The ability to respect others plays an important role in achieving success in personal and professional life. You can show respect by understanding other people's feelings and being polite to everyone. If someone is talking, listen carefully without interrupting or being rude. Even if there are differences of opinion, you can still communicate well and respect the person you are talking to. Remember that you will also be respected if you always respect others.
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Method 1 of 4: Be Respected Based on the Value of Virtues
Step 1. Respect yourself
Showing respect for others must start with yourself. Respect yourself by recognizing that you have individual rights and freedom to make decisions. Self-respect means using this right to impose limits on maintaining health and meeting the needs of life. You are the only person responsible for yourself, your actions and feelings, not anyone else.
- This means that you can refuse other people's requests without feeling guilty or negative.
- If someone doesn't respect you and ignores your human dignity, you have every right to say, "Don't talk to me like that" or "Don't touch me."
Step 2. Treat others the way you would like to be treated
If you want people to be nice to you, be nice to everyone. If you want people to talk calmly to you, speak calmly to everyone. If someone misbehaves with you, don't misbehave with others. Say and do positive things as you would expect from other people.
For example: if someone yells at you, respond with a calm tone of voice and understanding words
Step 3. Put yourself in someone else's shoes
You'll have a hard time appreciating other people's perspectives if you can't understand what they're feeling and experiencing. For example: if you are in conflict with a friend, imagine how you would feel if you experienced the same thing. This will allow you to empathize, making it easier for you to understand his perspective and respond sympathetically.
- Empathy is a skill that can be developed with practice. You will be more connected to other people if you are able to understand them.
- For example: if there's something you don't understand or you have a disagreement with someone, ask him to explain or give an example.
Step 4. Respect everyone's dignity and worth
You have to respect everyone, not just the people you like. Respect everyone's human rights, regardless of their background or the way they treat you. Even if you are upset or angry with someone, they still deserve respect.
If you're having trouble controlling your behavior and want to say something harsh or hurtful, take a few deep breaths. This will help you delay speaking so that you can calm down
Method 2 of 4: Communicating with Mutual Respect
Step 1. Be sensitive to other people's feelings
Even if you don't mean to hurt the other person's feelings, your words may accidentally offend or hurt you. Before speaking, think about how the other person will interpret what you say. Respect his feelings when he reacts or responds. Raise sensitive issues with careful consideration. Choose positive words because your words have a big impact on other people.
For example: if you want to cancel a plan that upset your friend, show that you understand his feelings by saying, "I'm sorry, I know you'll be disappointed, but I have to cancel the appointment. How about we meet tomorrow?"
Step 2. Be polite and courteous to others
Instead of commanding, make requests. Be polite by saying "thank you" and "please" when asking someone else for something as a way of showing that you appreciate the time and effort he or she puts into helping you.
Learn how to show good manners, for example: waiting for your turn to speak during a conversation, giving an older person or pregnant woman a seat, standing in line in an orderly manner
Step 3. Listen carefully
Pay close attention when the other person is talking. Instead of thinking about what you have to say, listen and listen attentively to what he is saying. Free yourself from distractions by turning off the TV or phone. Focus only on the interlocutor, not on yourself.
- Give a neutral response to show that you are listening, for example by saying, "Yes", "Then…", or "Okay".
- If your attention is distracted, ask him to repeat what he said so you can re-engage in the conversation.
Step 4. Give positive feedback
If you are constantly criticizing, criticizing, belittling, judging, or insulting the person you are talking to, he or she may object to what you are saying and feel that you have been abused. If there's something you want to say, say it in a way that makes him feel appreciated.
For example: if your roommate misbehaves so much that it upsets you, please let him know or make a request. Instead of saying, "I hate it when the bathroom is left untidy," then ask, "Would you mind cleaning the bathroom after you shower?" or "I wish we could keep the bathroom clean every day."
Step 5. Give your opinion only when asked
Even if your opinion is correct, other people may not need it. So it's a good idea to give your opinion only when asked. Let other people make their own decisions even if you don't agree with them.
- Other people will feel offended if you always give your opinion, even though you don't mean to hurt their feelings.
- For example: if you don't like your friend's partner, be nice and don't say anything unless he asks you questions or it's for his own safety.
Method 3 of 4: Resolving Conflict with Mutual Respect
Step 1. Respect other people's opinions
Listen to other people's ideas, opinions, and advice with an open mind. Even if you don't agree, consider first what he has to say without ignoring it.
Show that you value the other person and what he or she is saying. Instead of you continuing to talk, ask questions so you can understand what he's saying and listen to what he has to say, even if his perspective is different
Step 2. Speak in positive words
Remember that there are always good ways to communicate with other people. This is the difference between speech that hurts feelings and that gives understanding. If you tend to say things that hurt your feelings or sound angry, especially when there is a difference of opinion, start a habit of speaking with positive words.
- For example: instead of saying, "You never pay every time we eat", replace it with, "I paid when we ate yesterday. How about you pay this time?"
- Do not belittle, ridicule, insult, or berate others. If this happens during a discussion, it means you don't respect him. Continue the discussion another time.
Step 3. Apologize if you have wronged others
Take responsibility if you are guilty. It's natural to make mistakes, but you have to admit it and think about the consequences for other people. When apologizing, show remorse and admit that you did something wrong. As much as possible, try to improve the relationship.
For example: "I'm sorry for yelling at you. I've been rude and disrespectful to you. From now on, I will speak politely to you."
Method 4 of 4: Respect Through Action
Step 1. Respect other people's boundaries
Forcing someone to do something is not a way of respecting other people. If you know someone's limits, don't break them or ask them to change them. Respect the boundaries he set as he wishes.
For example: when dining with a vegan, don't offer food made of meat. If someone is leading a different spiritual life, don't scorn or say that his beliefs are heretical or erroneous
Step 2. Be trustworthy
To get others to believe in you, show that you are someone who is worthy of trust. For example: if a friend asks you to keep a secret, keep your word. Don't betray the trust he gives by revealing secrets to anyone.
Be honest through your actions and words because others will see for themselves whether you are worthy of trust
Step 3. Don't gossip or spread rumors
Gossiping other people or sharing in gossip is bad behavior and dishonorable. The gossiped person can't defend himself or explain what he's going through while others feel free to make judgments. When talking about other people, don't gossip or spread false information.
For example: if someone starts gossiping, say, "I don't want to talk about other people behind their backs because it's unfair to them."
Step 4. Respect everyone
Live your daily life by being fair to everyone and upholding equality without distinction of race, religion, gender, country of origin, or ethnicity. Instead of being unfair to other people from different backgrounds, interact with each other with respect.
