When you're a teenager, getting a boyfriend sounds really hard, especially if you've never had one before. Luckily, by showing self-confidence, building friendships with women, and having the courage to confess your love, you can get a girlfriend in no time!
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Part 1 of 4: Getting Your crush's attention
Step 1. Show your confidence by standing up straight and making eye contact
Even if you're not very confident, you can look better by practicing good posture and looking your crush in the eye. This will show confidence so that he believes that you are an interesting person to know.
It's important to feel confident, but being too cocky will only drive women away from you
Step 2. Smile when he is near you
Something as simple as smiling can soothe your heart when you're around someone you like. In addition, smiling can also make you happier. Smiling can send a signal of happiness through the brain, relaxes the body, and lowers the heart rate.
Smiling can also affect other people's subconscious so they are more likely to smile too
Step 3. Get in the habit of taking care of yourself every day
Girls are more easily attracted to people who are clean and tidy. Shower every day, trim your nails, apply deodorant or deodorant daily, and brush your teeth twice a day.
- Good personal hygiene is much more important than just getting a girlfriend. It can also make your life healthier in the long run.
- If you want, you can use perfume or cologne when you dress, but not too much so you don't smell too much.
Step 4. Wear appropriate clothing
You don't need to use the most expensive designer clothes to look good. Just wear clean, wrinkle-free clothes that are comfortable to wear on your body, and make you feel more confident.
Even if you don't have much money for shopping, you can wear clothes that are in your closet, then ask for clothes as gifts or gifts on birthdays and holiday seasons
Step 5. If you are a girl, find out if the girl you like is a gay person
If you are a girl who is interested in a same-sex relationship, it can be quite difficult to find someone to date. If you're not sure if the person you like is a lesbian, ask someone you both know for help. Pay attention to whether the woman is flirting with you, or ask her directly.
- A subtle way to find out his sexual orientation is to ask "So do you have a boyfriend?"
- Some of the signs that show that a girl is interested in you are her attitude that seems happy whenever you come over, always looking for reasons to touch or be near you, or smile every time she sees you. However, these signs could mean he sees you as a good friend. So, don't rush and wait for the right time to act.
Part 2 of 4: Talking to a Girl
Step 1. Introduce yourself if you don't know the girl
This will show that you are confident and interested in him. At first, breaking the ice seemed scary. However, try to take a few deep breaths and remember that in order to be the girl's boyfriend, you have to talk to her.
Try asking small questions or asking for help to start a conversation. For example, if you are in class, you can say something like. "Hi, I'm Rudi. Can you lend me a pencil?”
Step 2. Start small talk
After introducing yourself, try to make small talk with him. Throw in a question, talk about school, or have a chat about something around you. This conversation doesn't need to be very long, but it can let him know that you're aware of his presence.
Stay away from serious chatter, such as politics, religion, or anything too depressing, at least in the first meeting
Step 3. Make him laugh
If you can make a girl laugh, she'll want to spend more time with you. Try telling a joke, making fun of yourself (not too much), and finding all kinds of other things to laugh about.
- When you get to know him better, send him a funny text or meme to make him laugh.
- If something funny happens around you, turn the moment into a joke for both of you and remind him of the incident at an unexpected time.
Step 4. Ask things about him
Over time, when talking to the girl you like, ask questions that will help you get to know her better. Ask about his friends, his pets, the kind of music he likes, or anything else you'd like to know. While talking, tell him things about yourself too. However, don't monopolize the conversation by talking about yourself all the time.
- Ask something like, “What do you do on your weekends?” to find out what he likes outside of school.
- You can also ask something like, “What is your favorite subject?”
Step 5. Listen to him carefully
Show him you're paying attention by nodding and responding when he's talking, like "Wow!" or “I just found out about this.” Try to see things from his point of view so that you are more interested in joining the conversation. In addition, showing empathy can also increase your chances of getting a boyfriend.
- Listening to what he has to say is the best way to know if you and him are compatible.
- It also shows that you are interested in what he thinks, so he feels valued.
Part 3 of 4: Building Deeper Relationships
Step 1. Spend time with him
There is no need to rush to express love. Stay calm and spend time together while strengthening your friendship. Apart from giving him the opportunity to get to know him better, this will also give him a chance to get to know you and decide if he feels the same way.
- If you go to the same school, try to meet up between class changes or during lunch breaks.
- Outside the school environment, try to meet in a large group so you can be more relaxed and less aggressive.
Step 2. Do what he wants to do
While it's also fun asking him to do things you enjoy, it's important to let him choose what he wants to do. This way shows that you are a person who likes freedom, puts him on an equal footing with you, and values your relationship.
For example, if he wants to meet you and your friends for pizza, welcome his invitation to accompany him and his friends to the movies
Step 3. Don't pretend to be someone else
You are a unique person. If you want a boyfriend, he must be able to accept you as you are. Focus on the talents and abilities that make you special, then let him know who you really are.
- If you pretend to be someone else and your crush finds out who you really are, they won't trust you anymore. He may also not want to waste time getting to know the real you.
- It's hard to open up to other people. So, don't be in a hurry to start being open with him. He would love to see a different side of your personality.
Step 4. Praise him sincerely
You shouldn't overdo this especially when you're just friends, but if you notice something about him that you like, let him know. Compliments can be given when she gets good grades, puts on a dress that makes her look even more beautiful, or changes her hairstyle.
- You can also praise his qualities, such as his always being kind to everyone, even the less popular kids.
- Do not praise her body shape, because this can make her feel uncomfortable.
Step 5. seduce the person you like.
It's important to build a good relationship with the girl you like, but if you want to know if she's interested in dating, try flirting with her. Look him in the eye as you talk, find reasons to touch him, and keep your hands open in a relaxed posture when he's around you to show interest.
- The closer you are to him, the easier it will be to show that you are flirting with him.
- Give him space if he doesn't seem interested in your flirtation. For example, if he shows signs of not wanting to be touched, keep your hands away from him so he doesn't get scared.
Part 4 of 4: Expressing Love
Step 1. Look for signs that show he likes you
While flirting with your crush, pay attention to their reactions. If he seems to enjoy your attention, such as blushing or smiling when complimented, he may be interested in dating. If he looks away or doesn't seem happy around you, it's best to find someone else to approach.
- Touch his arm, hand, or shoulder and see how he reacts. If he pulls away, he may feel uncomfortable. However, if he lets you touch him, chances are he likes you too.
- If he pulls his body away, respect his personal space and don't touch him again unless you're sure he really wants to be touched.
Step 2. Choose the right time to express love
The best time to express love to a girl is when you are alone with her in a quiet place. This way, he will focus on what you are saying.
If he feels pressured or distracted, or if there are a lot of people around him, wait until you find a better time and situation
Step 3. Ask him to be your girlfriend
How and where to express love is your own choice, but don't overdo it. Try to look him in the eye and think about what makes him so special to you. After that, express your love and ask him to be your girlfriend.
- Don't assume he will know what you mean. Ask clearly.
- You may need to ask her out before asking her to be your boyfriend. You may also need to ask her out on several dates. However, you can also make him your girlfriend before going on a date. Choose which method is more natural for you.
Step 4. Plan the perfect date if he is willing to be your girlfriend
It's a good idea to make some dating plans. So, when he becomes a girlfriend, you are ready with some suggestions. Think about what he likes, then plan a dream date based on that.
- Even if you don't have a lot of money, you can still plan an interesting date that he likes.
- For example, if he loves romance a lot, ask him if he'd like to go on a picnic together at the park.
- Another option is to cook him dinner, watch football together, or come to the dance show he's been waiting for.
Step 5. Respect your crush's opinion if they say no
Unfortunately, even if you've done everything right, there's no guarantee that the person you like will want to date. Rejection can be very painful, but try to accept it gracefully.
- If he says no, say something like “I see, that's okay. See you at lunch time tomorrow,” even though you feel very disappointed. That way, he won't act awkward in front of you.
- Just because this girl doesn't accept you, doesn't mean you don't sell. Keep looking and you will find the right person.
