Making your ex-boyfriend jealous may seem like fun to repay the wound he left in your heart, but it's a complicated process. The best way to make your ex jealous is to ignore what he thinks and focus on your own life. This includes taking care of your health, meeting new people, learning a new skill, or something else. If you happen to run into your ex, be nice to him and show that you're happy. If the desire to make your ex-boyfriend jealous is affecting your happiness, seek help dealing with your emotions.
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Method 1 of 3: Creating New Life and Relationships
Step 1. Prioritize self-care
When a breakup, physical and mental health is sometimes forgotten. So, make a commitment to taking care of yourself as a top priority. This will make you feel better overall and can also make your ex-boyfriend jealous because he sees that you're okay. Some of the ways you can do this are:
- Exercise regularly and eat healthy. If you want to lose weight, set a goal to lose 2 kg next month.
- Take time to relax and enjoy hobbies. You can take a bath, read a book, play with friends, hike, or do whatever activity you like in your spare time.
- Revamp the appearance a bit. Buy some new clothes, get a haircut, use a teeth whitener, or try other ways to improve your appearance. Your confidence will increase, and your ex will be surprised when they see you later.
Step 2. Try a new hobby or learn a new skill
After a breakup is the perfect time to pursue a hobby or learn a new skill. You have more free time, so it is appropriate if you use it to indulge your interest. Find a hobby that you can learn on your own, or take a course to learn something new with other people. The next time your ex meets you or checks your social media profiles, he or she will be amazed at all the activities you do in your free time.
- For example, if you've been wanting to learn French for a long time, download a language app or take a French course.
- If you love to cook, buy a new cookbook or take a cooking class.
- If you like music, but can't play an instrument or sing, take private lessons or learn from online videos.
Step 3. Start dating again and cultivate a new relationship
One of the most powerful ways to make your ex-boyfriend jealous is to show that you've gotten over him by moving on with your life. Even if you still have feelings for him, try dating someone else. He must be a little jealous to hear that you're already dating and even enjoy the company of new people.
Be careful not to brag about your ex's new relationship. He will know that you are trying to make him jealous, and this effect goes against your goals. Don't mention dating when talking to your ex
Tip: If your ex asks if you're dating again, answer honestly, but casually. Try answering, "Well, a few times," and then change the subject. This conveys the message that you don't care what he thinks, but that you are dating someone else.
Step 4. Post positive pictures and updates on social media
You can use social media to make your ex jealous, just with information about how your life is now. If you're new to vacation, upload a photo album of that adventure. If you just got a haircut, upload a selfie. Share status updates that reflect a positive outlook on life.
Don't post anything negative on social media or brag about your life right now. Real, but positive
Step 5. Make new friends by joining a club or attending social events
Socialization is an important part of enjoying life after a breakup. Try getting involved with local clubs or attending social events in your area. This is an opportunity to make new friends, learn new things, and maybe make your ex jealous with your busy social schedule.
- For example, if you enjoy cycling, join a cyclist group and take weekly cycling events with them.
- If you enjoy learning about history, join a history-loving club.
Method 2 of 3: Interacting with Exes
Step 1. Take a break before seeing him again
While it may be tempting to "accidentally" run into him to make him jealous of your fantastic new life, be patient. It's best to wait at least a few months before coming into contact with him again. Before meeting, make sure you are not sad anymore and completely forget about it.
How long it will take to get over your ex cannot be determined, depending on the length and seriousness of the relationship itself. It may take weeks, months, or longer until you are ready. Before that, avoid him
Step 2. Wait for some time before replying to the message
You shouldn't text your ex because the impression it gives you is that you want to get back together or maybe you're lonely. However, if he sent the message first, please reply. However, the delay is longer than usual.
- For example, if you normally reply to messages within 5 minutes, delay it for an hour or so. This will make him jealous by giving the impression that you are too busy to type a message.
- If you want to convey that you don't care, don't reply at all. If you want, send a reply a few days later with a message saying, “Sorry! I was on a date yesterday when your message came in, so forgot to reply. I hope you are doing well!”
Step 3. Treat him politely when you meet him
If you happen to meet, focus your energies on being polite. If you seem comfortable and happy, he's likely to be more jealous than you are being mean or rude. Resist the urge to say what you really want to say.
- You don't have to have a long chat to appear polite. If you happen to meet on the street, a smile and brief eye contact will suffice.
- If he approaches for a chat, say, “Hi, Jo! How are you?"
Not ready to chat with your ex?
You can avoid it by saying, “Well, it's really nice to meet you, but I'm already late. Maybe we can meet again sometime."
Step 4. Show that you want to be friends at some point
If you're ready to chat again or even become friends, just say so. Seeing that you've recovered enough to be friends, he might get a little jealous. Make sure you stay relaxed and don't put pressure on him.
Try saying, “Hey, if you want, we can be friends again. The romantic part is over, but sometimes I miss our friendship."
Step 5. Praise the new relationship
If he has a new partner and is telling you about it, don't make harsh comments or show signs of annoyance. Say something nice and nice to congratulate. This is more likely to make him jealous than rudeness.
- For example, say, “Be happy, you know me! He seems sweet and fun."
- If you can't say something nice, don't say anything. Try changing the topic, such as, “That's great. Oh, did you see last night's game? I remember you when they won! You must be excited, right?"
Method 3 of 3: Seeking Help with Emotional Problems
Step 1. Enjoy time with friends and family who love and support you
Don't try to go through the breakup phase alone. It's not easy! Please lean on someone who cares about you and who will listen when you need to talk.
For example, call a friend, sibling, or parent if you need to talk, or arrange a weekly coffee break with some friends or family to make sure you're seeing someone else at least once a week
Step 2. Find a support group or people who feel what you are going through
After a long-term relationship, you may feel like no one can understand how you feel. If that's the case, you can seek support from people who have recently been divorced or broken up as validation of your feelings and to release emotional baggage.
Ask a therapist for support group recommendations, or search online forums if there are no such groups in your area
Tip: Remember, your ex's opinion doesn't matter anymore. Try to focus on yourself and what you want to do in life, not obsessing over making him jealous.
Step 3. Ask your doctor or therapist for help if you are having trouble
Breakups can be tough, make sure you seek help if you're having trouble coping with your emotions. Talk to your doctor or therapist. They may suggest antidepressants, talk therapy, or a combination of the two to help you be yourself again.
