Saying naughty words is one way to maintain intimacy with your partner and increase passion in love. In order to master naughty talk, you'll have to slowly settle into being verbally open in bed. When making love, talk about various techniques and styles in a provocative tone. With a little practice, you can increase your affection and passion through naughty words.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting Started
Step 1. Change your voice
Before you start saying naughty words, think about how to change your voice to make it sexier. Try speaking more slowly and softly. Don't use the same voice as when you ask your partner to take out the trash. Discover sexy bed sounds.
- Be aware that according to an Albright College study, changing the tone of voice to be sexy seems to suit women more than men. So, men should still speak naturally and let the voice out by itself.
- Don't expect a sexy voice to appear on the first try. You have to experiment. The more often you practice, the more comfortable you will be and the easier it will be.
Step 2. Start with a soft voice
Before speaking the words, start with a moan, moan, or sigh to indicate the pleasure you are feeling. You've probably done it many times. If yes, great. If not, try to express pleasure through your voice and body during sex.
Encourage your partner to make a sound if he hasn't done so before. You'll want to hear him groan and verbally express pleasure
Step 3. Compliment your partner
Start with small compliments. Tell him he's awesome or great in bed. Say, "You're hot when you're naked," or "I'm so happy to be with you tonight." You can also compliment her body parts, “Your arms are really tight,” or “You have beautiful legs.” The point is, make your partner feel sexy and appreciated.
Step 4. Start with low level naughty words
After the compliment, continue with some less-than-surprising mischievous remarks. You don't need to say the words you hear in movie X. Start by saying that you're engrossed in pleasure and passionate, but with the tone of a general adult category film. Here's a phrase you can try:
- "I need you."
- "I think about you all day."
- "You smell so good."
- "Oh my gosh, I've been missing this for a long time."
- "You are very sexy."
- "You always know how to excite me."
Step 5. Don't feel like your performance will be judged
You will quickly be embarrassed or depressed if you think someone is watching. There is no wrong way to seduce your partner with naughty words, you are just expressing yourself. Don't say anything you don't want, don't talk beyond comfort, and don't use words that make you uncomfortable.
Part 2 of 3: Saying Specific Words
Step 1. Say “I like it when you are my [verb] [body part]
This is the perfect formula for arousing arousal. There are many variations of verbs and body parts that you can include in the formula. Here are some lighter options, but you can also imagine other, more naughty words:
- "I like it when you kiss my neck."
- "I like it when you touch my thighs."
- "I like it when you lick my ear."
- "I like it when you rub my back."
- The words above can be replaced. For example, try the expression with other sentences, such as “It feels so good when you [verb] [part of my body].”
Step 2. Speak with the action
Describe what was going on while doing it. Pretend you're a sexy sports commentator, and it's just you and your partner competing. Add, “I like it when…” or “It's great when…” followed by a description of what happened to add to the excitement. This method will make the enjoyment doubled. Here's an example of what you could say:
- "I like the top."
- "I'm glad to see you take off your clothes."
- "I love kissing your neck."
- "I'm happy to undress for you."
Step 3. Ask if your partner likes what you do
While touching and stroking, ask him if he likes it. Don't just ask, "You like it?" many times. Lure him with varied and specific questions. Here's a question you can try:
- "Do you like it when I touch here?"
- "You like it when I kiss you like this?"
- “Do you like it when I caress you here?”
Step 4. Tell me how excited you are
Don't be afraid to say what effect the action will have on you. The words "I'm floating" are quite influential. Your partner will be more excited just by hearing how much you enjoy the action. You can be more specific about your passion, even mentioning personal body parts as emphasis.
Step 5. Keep looking for variety
Remember, in order not to be boring, you have to find new words that excite your partner. Don't just use one technique, try as many as you can. Try to choose specific words.
Don't just say pleasure, say which part of the body feels the pleasure. If your pleasure is so intense that it reaches your toes, say so
Step 6. Tell me your fantasy
Naughty words will flow smoothly if you want to share the sexiest fantasies with your partner. See if he can fulfill that fantasy. If you and your partner are comfortable with each other, just say it. Tell him everything you want to try and see if he's excited to hear that too.
Remember, you have to be careful. Make sure that the relationship is comfortable before sharing your deepest and darkest fantasies
Step 7. Say that you reach orgasm
Announcing that you are nearing your climax or feeling that you are almost at your peak will amplify each other's arousal. Anticipation will increase and both of you will be more satisfied when you reach the point of orgasm.
Step 8. Give orders to the partner
Don't be afraid to command your partner for a while. Tell him that you want him to do something, and be the boss overseeing how he gets things done. You can start with simple commands, such as “Take off my shirt” or “Take off your pants,” and work your way up as love plays.
- Don't be afraid to be a little aggressive. You're the boss, and tell him what to do.
- The two of you can take turns giving orders. After you've been the boss for a while, hand over the reins to your partner and do whatever he wants.
Part 3 of 3: Talking Naughty Smartly
Step 1. Make sure you and your partner are comfortable with naughty words
Although many people like it, not everyone does. If your partner doesn't like it, don't force it. If you insist, he may be irritated rather than excited.
Also, it's possible that your partner likes to hear, but is uncomfortable responding. If you're just enjoying a rant in return, it's probably best to forget about it. However, of course naughty words can still be brought to bed even if only one person is speaking
Step 2. Communicate boundaries
While there is no serious discussion of both parties' expectations of naughty words prior to the first exploration of sex as a couple, boundaries must be communicated. You may say naughty words spontaneously, but speak up if something makes you uncomfortable.
- If your partner says something rude or offensive, don't stop and get angry. Just say, "Please don't say that again." If he doesn't understand, then you just stop.
- If you are too embarrassed to admit that certain words make you uncomfortable, say it after making love. Make sure he understands.
Step 3. Don't confuse sex play with dynamics outside the bedroom
Remember that what is said in the bedroom is part of the sex game and should not be taken seriously after sex is over. If your partner allows you to say unusual words or call him certain names in bed, he doesn't necessarily like those expressions in everyday life.
Even though you and your partner have a certain role when making love, it doesn't mean that the role reflects the real role in the relationship
Step 4. Choose words wisely
Use common sense and avoid words and phrases that might offend your partner, until you've discussed boundaries and what you like and don't like. Start slowly and follow directions from your partner to find out what he likes. Do not kill the atmosphere by saying degrading or offensive words that hurt your partner.
Step 5. Try watching a blue film for ideas
If you don't have any ideas or are feeling uncreative, try looking for naughty words from blue films for inspiration. Of course, the words spoken by the blue movie stars are a bit extreme compared to what you might imagine, but they can at least be used as ideas.
If comfortable, watch a blue movie with your partner. You can come up with a great idea as well as excite it. Comment on what words and phrases you like
Step 6. Say it seriously
Even if naughty words are just part of a sex game and don't reflect reality, you still have to be yourself. You are still you, but in a more naughty and vulgar version. By being yourself, you will feel more comfortable and easy to explore the hidden bad side.
Tips
- Those naughty words don't have to be difficult. Start by saying what you like about your partner, and say what's on your mind. Such blatant honesty will make for an even more exciting evening.
- Remember, naughty words will only work for two people who are equally interested. If used to seduce strangers, you will be considered a pervert.
- Not sure what to say or still not comfortable saying it? Naughty words don't have to be rude and lewd. Try moaning or sighing as an expression of pleasure. Or, make simple expressions like “Oh, yes!” or "Yeah, I like it when you're so affectionate." Let your tone of voice do the talking behind the words.
