Are you worried that your lover is cheating on you? While no relationship is perfect and it's impossible to predict the future, there are always ways for you to treat a guy to make him less likely to cheat. Both parties must work together to strengthen relations. If you do this, it will definitely reduce the chances of your lover cheating on you.
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Method 1 of 3: Strengthen Communication
Step 1. Maintain daily communication
Both parties should try hard not to withdraw. For a relationship to stay positive, you need to be in constant communication. It is important to keep the situation from getting worse. You have to master your relationship situation to be able to see if any dynamic changes occur before they become major changes.
- Talk to him about his day-to-day experiences. Text him "I love you" or call him when he's at work to ask how his day was. Do not do this too often because it will be annoying. Do it every now and then so he knows you're always thinking about him.
- Every day, never forget to ask: "How was your day?" This lets him know that you care, and creates a bond to always share positive and negative experiences. Don't forget the art of listening. This is very important in love and marriage.
Step 2. Improve the way of arguing
Couples who "argue well" are more likely to avoid cheating. Every couple has to fight. But there is a special way to make the fight does not turn into a permanent grudge.
- If there is a hanging problem, don't avoid it. Get it done and done by communicating your thoughts and feelings. However, avoid accusatory language. Instead of scolding for not doing something, just express how you feel about it.
- If you have concerns about something, frame it with something like, "I feel like this, that…" instead of using blaming language like "Why don't you… etc." Keep your comments focused on "Me".
- Use plural or plural pronunciations, such as "we" and "we". The results of scientific studies have found that couples who do this do not have protracted fights. Don't shout, don't be negative and say things you'll regret later. If you really need breathing room, give it, and continue the conversation the next morning.
- Try the 48 hour rule. If you're upset about something your partner did, wait 48 hours before commenting, and see if you're still upset. This approach will help you solve the problem with much less emotion.
Step 3. Don't criticize constantly
Yes, sometimes he forgets to put his socks back in their place. Or come home late, or forget to clean the house. Make sure you don't criticize him every day about this or that.
- Men also want to be appreciated or appreciated. So, avoid negative habits in the relationship and especially in the household, such as blaming, threatening, punishing, or criticizing. You can make a list of the things you criticize him for, then cross out half of them to consciously reduce the habit of criticism.
- Avoid generalizing statements. It is not effectively used in communicating. Words like "never," "always," or "every time," make a statement seem general. For example, avoid statements like, "Why don't you ever get home on time?"
- Don't complain about the diet. This really pisses men off. It would be better if you occasionally make him his favorite food, so he misses home.
Step 4. Be gentle with your man, and firm on the issue
If you are upset about something he did, when talking to him, separate the person from the problem.
- Remind him that you really think he's a nice person, or that you know he didn't mean to do anything wrong, but you're sad that he does (whatever his behavior upsets you).
- Ineffective communication will actually have the opposite effect than expected. Like making a problem into a personal attack, attacking a partner while the real problem is actually minimized.
Step 5. Say you love him
When was the last time you said you loved him? Sayings like this don't know enough. Say this before you go to bed at night or when he goes to work. Try saying this at least once a day.
- Give him a compliment. Notice if he just got a haircut. Say it openly if she's wearing a t-shirt in a color that matches her eyes.
- Use expressions of affection, my heart, my love. This creates a bond and reminds you that you really love and care. Include this habit in everyday speech.
Method 2 of 3: Increasing Intimacy in Your Relationship
Step 1. Be the closest friend
Maintaining a lasting relationship in the long term doesn't just have to be a night out and out of town. What's important is being able to depend on each other and show real love and care.
- Show understanding. If he's had a tough day at work, or if he's been overly focused on stressful office work for a short period of time, show your understanding.
- Show appreciation or appreciation. Remind him that you appreciate the little things he does. If he makes a great dinner or fixes something around the house, show that you care.
- Above all, always show kindness and gentleness in demeanor, in word and deed. Make yourself a reliable person. If he asks you to be somewhere for him, do so, and don't forget. Be the number one person to turn to when you need help.
Step 2. Keep your marriage centered on your spouse and children
In essence, you must prioritize your marriage. You should make time for yourself and your partner, free from the distractions of work or children that drain your emotional energy.
- Make time for date night just the two of you, a few times a month. This provides an opportunity to see each other in romantic situations, which is definitely not easy to come by in the midst of busy parenting.
- Choose the right friends. Many studies show that couples who are friends with other couples who are also happy are much less likely to divorce. So, choose your friends carefully. Increase the number of friends who are married or have a family, not just friends who are single when you are alone.
- If he starts to have lots of friends you don't know, such as coworkers, make an effort to get to know them as a couple. For example, invite the office mate to have dinner together, with her husband.
Step 3. Emphasize love and compassion in your relationship
Fully aware that he wants to feel wanted. Sometimes men cheat because they feel sexually unwanted. If you take the time to remind him that you love him-show it real and genuine-you'll be less likely to cheat on him, and he'll be more open to showing the affection you want in return.
- In order to make him feel wanted, you must create intimacy in your marriage. The method can be varied. One of them is through communication. Another way is to hold hands or kiss them. The little touches are really very important in love and marriage.
- The results of the study show that emotional dissatisfaction is the most common reason for men to have an affair, compared to sexual dissatisfaction.
- Leave little notes with love messages, compliments about his new tie, buy him a surprise gift, make dinner, make his favorite food – all of these are ways to show affection to your partner. It can't be one way, really. But if you do, chances are he will too.
Step 4. Use gentle touches even during a fight
The human touch is very, very important. If you're having a tough time communicating, touch her hand or knee. You'll be surprised how hard it is to fight when you touch each other.
- Hug and/or kiss him on his way to work in the morning, kiss hello at night, and goodnight on the forehead before going to bed. This creates a constant bond of intimacy.
- Hold his hand, touch his shoulder, all the little touches during the day will be able to remind you how much you love and care.
Step 5. Understand her love language
Dr. Gary Chapman writes in his book entitled “Five Love Languages”, which argues that people receive love in different ways. What is your husband's love language? If you can find this, you will be able to make him feel loved.
- The act of serving. Does he feel loved when people do something for him?
- Physical touch. Is physical touch important for him to feel loved?
- Words of affirmation. Does it matter to him that you express your love with words?
- Time together. Does he prioritize the time you spend with him and how do you spend time with him?
- Present. Is he sure you love him because you gave him a gift? Remember that most people have more than one love language. However, guessing which one to prioritize or emphasize the most, is what matters.
Step 6. Don't forget the importance of sex
Yes, sometimes you are not in the mood. Blocked children or work. And yes, sex is only one aspect of a relationship, but it is a very, very important aspect. So don't ignore it.
- Sometimes you are the one who has to start first about sex. Men need and want to feel wanted. This is real and very important. If you make body cues as an invitation to make love, he will feel that you want it. Again, this is very important.
- Don't let the relationship get boring. You have to be open and do a little experimentation. Not that you have to do something that makes you uncomfortable, but the same sex positions all the time? Let's change.
Step 7. Learn about his interests and likes
While you don't have to be a chameleon who dies of being yourself following your husband's preferences, what's wrong with trying to develop a bond by liking some of the things he likes?
- Take the time to really understand what he does at work. Read one article per week about his field of work, so you can surprise him with intelligent conversations about his work during casual chats during the day.
- What's wrong with watching an occasional sporting event, or learning how to play golf, if that's what he likes?
- Instead of feeling threatened by old coworkers or close friends at work, get to know them too.
Method 3 of 3: Making Your Relationship More Enjoyable
Step 1. Be spontaneous every now and then
Men cheat, sometimes because they want physical variety. Marriage or romance at this point has reached a saturation point and men want to do or get more exciting stimuli. The sensation of chasing the first kiss was so evocative, for example. If you want to recognize this factor, you can start trying to make your own relationship more interesting.
- Do things spontaneously (and sometimes have to be willing to leave the children). Secretly arrange weekend events and surprise him with this.
- Change your hairstyle. He might be surprised when he comes home and finds your new and sexy hairstyle. Or try a new perfume. Buy a new car. Do something to change and liven up the atmosphere, the occasional item.
- Develop a hobby. When he sees your pleasure in doing something new, he will be encouraged to try too.
- More walks. Occasionally changing the atmosphere is quite effective in reducing boredom.
Step 2. Have your own interests
Find your own passion or liking. Self-confidence is interesting to see because it presents a person who has something interesting to talk about.
- Don't force your husband or partner to realize that you don't deserve to be cheated on. Just develop a persona and a life that can tell a story on its own.
- Men like confident women. Excessive jealousy is not that attractive. If you check his belongings frequently and constantly insist on whether he's having an affair, you'll actually increase the chances of him cheating on you for real.
- You are a woman who should not be cheated on because you have passion, do not hesitate to work hard, hobbies, and friends who care, as well as an attitude of confidence.
Step 3. Take care of yourself
Yes, he is obliged to love you just the way you are. And yes, he himself must have been fatter than he was in college. However, if you really don't take care of your body, it will make him more likely to glance at other women.
- Work out together. Not only will you both be healthier, but it will also allow you to spend time with him in a positive way. Doing something together outside of routine activities at home is a good way to build togetherness.
- While you don't have to dress up all the time, if you're not at work, don't welcome her home in sweatpants and messy hair. Wear little makeup and don't wear pajamas.
- Go to one of the makeup counters at the mall and ask them to show you how to use the product. Some women do not like to wear a lot of makeup just because they feel less confident and do not know the right way. Most men do not like to see women with too thick makeup. A little mascara and powder is sometimes more than enough.
- Wear something sweet to look at when going to bed. No need to go overboard with fancy lingerie (although sometimes you can), but at least don't make oversized granny-style nightgowns. Sleep in your husband's shirt or a t-shirt with short pajama pants.
Step 4. Make sure you both have fun
Romance can be strained due to the routine of everyday life. Make sure you take enough time to have fun.
- You and your husband can write a list of fun things to do. Then, reveal the list. Each must choose an item from the list of pairs, then make a schedule for its implementation!
- Try doing new things with your partner (exploring new foods, for example) or trying out an athletic activity.
Tips
- Don't spy. Not only does this sound insane – depending on what you're doing, it's also likely illegal.
- Don't interrogate his friends. Because he must have known or been told, and this makes you seem vulnerable and restless. No one likes fragile and restless people.
- Apologize carefully. There are women who tend to over-apologize. Don't say, "I'm sorry." unless you really intend to admit you were wrong. If it's not your fault, don't apologize.
- There are men who keep cheating, no matter what you try. If you're partnered with a pathological cheater like this, then walk away. Leave him. Reclaim your self-respect and realize that you weren't wrong.
