Loyalty is well understood by most people on a conceptual level. However, everyone has their own slightly different interpretation of the starting and ending points of loyalty. However, there are some clear definitions, habits, and practices to keep in mind when considering how fidelity works in a relationship.
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Method 1 of 4: Starting from the Basics
Step 1. Define loyalty for yourself
The dictionary definition includes external obligations to self and social. However, external obligations can feel like forced behavior. The most important thing about being faithful in a relationship comes from within: your personal moral view of those personal obligations.
- Know that love, dedication, loyalty, and commitment are personal choices. These things cannot be obtained from the outside; everything must come from within. Therefore, the first and most important thing is that you should understand your personal views on loyalty and change them or adapt them to the circumstances only as long as they do not conflict with your beliefs.
- Changing the concept of loyalty to make other people happy will cause you to feel unhappy while living it. Be realistic and honest with yourself, and know what beliefs you can and cannot change.
Step 2. Treat your partner the way you would like to be treated
Once you know what loyalty means to you, you also know how you want to be treated. On the other hand, it also shows how you should treat your partner. For example, if you want to depend on your partner for support, you must also show that you support them emotionally and financially in happy times and in bad times.
Step 3. Be realistic
There are very few absolute things in life, but you can depend on one of them: nobody is perfect. Your partner definitely has strengths and weaknesses, both good and bad. Don't expect him to be more noble than humans. On the other hand, do not desire to be more noble than humans.
Accept your partner for who they are-all their flaws. Imperfection defines us just like our strengths. Showing that you accept everything as it is will strengthen the loyalty between each other
Step 4. Stay committed
There is a reason why you love your partner. Remind yourself of this regularly as you work to strengthen what your partner means to you. This makes it easier for us to stay committed to a relationship and be faithful to our partner. Dating each other, taking time to chat with each other, and showing how you and your partner respect each other are all great ways to strengthen your relationship.
Step 5. Be faithful
It is a common belief that being faithful means not having an affair. Cheating is a behavior that will lead to the end of a relationship, in some cases. Discussing with your partner about the openness and closedness of your relationship and discussing what constitutes loyal and unfaithful attitudes is very important. Be sure to discuss expectations in a relationship and what attitudes you both need to feel safe and valued.
Method 2 of 4: Showing You Care
Step 1. Communicate
It's all about communication and nothing can demonstrate and strengthen loyalty more than open communication. Humans are social creatures. Not only do we love to share stories, but we need them. Communication will bring you closer to your partner and yourself.
- Minimizing misunderstandings will be easier if open communication is carried out on a regular basis. The more you know how and what your partner is thinking, the easier it will be to avoid conflict.
- Sharing the details will lead us to intimacy. This will also lead to deeper intimacy. It's like aging red wine: the longer you do it, the more fruitful and happy your relationship will be and the stronger your loyalty will be.
Step 2. Be honest
Keep your words and promises. The quickest way to lose fidelity or show that you are unfaithful is to constantly disappoint your partner by lying or not keeping promises. One term to always remember: only make promises you can keep.
Always keep your partner's feelings in mind. For example, if your partner doesn't look right in a certain outfit, there may be a nice way of saying it. "I think another suit will look nicer and sexier." "That dress is cute. But it seems there are other dresses that make you more elegant.”
Step 3. Learn what your partner likes and doesn't like
In this way, building loyalty is not hard work, but fun. The people we will strive for and whom we are attracted to are the people who take the time to get to know us better. You can make a game out of this.
- Surprise your partner with their favorite dish for dinner.
- Take your partner to a play if he likes theater.
- Avoid Michael Bay movies if your partner doesn't like action movies.
Step 4. Accompany him emotionally and physically
Providing support is key. Sometimes, your partner needs a hug or just wants to be heard. Understanding what he needs and providing it demonstrates and builds great loyalty.
- If you notice something is upsetting your partner, don't wait for him to come up to you and talk about it. Ask what happened. Your partner will be happy to know that you care about them.
- If he says he doesn't want to talk about it, don't force your partner to talk and leave him alone. Wait until he is ready and comfortable to talk.
Step 5. Know the difference between love and passion
We love our siblings, cousins, and families, but love for different partners and passion is the key to those differences. When your partner recognizes your passion for them, fidelity will become a stronger feeling and an increasingly important part of your relationship.
There are many ways to focus on building and keeping the passion burning. From intimate dating to sharing hobbies, you can have a lot of fun doing it too
Method 3 of 4: Make Your Partner a Priority
Step 1. Keep it a secret
Nothing kills loyalty faster than someone who divulges secrets. When you can't trust your partner with your confidential information, your need to be true to your word, promise, or obligation will wither and die. If he asks you to keep something a secret, keep it a secret.
If his secrets endanger someone you love, think of ways to deal with the information without jeopardizing your integrity
Step 2. Support your partner
As Don and Michael Corleone say in “The Godfather Part I & II”, never fight your family in public. Stay by your partner's side. Don't talk about your disagreements in public. This will build the power of loyalty when your partner knows you will support him and will never embarrass him in front of others.
- Disputes between spouses and families can be very sensitive matters. Remind yourself of this undeniable fact: you live with your partner, not family. This could be a relationship that you will have for life. Support your partner.
- Supporting your partner does not mean breaking ties with your family. Support your partner and then, if you don't agree, tell them when you were alone with them and explain why. This can go a long way in building loyalty.
- After discussing it with your partner, have a good talk with the family. Let them know that this dispute is not a problem and very difficult to resolve. You and your partner will continue to discuss it and maybe you can all talk about it again until an agreement is reached.
Step 3. Prioritize your partner's needs
If he is sick and you have plans, cancel your plans and take care of him. If he asks you to accompany him to an office picnic and you hate his boss, be patient and accompany him on a picnic until you are in a better mood. Your partner needs you. Accompany him.
Step 4. Accept your partner's flaws
Again, we all have flaws, so instead of berating your partner and making him feel like he's not perfect, accept your partner's faults and talk about it later. Give yourself time to look at the bigger picture so you can help him become a better person.
Patterns of behavior will be more clearly visible than events that are covered up. Once you both have time to yourself, seeing the larger pattern of behavior becomes an easier and more effective learning tool. But remember that the goal is to correct, not blame
Method 4 of 4: Face Differences Head-on
Step 1. Be mature when a dispute arises
No one can always get along all the time. You will definitely disagree. You can even fight. The key is knowing when it's time to step away, calm down, and come back to fix things once things have calmed down.
It's okay to disagree with each other. You won't always agree on everything, but it's important to remember that you still respect his position and his decision to believe what he believes
Step 2. Stay away from temptation
We are all easily tempted. If you're tempted, go to the bathroom or some other quiet place so you can be alone. Take a deep breath and really consider what you are going to do.
Accept reality. You will always see interesting people. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that everything else in the world is ugly, stupid, or unattractive. Know this and know that you are making the decision to be with your partner so that it will be easier for you to avoid temptation
Step 3. Master the impulse
Emotions pop up in an instant and go away easily-emotions are only more impulsive. Emotions can cause great pleasure in the short term but cause more pain in the long term, if not followed by reason. Self-control will always allow you to set priorities.
This is another example of getting away before something bigger and worse happens
Step 4. Take responsibility
Whether you made a mistake or said something insensitive, admit it. If your partner has a question, answer it. Don't make excuses, rationalize, or explain. Explain simply, honestly, and sincerely. Trying to deal with emotions can be done later if it's not too urgent.
