In fact, humans are creatures who are always curious. That's why mysterious and unpredictable figures tend to be easier to attract someone's attention, especially because the mysteriousness leaves room in other people's minds to imagine and assume. Want to build a mysterious image to grab the attention of your crush? Read this article for full tips!
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Part 1 of 3: Building a Mysterious Image
Step 1. Make eye contact
Making eye contact with other people can show your confidence. In addition, making eye contact also shows that you are interested in getting to know the person more deeply. However, make sure you don't do it for too long if you don't want to come across as horrible and/or intimidating; at least, lock your gaze for two seconds.
Step 2. Show that you are a calm and controlled person
People who are used to putting themselves in the center of attention will actually look boring in the eyes of others, especially because they don't leave room in other people's minds for imagination. Instead, show that you are calm, serious, and don't look like you want to stand out from the crowd. In other words, be calm water in the midst of a storm; be as calm as possible even though the conditions around you are very noisy.
Step 3. Increase your knowledge
Remember, you have to be mysterious and knowledgeable. Since you won't be telling too much about yourself, at least understand a few topics that can be discussed for a long time. In addition to keeping the conversation away from your personal information, doing so also shows that you are knowledgeable and has no qualms about exploring interesting topics.
Make sure the topic you choose is broad enough and interesting for both parties. For example, the topic of this year's presidential candidate may be interesting, but not very broad. Instead of talking about it, try to choose a broader topic such as the impact of fish farming on the environment
Step 4. Ask questions
Asking questions is a powerful way to be mysterious and grab the attention of others at the same time. Apart from being able to divert the topic of conversation from personal things in your life, doing so will also show your interest in the life of the other person. In addition, your interlocutor also has a greater opportunity to tell many things about his life. Trust me, your crush will be flattered if you don't dominate the conversation and are willing to be a good listener.
Start by asking simple questions like, “Where are you from, anyway?” or “If you could go on vacation without spending money, where would you go?” Listen to the answers and ask follow-up questions like, “Oh, so you want to go to Paris? Why is Paris so attractive to you? If you had a choice, would you rather go alone or with someone else?”
Step 5. Make him smile
Being mysterious does not necessarily eliminate your attractiveness, you know! In other words, you can still make other people smile and feel happy; As a result, the person you like will be more comfortable around you. On the other hand, you have to smile too! Show that you are a happy person and able to appreciate life; surely, you will look more attractive in the eyes of almost everyone.
You don't have to communicate directly with him to make him smile. Instead, just look him in the eye and give him a short, sincere and warm smile. Believe me, he will definitely respond to this attitude no less warmly
Step 6. Change the subject
Just because you won't be talking too much about yourself doesn't mean you can't set the tone for the conversation. Try changing the subject periodically to show that you are not only mysterious, but also confident and knowledgeable.
- Look for natural opportunities to change the topic. Usually, the opportunity will present itself after listening to the other person's response to a topic.
- After the other person has responded, try asking questions that have the potential to change the direction of the conversation between the two of you.
Step 7. Be a masculine man or a brave woman
Regardless of your gender, the desire to be mysterious generally indicates that you are a masculine man or a bold woman; both are basic characters that appeal to most of the people on this earth. Mysterious people are generally confident; Such confidence can be interpreted in different ways and is highly dependent on each person's gender. But in general, mysterious figures are generally good at controlling without saying much, but don't look tacky or like to seek attention.
The above idea is based on the psychological theory of attraction between people. The theory shows that human or interpersonal attraction is rooted in a combination of physiological and psychological aspects in humans
Part 2 of 3: Making Sure You Don't Look Weird or Creepy
Step 1. Keep a few things to yourself
When talking to him, don't tell him everything that's going on in your life. Show that he can't access your life that easily. Instead, tell him the outline of your life and leave some space for him to dig deeper; Get him to ask questions, reflect on your story, and fill in the blanks with his imagination.
- One appropriate approach is to provide information only when asked. Even if you answer the question, try to provide as simple and minimal information as possible. Give him space to continue to wonder.
- If he asks you what you're doing on the weekends, give a vague answer like, "Oh, I'm going downtown with my friends." If he asks a follow-up question, respond not with an answer, but with a mysterious smile.
Step 2. Don't always look “on and available”
Believe me, people who are always there when needed actually seem too ambitious and not mysterious. Instead, make sure you're only there and available at certain times (for example, when your crush really needs your help). The rest, disappear from his radar. Believe me, after that your existence will definitely look more valuable in his eyes.
In other words, don't keep calling her, texting her, asking her to video chat, or joining social events that she also attends. If he calls you, don't always pick up; once in a while, let the message go to voicemail. If he texts you, don't read or reply right away. If he asks you to meet at a social event, don't immediately accept the invitation enthusiastically; let me know that you need to check your schedule in advance. Undoubtedly, you will look more mysterious and attractive in his eyes
Step 3. Don't wear tacky clothes
The right way to stand out isn't wearing clothes that are weirdly styled, tacky in color, or too patterned. Instead, try wearing clothes that are simple but able to make a unique and different impression from the people around you. To keep your mysteriousness, try wearing dark colored clothes.
If people around you like to wear tight jeans, try wearing a boot cut jeans (the type of jeans that cut wide from the knee to the heel). If they're seen wearing boots a lot, try wearing loafers (low-heeled closed-toe shoes)
Part 3 of 3: Keeping Your Mystery
Step 1. Think more creatively
Dare to think outside of context, especially since creativity is one of the symbols of one's mystery and self-confidence. Show that you are fun and able to see the world from a different perspective; After that, don't hesitate to share your unique point of view with your idol.
- Remember, you don't have to be artistic to think creatively. Even though the blood of art doesn't flow thickly in your body, that doesn't mean you can't be a creative person! For example, show your creativity when you answer other people's questions, provide solutions to a problem, or think of fun ways to spend time with your crush.
- Instead of taking her out to dinner and going to the movies, try taking her to unique places she's never been. For example, take him on a picnic in the city park and bring a book containing your favorite poetry collection; while snacking on a delicious meal, choose some interesting poems to read in front of him.
Step 2. Be unpredictable
People who are hard to guess will definitely look more mysterious! But that doesn't mean you have to change into someone else, confuse the person you like, or even hurt him or her. To be unpredictable, you really just need to vary your daily routine and open yourself up to a lot of new things; Thus, you will be seen as an attractive and not boring person.
- If you always stop by a coffee shop before going to work, try filling this morning with jogging instead of drinking coffee before work.
- Or, if you're always waiting for him to call you, try surprising him once in a while by calling him first.
Step 3. Make sure you respond positively to his interest
Congratulations, your crush also likes you! After that, you may want to take the relationship in a more serious direction. For that, make sure he knows that his feelings for you are not unrequited. Remember, a person can still look mysterious even if he periodically shows his affection for others. After all, humans tend to be more easily attracted to people who also appear to be attracted to them. Therefore, make sure you give a positive response.
For example, try sending a bunch of flowers with the words, "I can't stop thinking about you." Although simple, this attitude will definitely mean a lot to him, especially if it is someone who has been mysterious in his eyes
Tips
- Be a little coy; take the opportunity to show your smile!
- Try to remember lots of random facts and come up with those facts when relevant subjects come up in the conversation.
- Don't let your crush see you unemployed. If you always seem busy doing something, he's likely to be wondering what you're really doing.
- Speak only when someone else is talking to you.
- Don't spend too much time in one place. Instead, keep moving from place to place to make other people wonder what's important that makes your mobilization so high.
- Learn more general knowledge as well as new facts that not many others know.
- Without saying much, just keep looking into the eyes of the person you like. If he catches you, blink and slowly look away.
Warning
- Don't be too mysterious! Apart from appearing suspicious, being too mysterious will also discourage anyone from getting close to you.
- Have you found your soulmate? When that time comes, reduce your mystery but don't completely eliminate it. In other words, make him curious and anticipate little surprises from you, but make sure he doesn't turn away from you because he feels hopeless.
