Talking about something interesting and fun via text can seem difficult, especially if you're trying to get the attention of a new friend or perhaps a potential lover. The key to texting well is not to think about it too much and be comfortable conveying whatever is on your mind.
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Method 1 of 3: Build Lively Conversations
Step 1. Start with a simple topic
You don't have to say anything weird; just ask your friend if he has seen the latest episode of his favorite movie or what he did last weekend. If you choose a topic that interests both of you, such as sports, TV, the upcoming election, you're off to a good start.
- Don't push yourself too hard in choosing the best topic. If the topic you choose is not successful, you can replace it with another topic. Remember, actually the pressure is not that big.
- If the person seems disinterested or seems busy, try moving on to another topic that seems more interesting.
Step 2. Ask for his opinion
People love to be asked for their opinion, and they're always happy to give their advice, whether it's asked in person or via text. If you seem genuinely concerned about what he has to say, then he'll be more than happy to continue talking to you. Focus on hearing his opinion rather than voicing yours.
Have open-ended questions. Instead of asking, “Did you like the new movie?” ask, "What do you think about the new film?" or “Why didn't you like the concert?” Open-ended questions like these will provide more answers
Step 3. Create a short message that is uplifting and fun
Even if you're bored, don't let the person you're texting find out. If you're constantly complaining about being bored, the other person will lose interest and stop texting because they think he's boring you. Try to focus on the positives in your life and show passion in every topic you talk about.
- Avoid using repeated words. It's hard to have an interesting conversation when you get monotonous replies all the time like: "Lol", "Ah", "Wow", "Oh", etc. Try to use those words every now and then so he knows you're interested in what he has to say. This will keep your conversations fun.
- You can use emoticons or exclamation points to express your enthusiasm as long as you don't overdo it.
- If you're having a bad day and you're not in the mood, tell your friends about it.
Step 4. Enter characters into your message
Remind others that actually behind the words on the phone screen someone sent them. Add smiles and emoticons, or use laughable captions like "lol", "rofl", "cqts", etc, if that fits your messaging style. Let your friends see a unique message pattern, like no one else.
- Don't push yourself too hard to find out what your friend wants to hear; Instead of pretending, it's better to let your true personality show through.
- If you're usually a little stupid and weird; just leave it like this. Don't be afraid to be a little weird; no one is judging you.
Step 5. Talk about what you are doing
Another way to have an interesting conversation is to talk about what you're going through. Even if you're just watching TV or going to help mom cook, take advantage of this topic to find out if it's going to be an interesting conversation. Conversations like this can also start your friend telling what he's doing. This is a way to feel closer and involved in his life.
Make sure you are more interested in what your friend is doing. Make him feel that you really care what happens to him
Step 6. Avoid sending one-word text
Although easier to type, one-word messages are very difficult to start a conversation. Whether you're asking or answering, a one-word message is very difficult to turn into an engaging conversation. The more words you use, the more likely the conversation will be interesting and enjoyable.
- If you are sending a one-word message, continue with an explanation or further information. It's okay if you want to talk in shorter sentences as long as the conversation continues.
- If there's nothing more to talk about on the topic, you can continue with an open question or comment on a new topic.
- Even if the person asks a “yes” or “no” question, it doesn't mean you have to answer briefly, say “Yes and…” or “No, but…” and explain more about your opinion. This will make the conversation more flexible and dynamic.
Step 7. Send random and unexpected messages
It's fun and exciting about never knowing what that person will say next. Surprise him with an unexpected response, or a question out of nowhere. Spontaneity is key, and it will start an interesting conversation!
- Like a face-to-face conversation, there's no need to overthink every word you say. Try to bring up a funny topic about something that happened in class, or a weird topic you saw on TV yesterday.
- Look around for inspiration. Ordinary and simple household appliances can start an interesting conversation. You can cover anything from tablecloths to DVDs.
Step 8. Create a message that is easy to understand
While typos and abbreviations are sometimes funny and acceptable, overused can make it difficult for readers to understand them. Keep abbreviations to a minimum, especially if you haven't had much conversation with the person you're talking to. Give them time to get used to you before resorting to more quirky stuff.
Plus, nothing slows down a conversation more than clarifying questions about what you said earlier
Step 9. Avoid clichéd and boring everyday conversations
These little conversations are helpful if you're really desperate, but they rarely result in memorable conversations. Instead of saying "The weather is nice", try to think of something more meaningful. This is especially important if you are trying to make new friends or get close to a potential lover; Don't say what other people have said.
Avoid saying simple and basic things like, "How are you?" “I have had a very long day,” or “I am tired.” You have to give something more to stand out
Step 10. Nostalgic
If you're talking to an old friend, you can revisit stories from the past for nostalgia. There's nothing wrong with "Remember our time…" or "I miss when…". Just make sure this conversation doesn't evoke old memories so much that it makes you feel upset and can't continue the conversation anymore.
Nostalgic topics like this can be brought up in the middle of a conversation, but if you want to warm up a conversation with an old friend you haven't talked to in a long time, you can say, "Remember a time when …"
Step 11. Send a picture message or by voice
This is very funny! Submit a funny or cool picture of yourself. To make it even more fun, add sounds of your favorite songs or weird sound effects. Voice messages or pictures are both a medium for comforting each other and also a great way to end a conversation. Ending the conversation with a cute picture will make your friend look forward to having another conversation with you.
Just make sure you're messaging with someone who can open the image or sound effect. You don't want to confuse your friend just because he can't open it
Method 2 of 3: Following Right Ethics
Step 1. Make sure you really listen to what he is telling you
You may be too worried about what you have to say or too excited to have an opinion. Maybe the person really has something to say, or maybe he's disappointed that he hasn't said it clearly. Pay attention to what the person is saying so you can respond appropriately.
- You don't want to seem like you're ignoring his story or opinion. If the person hasn't told the full story, or something interesting has happened to them, give them a turn to speak.
- Read carefully what they write, especially if the message is long, before replying. Don't get caught reading half the message when you ask him something he just said a minute ago.
- If the person says something important and serious, make sure you really pay attention. If your friend tells you that her grandma is dead, you should call her instead of just sending a casual reply because you're in class.
Step 2. Don't think too much about it
One thing you should know when texting is not to push yourself too hard. There's no need to stress about finding the perfect or funniest sentence. Don't obsess too much because it will take you too long to reply to the message. As a result, he'll think you're busy or uninterested, when you're just too obsessed.
Replying right away with a simple, natural conversation is much better than spending 10 minutes creating a really good story. Also, you don't always know what the person wants, and you may miss the chance to have another conversation with them
Step 3. Be patient
If you've just started a conversation, or are in the middle of a slow conversation, the other person may be busy or having a conversation with someone else too. You don't want to rush and appear impatient by repeating your question, sending lots of questions with exclamation points, or sending rude messages until you get a reply.
Remember that the advantage of text messaging is that you have time to prepare for a response. But the downside is that the person you're talking to may not be paying your full attention; it is better for you to accept this than to be impatient
Step 4. Keep the conversation balanced
One thing you must remember that there must be balance in the conversation. You don't want the other person to think you're talking too much, or asking too many questions. As in a real conversation, both parties should contribute to the conversation, and make sure the other person also has time to share their thoughts and ideas.
Remember that being attracted is more important than being attracted. Instead of telling a lot of interesting things that you experienced that day, asking the other person's experience through the day will be much better. People like to talk about themselves more than you think
Step 5. Call the person for a serious conversation
While text messages are perfect for chatting with other people, important or sad news is better delivered over the phone or in person.
- To receive important or sad news, one must be emotionally prepared.
- For example, imagine if your partner told you that he was pregnant while relaxing watching a TV show together, how would you feel if your friend gave such important news via text message?
Step 6. Use conversation to deepen your relationship with him
Remember this text message conversation can indeed bring you closer, but still can't confirm the status of your relationship. You can take this opportunity to get to know them better, but don't use this as a substitute for actual interaction. You should take the time to call him or spend time with him to develop your relationship.
You can chat via text as a stepping stone to connect directly with that person. For example, if the two of you are talking about your favorite movie, you might ask, "Wanna go out together?" Or if you're both talking about how bored you're both right now, you could say, "Wanna go get some ice cream?" Don't be shy about it; it may be that the person wants to spend more time with you in person
Method 3 of 3: Finding Interesting Topics
Step 1. Ask for his opinion
People like it when you ask them for their opinion because it makes them feel like they have knowledge to share. No need to ask anything serious; ask simple things. Try asking the following:
- "I'm going to Bandung for the first time this Saturday. Any suggestions for restaurants to visit?"
- "Any ideas what gift I should give my boyfriend?"
- "Which dress should I wear to the dance later? I'm confused."
Step 2. Ask more about what he has said to you
One way to show that you care is to ask what you've discussed before. This shows that you pay attention and care about what he has to say, not just talking. Here's an example:
- "How is your grandmother? Is she still in the hospital?"
- "How was your job application yesterday?"
- "How was your trip to Bandung yesterday?"
Step 3. Suggest fun things to do together
Another way to build a lively conversation is to suggest activities you can do together. If the activity is fun, you'll have plenty to talk about to go into the details. Here are some suggestions:
- "How about we go to an 80s band concert next month? We can wear old school costumes…"
- "Want to see the latest Wolverine movie this weekend? I heard there's free drinking on Sundays!"
- "Have you ever eaten Cambodian food? There's a new restaurant opening, and I hear it's cheap and good."
Step 4. Give praise
Compliments never fail, and you don't have to meet someone in person to give them a compliment. A small compliment can be a conversation starter and make the person feel that you care. As long as your compliment is genuine and doesn't make her feel uncomfortable, it's a great way to start a conversation via text. Here are some tips:
- "You were amazing at the basketball game yesterday. I was impressed."
- "I like the pants you're wearing today. You look great in retro outfits."
- "Thank you for helping me study yesterday. You are such a good friend and I wouldn't have made it without you."
Step 5. Talk about fun plans for this weekend
Another way to have a good conversation is to mention something interesting this weekend. This is a great way to talk about something you enjoy, share funny information about yourself, or even encourage that person to join you next time. Here's what you can say:
- "I'm going to the playground with my cousin this weekend. It's going to be very interesting."
- "I'm going to take ceramics class this Saturday. Looks like it's going to be interesting."
- "I'm going to Tahoe with my family. I've never surfed before."
Step 6. Encourage
If he has an exam, interview, or other important event, you can cheer him on and wish him success. Small words of encouragement can be something that person really needs right now, and can also show you care. Here are a few ways to say it:
- "Good luck for your exam tomorrow. I know you can!"
- "Get some rest before your interview tomorrow. You must be successful."
- "Score tonight. I'll be cheering from the stands."
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Don't text while driving.
This action can harm yourself and others around you.
