A pleasant life is determined by the things you consider important. In order to live a pleasant life, start by determining the values of beliefs, priorities, and goals in life. Try to get what you want. Be a good family member and friend. Serve the community, do social activities, and be honest with yourself.
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Part 1 of 4: Prioritizing Your Life Goals
Step 1. Write down who or what you think is important
When imagining the life you dream of, think about some aspects of your daily life that you need to prioritize. Write down all the things you think are important, for example: family, friends, hobbies, nature, or your career. Imagine what your life would be like if those things weren't there.
For example, if you enjoy playing basketball, determine if this activity is one that you consider important? If the answer is “no”, the activity is probably just a hobby
Step 2. Determine the value of your beliefs
Everyone has a moral guide for living life. Determine the value of the belief that you want to reflect in your daily life. Ask yourself: do you really value honesty? Want to be a person who is attentive and caring for others? Want to fight for social justice? You can decide what action you need to take once you have determined the value of your belief.
- Be aware that there are certain professions that are not suitable for people who place a high value on honesty, for example: intelligence agents shouldn't tell you what they're doing.
- On the other hand, if you want to fight for social justice, try to find work in the social sector.
- Read a wikiHow article that explains how to lead a happy life.
Step 3. Find your calling in life
Everyone has their own talents and strengths. Try to reflect on the unique talents you have in your everyday life. Finding your calling in life does not mean following the path of life that other people have chosen. Instead, identify activities that you are good at and think about how you can use those abilities to live your life, even to help others. For example:
- If you are both a teacher and a musician, your calling in life may be to become a teacher teaching children to play the piano.
- If you are a good listener and enjoy helping others, you might be a good fit to become a psychologist.
- If the news of the discovery of dinosaur bones is exciting, perhaps your calling in life is to study paleontology, sharing knowledge about dinosaurs and environmental changes with new generations.
Step 4. Determine your purpose in life
Our life will be more useful if it has a purpose. However, know that the purpose of life can change under certain conditions. Sometimes, you need to adjust your goals to the changes that occur. However, life will be easier to live if you have a plan and purpose in life. For example:
- If you want to become a doctor, you need to set some short-term goals, for example: graduate from high school, go to medical school, get a doctor's degree, and start working as a doctor. Each of these goals has several targets that you must achieve.
- If you want to have children, first consider what you have to do, for example: get offspring by finding a life partner or adopting children. Maybe there are other ways to achieve this goal?
Step 5. Set priorities
After determining the people you consider important, your values, beliefs, and life goals, set priorities. Priorities can vary according to the conditions in your life. For example: when you go to school, you will prioritize learning. After that, you will focus on relationships and children. In order to live a more scheduled life, try to prioritize the things that are priorities.
Read a wikiHow article that explains how to prioritize
Part 2 of 4: Living With Others
Step 1. Establish close relationships with those closest to you
Try to build closeness with the people you love. Listen to their complaints. Give them the help they need. If you did something wrong, apologize and try to do good. Be nice to others, for example by giving them a ride or sending a birthday card. Read a wikiHow article that explains how to build a healthy relationship. In addition, do the following:
- Cultivate mutual trust. Show an attitude that makes family members and friends willing to share honest stories with you. Keep the trust if a friend asks you to keep a secret.
- Show compassion to others. If someone does something wrong, but shows genuine remorse, try to forgive him. Don't bring up the blame when you're angry.
Step 2. Communicate well
Get in the habit of speaking candidly with others. Listen to others carefully and attentively. If there is a misunderstanding, ask for a discussion. Don't belittle each other, but talk things over calmly. Try to understand the other person's point of view.
- In the event of an argument, it's a good idea to repeat what the other person is saying to show you understand what he or she is saying, for example: "I hear you're upset because I always come home late."
- Ask questions, instead of assuming. If your relationship is in trouble, talk about it openly and honestly.
Step 3. Be a good neighbor
Social skills are an important aspect of living a pleasant life. Give a helping hand if a neighbor needs help, for example by taking care of a pet cat or watering the grass in his yard when he is away on vacation. Show concern for neighbors so that this behavior infects others.
Step 4. Serve the community
Contributing to a particular community is one way of living a happy life, for example by volunteering at an orphanage or collecting clothes for refugees. Find out if you can provide assistance to government organizations or religious communities. In addition, you can become a fundraiser to help the global community.
Part 3 of 4: Enjoying Life
Step 1. Take a trip
See new things around you by exploring residential neighborhoods or walking around town. Travel further afield if the funds are available, but don't need to travel the world. You can develop awareness and empathy skills by traveling to new places.
Step 2. Do your hobby
Apart from following your calling and life's purpose, you also have to have fun! Find a hobby that you enjoy the most and do it regularly. For example: join a knitting group or rock climbing. Through hobbies, you can meet more people and live a more enjoyable life.
Read the wikiHow article on how to find a hobby
Step 3. Eat healthy foods
Eat fresh fruits, vegetables, pasta and whole-grain breads. Choose a diet of poultry and fish, unless you are vegetarian. Peas, beans, and eggs are good sources of nutrients. Limit your intake of sodium, carbohydrates, and saturated fat.
Drink 9 cups of fluids per day (for women) and 13 cups per day (for men)
Step 4. Exercise regularly
Get in the habit of moderate-intensity exercise 2.5 hours/week or high-intensity aerobic exercise 1.25 hours/week. Do weight training to strengthen muscles 2 times / week. Regular exercise benefits your heart, muscles and bones so you can live a longer and healthier life.
- Walking, practicing yoga, dancing, or swimming are all moderate-intensity exercises.
- Running or training on a stationary bicycle is a high-intensity exercise.
Step 5. Develop your spiritual life
Regardless of the religious aspect, look for something that makes your life more meaningful. Have you ever asked yourself: why and what are you in this world for? what keeps your soul alive? Spiritual practice can give you the ability to face life's difficulties and forgive others.
- Praying and meditating makes you feel relaxed and focused.
- Joining a spiritual or religious community is a way of getting support in your time of need.
Part 4 of 4: Appreciating Your Life
Step 1. Give thanks
When you wake up every morning, say three things you are grateful for, for example: a fun job, a supportive partner, good health. Taking time to reflect on the things you are grateful for will go a long way in your life.
- Read a wikiHow article that explains how to thank others.
- Get used to being grateful before bed at night by writing in a journal three positive things that you experience throughout the day. Think about why and what actions you took to make these things happen.
Step 2. View problems as relative
One way to live a pleasant life is to try to overcome problems so that we don't get stuck in problems. However, remember the good things that have happened to you. Maybe you see someone demanding a grandmother cross the street. Maybe schoolchildren collect food for the homeless. Your condition is healthy, you have enough money, you have loved ones beside you. If there's something you don't have, seeing problems as something relatively allows you to live an enjoyable life.
Step 3. Do activities outside the home
One way to be grateful and enjoy life is to engage in outdoor activities, for example by cycling or walking cross-country. Hear the sounds of various animals and insects. Smell the scent of plants or soil exposed to rainwater. The world is full of amazing things if you have time to enjoy them.
Take time to walk while reflecting and observing various sensations without focusing on technology. Instead, pay attention to the buildings or trees around you. Observe the smell of the bakery or freshly cut grass. Hear the sound of people or the wind in the trees
Step 4. Don't do fun activities for a while
Sometimes, we need to avoid pleasant things in order to appreciate them, perhaps for a week or a month. When we start doing it again, we will realize how lucky it is to experience these things.
