They say, everything is fine in love and war, and on the battlefield of love, there are few weapons more powerful than jealousy. If you do the right thing, you can use this weakness as your strength. Whether you want to play hard-to-get with a potential new partner, make your partner want you more, or want to get an ex who dumped you, follow these steps to get almost any guy to do what you want. If he is your "ex", then you have to try a little harder to get him by using another guy.
Step
Part 1 of 3: Getting Ready
Step 1. Make sure he likes you
Jealousy only works if he likes you. If he's completely uninterested in you, you'll have a very hard time making him jealous. The good news is, anyone you are currently dating or have ever dated is almost certain to be attracted to you, and the same goes for the guy who flirts with you. If you're not sure if a guy is interested in you, you can try to make him jealous.
- While it's impossible to know 100% that he likes you without asking him, there are many visible signs that he likes you. If he pays more attention to you, ignores you when you're with other people, or is constantly caught staring at you, then chances are he likes you.
- Of course, if you play your cards right, you can get a guy to pay more attention to you by making him jealous, but this will be harder to do if he doesn't have an interest in you first.
Step 2. Look your best
If you want to make him jealous, then you can't hang around in your sweatpants and headband. You may also not want to wear miniskirts or "stilettos," but you should make an effort to look pretty and cute when you know he's going to see you so he'll notice you. Make an effort to style your hair, wear dazzling clothes, and make yourself look like you're spending time improving your appearance.
This means you have to show the best version of yourself, not try to look like another artist or supermodel
Step 3. Let him see you having a good time
The best thing you can do is enjoy your good time without the guy you want to be jealous of. This could mean laughing with your girlfriends, dancing at a party, or doing something that makes you happy and free. Give all your attention to the things you do, and he'll see that you're really enjoying your time – and don't think about it at all! What could make him more jealous than that?
If he catches you looking for him in the room, or trying to act in front of him, then he won't be so jealous. Make sure he really thinks you're not thinking about him at all. This will frustrate him
Step 4. Make yourself look busy
Do the things you love. If you're so busy and having fun that you don't always have time for him, he'll start to feel a little jealous. This method is very effective especially for your ex. It shows that you can move on with your life and have a better time without him. Even if this failed to make him jealous, things would get better. If you don't look busy, you'll spend all your time chasing him and he'll notice.
- If you really can't stop thinking about it and don't have anything to do, make your schedule a little tighter.
- If he sees you busy and doing things that are important to you (besides him), then this is a good thing. He will be more interested.
Part 2 of 3: Taking Action
Step 1. Flirt with other men
There's nothing more frustrating for a man than seeing the woman he likes or is in a relationship with flirting with another man. A lot of men really like to compete because it's in their nature; and if another guy who likes you shows up, even a guy who hasn't noticed you before, might be interested. Make sure he knows that you're flirting with other guys by doing it in front of him or in situations that involve him.
- However, if you flirt with a lot of guys in a short period of time, he might notice it, especially if you're not used to flirting.
- But don't do it in a very obvious way because he might think you're the type of woman who is easy to approach and flirt with. We don't want to make a bad impression, do we?
- There is a difference between casual flirting and giving false hope. Don't flirt too much with a guy who likes you, just to get another guy, because you'll make the poor guy hopeful.
Step 2. Date other men
Actually dating another guy is a way of higher flirting, and will still make him jealous. Especially if you recently dated a guy or a guy just dumped you. Going out and dating someone else is a great way to keep you free and make the guy you want try harder to get you; in the case of your ex, he will truly regret losing you. Of course, you shouldn't date a guy you don't like, just to get your ex back, because you'll only hurt your feelings and make things more complicated than they need to be.
If you and the guy you're dating happens to be around a guy you want to be jealous of, be casual. Let him see that you're really enjoying your time instead of laughing too hysterically or trying too hard to say, "Look at me! I'm really enjoying my time without you!"
Step 3. Try ignoring it a bit
If he and someone else you know are sitting together on the bus, say hello to your friends but not to the guy you want to make jealous. You don't have to be rude or completely ignore him, especially if he's after you. But you don't have to talk to him or deliberately let him realize that you're watching him too.
- If he texts you often, don't reply right away. Give him at least a day or two to let him know you have something better to do than reply to his message IMMEDIATELY (even if you don't have one!).
- If he passes you in the hall and says hello, you can say hello, but don't slow down and talk to him; you have to go somewhere!
Step 4. Travel with your male friends
Even if you're not going out on a date, it's a good idea to go out with some of your male friends. Even if you are not in a committed relationship, there is nothing wrong with having male friends, but when you are out with them, your partner will at least be a little jealous and anxious.
You should really avoid him, and he'll get really jealous. Act like you don't care about him. Do it and you will have the perfect plan to make him jealous
Step 5. Make him a little anxious
If you are always there for him, you will lose your mystery, and mystery can create jealousy. For example, you don't always pick up the phone. When you call him back after a few hours – you should call him if you're interested – tell him vaguely what you were doing. Say you are out with a friend or are busy. Just by not picking up the phone, you make him think what you're doing and with whom.
In the same way, if he calls you to ask you to do something, once in a while it's okay to say that you have other plans, even if you don't actually have one
Step 6. Use social media
You don't have to "post" your picture with ten handsome guys playing volleyball casually on the beach. However, you can use your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or other accounts to let him see that you are living your life very happily without him. Whether you're "posting" a picture of yourself with a guy you know, mentioning a fun party or museum you went to on the weekends, or just showing the world how much you love your best friend. You can use social media to make him jealous and irritated by the fact that you don't need him.
However, don't post too much, or he'll think otherwise – that you're not enjoying life. Just "post" something two or three times a week to do it
Step 7. Don't be too obvious
Many guys, believe it or not, can tell if you're trying to make them jealous. Sometimes the best thing you can do is smile seductively at another guy, and the guy you want to be jealous of will listen to you. This is a subtle way of really getting him to notice you, so you don't have to go to the trouble of making him realize that you want him to see how much you don't need him.
If he's in the same room with you, keep doing the things you do. If you change your whole personality just to make him jealous, he'll notice
Part 3 of 3: Knowing What to Say
Step 1. Talk to another guy in front of him
Don't be too obvious when you do it. Don't say, "I went out with Mark over the weekend – Mark is so hot!" or he'll find out that you're just trying to piss him off. Instead, say something like, "Have you ever heard of Arctic Monkeys? Mark is burning their newest CD and I can't stop listening to it." Indirectly mentioning a guy you know will make someone much more jealous than talking about all the guys you know all the time.
Don't mention other men's names too often. Saying another guy's name once or twice during a conversation is enough
Step 2. Don't be a jerk
While making a guy jealous requires you not to be the best person in the world for him, don't overdo it. If you are very rude, talk too much about other men, or are not nice and respectful, to make a guy jealous, then there will come a point where he gets angry, and other people in your life will be upset too.
You can be a little cruel, especially if you want to get him back, but don't lose your true self
Step 3. Keep your conversation short
If you have to talk to a guy you want to be jealous of, don't give him all your time. Talk to him for a few minutes and let him know when you have to go – whether it's for class, meeting friends, or actually doing nothing. If he thinks he can talk to you for hours until "he" has to leave, then who wants dominance in the relationship? (Not you). Even if you love it and can't stop, force yourself to stop.
Don't give him 100% of your attention when you talk to him. Make him realize that you're thinking about something else
Step 4. Let your plan be a mystery
If he asks about your weekend, you can smile seductively and say "Really… fun." This will keep him guessing what you mean – he'll think you're enjoying your time with another guy watching a movie instead of celebrating Aunt Flo's 50th birthday. If you have to go, you don't have to say, "I have a dentist appointment!" But instead, say, "I'm too late for… things to do". He may think that you are going on a date and who are you to have the right to say otherwise?
Don't open up if you want to make him jealous. Let him guess what you're going to do and let him come up with his own scenario that will make him jealous
Step 5. Don't try to make her jealous for too long if your goal is to date her
If you want to make a guy jealous because he broke your heart and you want to get him back, that's a good reason. However, if you want to make him jealous because you actually like him and think this way you will get his attention, then be aware of your limits. A little flirting and being jealous is okay, at first, but if you overdo it, then he'll think you're not interested, not a nice woman, or the type of woman who would date all men. When you two start a relationship, you can reduce that jealousy.
If you date him, you can keep him interested, but there are better ways to do that than making him jealous! If you want to start a relationship with him, then the relationship must be built on a foundation of trust, not doubt and suspicion
Tips
- Don't overdo it and drive him away completely – this will give him hopelessness and make him care less.
- Don't let him know that you're trying to make him jealous. If he suspects the things you do to make him jealous, your plans will turn against you. If he asks if you're trying to make him jealous, act like you don't get the point, or, if you're trying to get your ex back, tell him how selfish he is, thinking you're flirting with other guys for it.
- Always show that you are enjoying your time without them. Laughing, smiling, and just talking to other people will make him jealous.
- Try to always look presentable around him.
- If he asks where you're going, say you're only going with a friend. This will make him curious and will think who is going with you, and whether it is a man or a woman.
- Be sure to mention the name of the guy you flirt with in front of him a lot, but don't overdo it or he'll get annoyed.
- Note that it is very difficult to make someone jealous if they are not really interested in you. And if he already has another partner, you may end up publicly stating that you're not a good woman.
- Don't be afraid to approach him.
- This is also good advice to find out if he likes you or not. If this doesn't bother him, then he probably isn't interested in you.
Warning
- Don't be too obvious or he'll think you still like him.
- Remember, when you're trying to make a guy jealous, you're playing a game. Be prepared when he turns things around. He would probably go and spend time with his girlfriends. This method can lead to infidelity and hurt all parties.
- Sometimes a guy can feel unwanted, which will make him disinterested in you. Be careful not to overdo it.
- When you pass him in the hall, don't look at him. If you usually do it, then he will think that it is strange and will make him think.
- On the other hand, some men respond to jealousy by giving in. If you're trying to get a guy to be attracted to you and make him jealous, he may decide that you're not worth pursuing.
- Be careful. Some guys, especially guys who don't come from Western culture, might find this very hard and be rude, or leave you in a flash.
- You have to understand that men have their own personality type and "jealous men" will respond to jealousy. Also, what about the guy you used to make her jealous? Had he been treated like that before? When you use a guy like that, who is easy to use, you may show a selfish and very indifferent side of you, which you don't want anyone to know. You will at the same time destroy the man's reputation as someone who stole another man's partner.
- Jealousy takes a toll on some men, making them violent, obsessive, or even violent. Be very careful when making a guy jealous, especially if he can't seem to accept it. If you know he tends to be violent or abusive, you don't want to deal with him, and you definitely won't make him jealous. If you've ever been threatened by a guy (or anyone), stay away from him and report any threats or if he's stalking you to the police.
- And there are some guys who enjoy "just chasing" and will stop being attracted to you when he knows you're not going to leave him.
- Do not exaggerate! If you overdo it, some guys will think that you don't like them.
- When he's around you, flirt and touch another guy on the arm, wink your eyelash, or whatever else will irritate him.
- If you try to make a guy jealous by spending time with another guy, he may think you're no longer interested in him. Even though he likes you, he may take this as a "sign" to back off and leave you alone. You may see this action as disinterest in you. Even though you liked it, you also stepped forward. So when the game starts, you run the risk of sending confusing and misunderstood signals, and losing someone who might think you're great but don't know how to tell you.
