, then sneak glances again once in a while. This will let him know that you are interested but not very hopeful. Give him a fiery look when he says something funny or nice to you.
If you're commuting by train in the morning or shopping at the supermarket and see an attractive guy, try making eye contact. When he looks back at you, continue to stare at him for a second, but then look away. Then look at him again and wait for him to look at you too. When you get his eyes again, smile shyly, then look away again. Try to give the impression that you are interested, but don't overdo it. In the end he will think that you are cute and come to chat with you
Step 3. Use body language
Building a shy impression has a lot to do with the body language you use. When you interact with him, you will want to let him know that you are interested without telling him this out loud. Stand or sit closer to him when you chat. When you want to say something to him, lean closer to him and say it into his ear. Find reasons to touch him, for example by leaning on him for support after you've fixed your shoelaces. When you are thinking about the answer to a question, bite your lip or place your finger near your mouth. This will make you look attractive.
Using implied body language doesn't mean you have to be around him all the time. You can approach him, but don't forget to pay attention to his reaction. Don't look too hopeful or aggressive
Step 4. Change your dressing style
You don't have to wear revealing clothes to attract the attention of him. When you're out with your friends, wear something feminine that's revealing enough to get a guy interested in you. Wear a slightly shorter skirt with a closed shirt, or wear a dress that is long enough but shows a little of your chest. This will make you look attractive without appearing cheap. Again, remember that you want to get his attention without making yourself look too hopeful, cheap, or overbearing.
Pair this dress style with a gorgeous pair of high heels and an innocent shy smile. High heels will make you look charming. The end result is the impression that you are confident but also sweet, which will certainly make him amazed
Step 5. Play with your hair
One great way to look shy and mysterious is to play with your hair. While he's talking, play your hair around your fingers. You can also comb your hair with your fingers slowly, while smiling coquettishly at him. This will make you look a little nervous, which will let him know that you are attracted to him.
Don't do this too often. Be nervous, but don't be too flashy, just enough so he doesn't think you're bored or uninterested
Method 2 of 3: Keep Your Boyfriend Curious
Step 1. Don't be there for her too often
Even if he is your boyfriend, you don't want to look like you have no other life outside of your relationship. When he asks you out on a date, don't always do what he wants. Once in a while you may disagree with the day and time he proposes. Say that you are busy or have other events with your friends. Try to rearrange your date time for another time that works for both of you. That way, he knows that you also have other things to do outside of the relationship, but don't let him think that you are no longer interested.
The same is true for electronic communications. In this age of social and electronic media, it is much easier for us to keep in touch with those closest to us. But, don't always rush to answer messages, calls, or tweets from him. Make him try to get your attention. This will make you seem more alluring and mysterious
Step 2. Don't be too open
When you are dating someone, you want to get to know your partner better. However, avoid telling too much about your life in the early days of your relationship. Don't lie or avoid questions, but be shy about answering. Let him continue to wonder what else he might know about you. Leave a little mystery for your relationship going forward. To keep his attention on you, you have to keep him going after you, not irritated that you talk too much.
If you talk about your past, don't tell every detail of your life. He doesn't need to know about all the embarrassing moments at your dance, or any information about any of your exes. You should also save stories about your family history for another time. You want him to get to know you, not write an essay about your family history
Step 3. Be a fun person
Playing around is a great way to hook a guy. Even when you're already in a relationship, flirting with him will keep your relationship fresh. Try to laugh coquettishly when he's joking. When you guys are chatting, hit him playfully if he says something naughty. Slip in a sexy compliment when you're out in public, such as: "You look so handsome tonight. If only we weren't in a room full of people, so I could show you how handsome you are." A comment like this is subtle enough to sound coy, but also enough to let him know that you're always thinking about him.
Step 4. Make him want more
Even if you've been dating for a long time, it's a good idea to keep your boyfriend wanting more. Tease him throughout your date, but leave him immediately after dinner. When dating, make him pay attention to your body. Gently rub your neck when you talk, or bite your lip when you look at the menu for dinner. When you eat, gently nudge his feet under the table, but act as if you're not aware. At the end of the date, run your hand on his back. When he bends down to kiss you, whisper in his ear, “I really enjoyed tonight” before turning to leave. This will drive him crazy and want more.
Method 3 of 3: Making Friends
Step 1. Keep your distance
When you're in a group of people, don't jump right into the conversation. Wait for someone to introduce who you are, then you can join the conversation little by little. You don't want to look too excited. Chatting with one or two people at a time is enough. Make sure that your body language does not indicate that you are a closed person. You want to give the impression that you're open to warm conversation, but aren't too keen on the details of every chat.
This also applies to all the activities you do. Avoid big parties or clubs. Being coy and mysterious means that you are always on the sidelines, trying not to attract attention. A small, warm gathering might suit you better
Step 2. Keep your privacy
Whether at work or with people you don't know, try to be a little quiet. Do not provide unnecessary information or discuss personal matters with your co-workers. If you're with your closest friends, you can freely discuss how your boyfriend broke up with you or your struggles with your unruly cat. But if you've just met someone, keep your distance and keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself. It is better to observe the nature and attitude of these new people before you try to make friends with them.
You should also avoid telling too much when someone asks you a question. Don't give out information about yourself to strangers. When you know them enough, then you can tell more personal things
Step 3. Avoid being the center of attention
When you're trying to be shy and mysterious, don't be the center of attention. This applies to your attitude and your style of dress. You should not wear clothes that are too flashy. It will be more difficult for you to make meaningful friends if you are always in a crowd. If you stay on the sidelines, people who are aware of your existence will be more interested in getting to know the real you.
Step 4. Open your ears
If you are always on the periphery, listen to those around you. Keep in mind the information other people have given you. Try to enter into new friendships by listening to what they have to say to get to know them better. When they've become more than just acquaintances, you can open yourself up to them and reduce your shyness and mystery when you're with them.
Tips
- You shouldn't be shy and mysterious for too long. You want to impress him more, not make him think that you are no longer interested in him or want to break up with him.
- If you feel that he doesn't respond well to your coy and mysterious tactics, change your plans. Not all men will respond the same to this attitude.
