Romantic relationships are complicated, especially if the fire of jealousy starts to burn within them, intentionally or unintentionally. If there is a guy in your life who is constantly trying to make you jealous on purpose, try to provide a neutral and intelligent response so that the behavior stops and doesn't further complicate your relationship with him. The most appropriate method actually really depends on the status of the man. Is he the guy you like, your partner, or your ex-partner? Read this article to find the full tip!
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Method 1 of 3: Dealing with the Guy You Like
Step 1. Evaluate the behavior
When dealing with a guy you like, and seems to be making you jealous, chances are the biggest question that pops into your mind is: “Was the behavior intentional or not?” If that question has never crossed your mind, start thinking about it! Perhaps, the man seduces other women to attract other attention. It's also possible that flirting is in his nature so he does it without any particular purpose.
- This issue generally arises if the man in question likes to flirt with you, but also often seduces other women. As a result, you're left wondering if he really likes you or if he likes to seduce all women. To get the answer, try to think about whether or not there is a difference between his flirting with you and other women.
- For example, if you see him walking down the aisle, try to observe where his eyes are looking. If he spontaneously locks his gaze on your face, then you can expect more. On the other hand, if he sees another woman straight away and doesn't even detect your presence, chances are he's not really interested in you.
- Don't assume that all the guys who offend other women in front of you are doing it to make you jealous. Chances are, he really does like the woman and wants to show it to you. If he's really taking advantage of other women to make you jealous, his inability to be loyal and respectful to other women should be a cause for concern. In other words, the man has the potential to become a bad partner for you in the future so it is best to stay away from him.
Step 2. Be honest about your feelings
If you feel the guy is really trying to make you jealous, the best thing you can do is confess your feelings to him. Chances are, his behavior is rooted in his insecurity about your feelings. In this way, the problem will be resolved if he finds out that his feelings for you are not unrequited.
- Unfortunately, this method is easier said than done, and you should also be prepared to accept rejection after confessing your feelings to him. However, seek clarity before the issue, and the situation in your relationship, gets worse!
- Wait for him to make his advances when the two of you are in a private room. Take the moment to express your feelings, then listen to their response before deciding on the right method to raise the issue of jealousy.
Step 3. Point out the problem
The issue of jealousy is actually still something you should discuss, regardless of the guy's response to your feelings. However, understand that the method you use must be adapted to the response.
- If he admits he wants to date you, say in a casual tone that his flirting should only be directed at you. Don't make her feel guilty, but make it clear that you don't want to see her flirting or flirting with other women.
- If he admits he doesn't want to date you, ask him to politely stop giving you false hopes. Accepting temptation or seduction from a man who doesn't want to commit will only hurt you. After all, the behavior is also unhealthy for both parties if it is not stopped immediately.
Step 4. Move on without it if your relationship doesn't work out
If the guy you like doesn't change his behavior after hearing your confessions and complaints, don't hesitate to end the relationship with him.
- Remember, being in a relationship with a partner who constantly flirts with other women will only make you more frustrated and insecure. As a result, the success of your relationship will be at stake in the future.
- Also, continuing to be friends with people you like isn't easy either. If he keeps giving you false hope, the best thing you can do is try to move on without him.
Method 2 of 3: Dealing with Couples
Step 1. Share your feelings
Sit down with your partner and share how you feel about their recent behavior. Then, try to set limits on what behaviors you can, and cannot tolerate.
- Chances are, your partner doesn't really want to make you jealous. In other words, he doesn't realize that his interactions with other women are actually bothering you. If that's the case, share your objections so he can limit his behavior further in the future.
- Even if your partner is trying to make you jealous, consider the possibility that he or she is simply feeling insecure in the relationship. Bringing up the topic gives both of you an opportunity to discuss the problem, as well as helping you to convince your partner of the seriousness of your feelings.
Step 2. Stay calm
Before, during, and after the discussion process, try to remain calm and in control. Don't be upset if your partner says or does something that makes you jealous.
- Express your feelings using “I” (like, “I feel…”) instead of accusing or blaming “you” (like, “You make me feel…”).
- If the misunderstanding is really serious, keeping your cool will help you find a more thorough and less conflicted solution.
- If your partner is constantly pissing you off and getting jealous on purpose, your anger is actually the reaction he or she wants. Therefore, try to remain calm, controlled, and mature when confronting his behavior. If the action does not stop even though you have expressed your firm objection, it means that your partner may have more serious problems so that the continuity of your relationship should be reconsidered.
Step 3. Reassure your partner
Often times, men like to make their partners jealous because they are unsure of how their ideal woman feels about them. Your partner may be too. This insecurity is actually normal, but it doesn't necessarily make his behavior acceptable.
- His behavior may be his way of getting your attention. In other words, you are "reminded" that he is a person who is liked and deserves to be loved by many people.
- Try to deepen the connection with your partner so that he gets the confidence he needs. Compliment your partner. Show your appreciation for all the positive things he does. Hug him, kiss him, and make physical contact that is intentional and at your convenience.
Step 4. Manage your insecurities
In addition to overcoming your partner's insecurities, control your insecurities as well. Therefore, increase your confidence so that you are not constantly obsessed with the jealousy that arises, you will undoubtedly have more energy to strengthen the stability of the relationship with your partner.
- Treat yourself well. Acknowledge your jealousy and reassure yourself that the feeling is so natural that you shouldn't be ashamed of experiencing it. Trust me, these feelings can only be overcome if you are able to accept and acknowledge them.
- Take time to focus on your personal interests. In other words, focus on developing yourself to know your contribution to the relationship. As a result, you can more easily accept the fact that your partner really loves you.
Method 3 of 3: Dealing with Ex-Spouse
Step 1. Ignore the behavior
If your ex is constantly flaunting his new relationship with you, don't make his wish come true by showing a jealous reaction. Instead, don't respond to his emails, text messages, or messages on social media. If the action doesn't stop, give him as neutral a response as possible before ending the conversation and walking away from him.
- Apart from not giving an immediate response, you must also resist the temptation to post ambiguous and passive-aggressive statuses on social media. Also, don't complain about his actions to your mutual friends so that your reactions don't reach the ears of your ex-partner.
- Be firm in your stance. No matter how hard your ex-partner tries to make you jealous, a consistent reaction will send a message to her that it's not going to work forever.
Step 2. Limit the momentum
If your ex-partner is very stubborn and his behavior is really bothering you, try cutting off contact with him. In other words, end the friendship with him on social media. If necessary, block all his social media accounts! If the situation is really negative, also block the phone number and mark the email address as spam.
Ex-partners may feel they receive temporary gratification because they managed to upset you. Therefore, it should be your negation of momentum that will cause him to end the behavior
Step 3. Don't seek revenge by seeking an outlet
Chances are, you're tempted to fight fire with fire, or to respond to his behavior by turning around to make him jealous. Unfortunately, the idea is very unwise! Getting into a new relationship just to make your ex-spouse jealous is extremely unfair behavior, both for you and for your new partner.
If you genuinely like your new partner, that behavior can also damage your relationship with him! Looking for an outlet to get back at your ex's behavior will only keep everyone focused on the past relationship. After all, doing so will only fuel an endless war between you and your ex. Therefore, you should end the relationship with your ex-spouse and focus all your attention on the new partner
Step 4. Avoid the urge to reconnect with her
Even if the opportunity presents itself and you're tempted to take it, don't do it! Remember, an ex who tried hard to make you jealous actually has the capability to hurt you. In other words, this kind of man is totally unworthy of your attention and affection!
Warning
- If your partner continues to make you jealous on purpose, even though you've been complaining about it, try taking him to therapy or couples counseling to address the issue. Worst case scenario, the problem is insurmountable, so you should be heartened to end the relationship.
- If your ex's behavior escalates after you ignore him, for example, if he starts to threaten or interfere with your life, don't hesitate to report it to the authorities.
