“Auntie” is often defined as a woman in her 40s (or even older) age who is dating a much younger man, usually by 10 years or more. Popular culture portrays “aunts” as voracious and desperate, but women have turned against stereotypes, arguing that “aunts” are confident, successful, and single individuals in their 40s. These women are tired of men their age who have become unromantic and narrow-minded, so these aunties choose to date men who are younger, more active, and more adventurous. This article can give you some tips for recognizing and attracting “aunts”, who are more politely called older women.
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Method 1 of 2: Identifying an “Auntie”
Step 1. Forget everything you know about an “aunt”
In fact, forget everything about the term “cougar”. If you are interested in dating or having a romantic relationship with an older woman, you need to treat her as a person - not based on sexist stereotypes about the behavior of an older woman with high desire.
Step 2. Determine the age
In general, those aged 40 and over deserve to be called aunties, however, some people even categorize them from the age of 35 years. With the cosmetic development procedures and treatment procedures available, many men and women can look younger than their actual age. Here are things you can use when determining someone's age:
- Dry, dull and thinning hair: both men and women will experience a decrease in the quality of their hair as they age. You may notice that older women have hair that looks brittle, lacks shine, and lacks volume compared to younger women. Their hair may also be dyed to cover the gray color.
- Thin eyebrows and eyelashes: as we grow, our hormones drop so that hair growth slows down, which can make our eyelashes and eyebrows not as thick as before. Some women may choose to use pencil-drawn or even tattooed eyelashes, and eyelash extensions - so it can be difficult to determine their age based on these traits alone.
- Thinner lips and eroded tooth enamel: our mouths shrivel up as we age and our teeth will be damaged and eroded. You may notice a thin line around the lips of a more mature woman (could also be due to lip liner), as well as teeth that are duller and more faded.
- Thin skin: as a person gets older, the initially smooth neck skin becomes wrinkled and scarred, unless they have had Botox injections or skin surgery. Thin skin will also be clearly visible on the hands, making the veins, knuckles, and veins more visible.
- Dry and sagging knees and elbows: with age, the skin on our knees and elbows begins to dry out and loosen around the joints. More specifically, the skin on the elbows can be darker and drier than the surrounding skin.
Step 3. Review the use of cosmetics
Evolutionary psychology shows that, when assessing a woman's attractiveness, physical beauty is rated as a more important factor than when assessing a man's attractiveness. That is, when a man does not look attractive, they may still be liked for intelligence, antics, income, and others, while women are still often judged by their appearance. For this reason, it makes sense that an older woman is getting more and more diligent about dressing up to hide the signs of aging that can make her look less attractive.
- You may notice that older women tend to use more foundations, face creams, and powders in varying shades of color to make their faces look smooth and contoured.
- Older women will use lip liner to make her lips look fuller, eyebrow pencil to make her eyebrows look thicker, and blush to make her cheeks look younger and brighter.
- Contour makeup is a popular makeup technique today and is used by women of all ages.
Step 4. Don't think you can judge them by their sense of dress
The comical aunty stereotype is a woman who wears clothes that are too young and too tight for her, and are often synonymous with cheap-looking materials such as animal skin motifs. In fact, a woman of any age can wear clothes that are inappropriate and inappropriate for her.
- The way a woman dresses, regardless of her age, depends largely on her personal dress sense.
- Women of all ages use push-up bras. However, more and more older women are using it because their breasts will sag with age.
Step 5. Pay attention to her self-confidence
In general, the older a woman gets, the more she knows herself and the things she likes, and the more confident she becomes. Here are some signs that he has high self-confidence:
- Good posture: whether standing or sitting, a confident person will have a straight back and a balanced head on the neck, with the chin not raised too high or too low.
- Relaxed demeanor: a confident person will appear more relaxed in many situations, looks around the room with a smile, or appears calm with himself. He won't look nervous.
- Eye contact: a confident person will maintain eye contact in social interactions. However, there's a difference between maintaining eye contact and staring at someone intimidating: looking the other person in the eye for 60% of the time you talk to him is a basic rule to follow.
Method 2 of 2: Attracting the Attention of Older Women
Step 1. Know what you want and be honest about it
Whether it's a sexual relationship or a long-term relationship, knowing what you want can help pave the way to your goals. It's also very important that you be honest with the opposite sex about your desires, don't act like you're interested in a serious relationship when all you want is sex. Women enjoy sex as much as you, he may not have a problem with a non-binding relationship.
- A few things to consider: Is sexual intercourse with an older woman something you want to do once in your life? Or are you interested in a long-term relationship with someone who is more mature than your previous partner? Maybe you actually have a crush on a certain person and are thinking about how to get him to fall in love with you.
- Suppose you only want physical relationships with older women, you can rely on matchmaking sites that specifically match older women looking for a younger partner and vice versa. In fact, there are services dedicated to connecting older women with younger men.
- Matchmaking sites are also a good choice if you are looking for a long-term relationship with a more mature woman. However, your goal should be clear from the start.
- Women in their 40s have lives of their own, which means you can meet them anywhere. From gyms to sailing clubs, skit lessons, or even the nearest supermarket. A place where you can find common ground is a good place, no matter your age.
Step 2. Forget the stereotypes
Of course some of the older women live up to the traditional "aunt" mold, but most won't be what you think. As people in general, desires and behavior depends on the individual himself. When approaching a woman who is more mature, you will be successful if you are able to get over the stereotype and treat her with the respect and care you give to anyone else.
- Some sites may lead you to believe that there are certain types of “aunts”: rich “aunt” (or sugar mama), “grumpy aunt”, “sweet aunty”, “alpha aunty”, and “beta aunty”.
- While some of the stereotypes are true, you should first identify a woman as an individual rather than trying to lock her into pre-determined, narrow-minded, and condescending ideas about how a grown woman should behave.
Step 3. Show that you are interested
If you are attracted to a more mature woman, let her know. How you show your interest depends on your situation, including where you met him or how close you were to him.
- If you meet a woman at a bar, you can show your interest by smiling at her and noticing whether she smiles back or not. Wait and see if he keeps looking at you or not. If so, this may be a sign that he is interested. You can approach him and offer to buy him a drink.
- If you are attracted to a woman who is in the same running club, your tactics should be different. You can gauge his interest by starting a discussion with him after the run. There's no need for a serious conversation, a light topic like the weather during a run is enough to start a conversation.
Step 4. Be prepared to be rejected and accept it graciously
If you approach a more mature woman and get rejected, don't be a bitch. It's okay to show your disappointment and even express it in a polite and witty way. However, do not ridicule him or even threaten him.
- Do: “Too bad, but if you change your mind, I'm still here!”
- Don't: “Are you kidding? It's still fortunate that a young man like me is interested in you!!”
Step 5. Be “young
“If you're trying to attract a more mature woman, don't think that you have to behave like a man their age. Many women in their 40s admit they are looking for a younger man because young men are more open-minded, adventurous, and romantic.
- When dating an older woman, show your adventurous spirit and dare to try new things. Show him what you're interested in, and know what he's interested in. As with any relationship, take satisfaction from knowing each other and growing together.
- There are also benefits for you if you are adventurous and open-minded in matters of bed. Chances are he already knows exactly what he likes, so it's important that you be a good listener and follow his instructions.
Step 6. Be honest about yourself
If an older woman says that her last relationship ended because her partner was unromantic, stubborn, and a workaholic, and you know you're approaching a critical time in your career and need to prioritize your career, this may not be the time to be in a relationship with this woman.
Step 7. Be reliable and modest
Most older women (as well as men) go through enough bad relationships to know what works and what doesn't. They are not interested in playing games. Canceling plans at the last second and “forgetting” to call them for days to weeks may be tolerated by younger women, but not by older women.
