Every anniversary is an important date, especially in a couple's life, but if you've only been in a relationship for a month, you may be at a loss as to what to do. Do you need to celebrate or not? Should you celebrate by giving gifts to your loved ones? After reading this article, you will be able to find answers to those questions.
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Method 1 of 3: Marking Important Milestones and Looking Ahead
Step 1. Repeat your first date
Of course, this trick will be even more impressive if you've been married for 10 years instead of only dating for a month. However, even within 30 days, a relationship has certainly developed and you both reach a certain level of comfort and get to know each other better. Re-creating your first date or the moment when you mustered up the courage to ask your lover out on a date can show that your relationship has become stronger and generate feelings of enthusiasm for further developing the relationship.
- Wear the same clothes, go to the same restaurant, sit in the same place in the theater, and so on. You can laugh at the nervousness and awkwardness then and the comfort level you are both at now.
- If you want to emphasize that your relationship has become stronger while reminiscing about that first moment, give him a gift you didn't know a month ago whether he would like it or not.
Step 2. Choose a familiar gift, but in a different way
Chances are you've gone out to dinner together a lot and have a favorite restaurant. Why don't you invite your partner to go to a new restaurant and try a new type of food or if you want an even better surprise you can hire a private chef to prepare a special meal for the evening? You can also take cooking lessons where you can enjoy what you're cooking and spend quality time together.
If you both love driving and often argue (in a happy mood) about who is the better driver, end the argument by going to the nearest kart track
Step 3. Get out of your comfort zone
If you're dating someone and he or she likes ice skating or canoeing, and you have absolutely no experience in those activities, try learning them! This will show your boyfriend that you are trying to build a close relationship with him.
Plus, both of you may decide to step out of each other's comfort zones. Of course, you don't need to do extreme activities like skydiving (though that can be a great reward); sometimes singing a duet at a karaoke place can bring the two of you closer. There are an endless variety of options
Step 4. Take advantage of your knowledge
Whether you want to choose between chocolates or flowers, or hike a mountain or go shopping, use the information you've learned about him. What has he liked and disliked so far? How does he spend his free time? Did he ever say he wanted to try or see something “someday”?
- Make an effort to observe the things he likes. Over the past month, you've probably heard your partner talk about what he or she really likes. Try to remember the information to help you choose a gift.
- If you're having trouble choosing a gift, but want to surprise her, try asking her friends for help to see if the gift you've chosen will please her.
Method 2 of 3: Avoiding Awkwardness
Step 1. Decide when the anniversary date is
It may sound silly, but lovers often have different opinions on this. Did the relationship start the night the two of you met, on the first date, or when the two of you decided to date? If you ask this question, it means you have serious intentions in a relationship.
If you want to make a surprise gift or are too shy to ask, try figuring out which birthday date is most important to her. What moment does he talk about the most? If all your efforts are fruitless, choose the earliest date as a potential anniversary. Better to give a gift early than to make him think you forgot about it
Step 2. Discuss the possibility of giving each other gifts
If the relationship is still in its early stages like this, of course the situation will be awkward if one person prepares special gifts and big plans while the other has no idea what's going on. While the element of surprise will disappear if you talk about it, it can reduce stress levels because you don't have to worry about whether or not to give a gift and guessing what a perfect gift for her.
- There's no rule that says you have to celebrate a month's anniversary, or that you have to give gifts. There's also no prohibition if you both decide to do nothing. If you decide to give gifts to each other and set a clear limit, for example under IDR 200,000; homemade; and so on, it's also not a problem.
- Sometimes it's important to let your lover know that you're going to give a gift, especially if the gift is a ticket or is expensive. Besides, the two of you might be up to something and those plans conflict with each other.
Step 3. Don't overdo it
A month in a relationship may be an important milestone and need to be celebrated, but it still shows that the relationship is just getting started. Don't try to overpay for a gift you've received as doing so will create a standard that may be difficult to exceed. Gifts that are personal and creative will be more impressive than gifts that drain the pocket.
You'll probably regret it later if you haven't given any expensive gifts early in the relationship. If you're giving a gold bracelet to celebrate a month's anniversary, think about what to give your lover after 11 months? 24 carat diamond? (You want to swear?)
Step 4. Think carefully about sharing gifts
Of course, you should be optimistic and hope the relationship will last forever. However, take some time to think seriously before making a long-term investment together, such as getting a dog together or asking a lover to live together. Avoiding the complications that can arise from such a situation will prevent unpleasant consequences if the relationship does not go as expected.
If you want to share a gift with your loved one, choose an interesting shared activity. You can take cooking lessons together. Learn to dance together. If the relationship ends, one of you can change classes
Method 3 of 3: Showing Creativity
Step 1. Make your own gift
A simple gift made with your own hands is often more memorable than a store-bought gift. You can make gifts more personal and show how hard you worked to make them. If you believe the saying that it's not the gift that matters, it's the attention, then your boyfriend will appreciate the effort and thought you put into making the gift.
- For example, if you've never cooked for a boyfriend, try doing it. Even if your homemade fried rice doesn't taste great, you can laugh it off while eating a delicious pizza.
- Again, listen and learn. What is your partner like? Make something special to show that you care about him.
Step 2. Give something of personal or sentimental value
Do you think gifting a ring or a sports jacket for a lover is out of date? Maybe, maybe not. However, if you give something that has special meaning to you it will show your lover that you want to have a long term relationship.
- Remember the old, worn, but super comfortable T-shirt that your lover often borrows while the two of you are watching TV? Why not make it a gift?
- Be realistic. One month anniversary celebration is usually not enough reason to give a family heirloom like a grandma's ring.
Step 3. Spend time together helping each other
Why don't you choose a gift that will help you both become better people and improve the lives of others? Look for opportunities to volunteer in your community. Help clean the playground. Spend time with seniors or animals at the shelter. Collect food for people in need. A gift like this benefits not only the two of you, but the other person as well.
Think about goals or issues that concern your lover. Try to find ways to spend time with your loved one while fulfilling those goals
Tips
- Everyone has a different attitude towards commitment. Don't be surprised if your lover doesn't take the anniversary date seriously.
- If you hit a dead end, talk to his friends. It doesn't matter if the news reaches your lover's ears because it shows that you are interested in the relationship.
- At this stage, it's natural to talk about developing your relationship as a couple. It's important to explain your relationship status so that you can choose the right gift for your month-long anniversary.
- If you go to great lengths to choose a gift while your loved one has nothing prepared, don't let that discourage you or affect your attitude for the rest of the day. Never ask your lover for a return gift as doing so will put him in an uncomfortable situation.
- Something sweet and simple will always help. Don't give the impression that you're pushing yourself too hard, but show that you care.
- If your boyfriend insists on giving you a gift, don't feel like you're obligated to buy something in return. Homemade gifts are just as good.
Warning
- If you're very good at extreme sports like bungee jumping or rock climbing, don't focus on dating because it can be a nightmare for your partner.
- Don't criticize the culture that your partner believes in. Discuss your plans with friends you know together.
