Finding a girlfriend is indeed difficult, especially for teenagers who are still in junior high school. At this time, teenagers experience drastic changes both physically and emotionally, and are still looking for identity and trying fun activities. If you're still in middle school and want to have a girlfriend, chances are you and her, the girl you have a crush on, both haven't had much previous experience. But don't worry, if you really want to have a boyfriend, you just need to flirt a little, make him feel special, and ask him to be your girlfriend.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting His Attention
Step 1. Get him to notice you
If you like a girl at school and want her to be your boyfriend, the first thing you should do is make her realize that you exist. You can't make him your boyfriend if he doesn't know who you are. To get him to notice, you not only need clean clothes, a presentable appearance, and an attractive smile, but also find ways to get him to see you, preferably when you're looking good.
- If you know you're going to meet him on a certain day, make sure you look good.
- Even if you're not in a good mood, try to smile and send her positive vibes, so she'll want to get to know you.
Step 2. Have fun
Invite him to chat. Get to know him. Be honest and be friendly. In a relationship, the most important thing is a partner. While chatting, try to get to know him better. Nobody wants to date someone they don't know.
He won't be impressed if he sees you sleeping in class, or kicks a bench in the way. You have to make him see that you are a nice person
Step 3. Get his attention in class
To get a girl's attention in class, you don't have to be the favorite student. However, you have to do a few things to get him to know you. Let him see you chatting with friends before class starts so he knows you like hanging out. Pay attention to the lesson and answer the teacher's questions correctly so he knows that you are smart. And don't be rude to the teacher just to make your crush laugh.
- You can tell jokes in class to show that you like to joke, but don't target your friends or teachers. It will make him think that you are not wise.
- If by chance your eyes meet him or by chance going to class together, don't be shy to say hello.
- If you sit next to him, you can chat a bit, maybe ask if he's ready for the exam, if he understands the homework given yesterday, or just ask how he's doing.
- You can ask him to help you in class or ask him to teach you. Just walk up to him and say, “Hey, I'm really bad at math and I thought would you like to help me study sometime?
Step 4. Get his attention outside the classroom
You can also leave an impression on a girl if you pass her in the hallway, at the mall, or at a party. You don't need a flip to make him see that you have something special. If you meet him in an unexpected place, don't be shy and then avoid him because you're not ready to meet him. Instead, approach him and ask how he's doing.
- If you see him in the hallway, greet him and walk beside him if you are brave enough.
- If you see him at the mall or at a party, let him see you chatting with friends, acquaintances, and other girls so he knows you're a cool guy who gets along with just about anyone.
Step 5. Be friendly
Maybe you think that a friendly attitude is not dashing, let alone like to smile or be caring for girls, but the truth is quite the opposite. He should be able to see your face lighten up as soon as he gets closer, and start to see that you might like him without making him feel annoyed or uncomfortable. So, when you see him, give him a bright smile or wave and ask how he's doing. Don't be afraid to look unmanly just because you can't ignore him.
Remember that most boys in middle school are nervous about asking girls out. If you stay calm and greet him like it's no big deal, you'll really stand out from the rest of the guys
Step 6. Start a nice chat with him
Saying hello and making him see you having fun is a great way to get him to notice you, but when the time comes, you'll have to take action and have a chat with him. Chances are he'll want to be your girlfriend if he realizes that you can chat casually and make him happy and comfortable. Here's how:
- Start by making him comfortable. Pay attention to him and make eye contact without cornering him or making him nervous.
- Ask him what he will do. If you meet him in the hallway, ask him what class he's in. If you see him in the yard, ask him if he's going to a club meeting or what he's going to do after school without appearing overly curious.
- Make him laugh. If you start by mocking yourself or telling a harmless funny story about a teacher or a friend, you're on the right track.
Part 2 of 3: Making Him Feel Special
Step 1. Show that you are interested in his life
If you want him to feel important to you, you have to show an interest in his life. This doesn't mean you have to bombard him with probing or interrogation questions, but you do have to make him see that you have an interest in his hobbies, family and friends, as well as other things that are important to him. Here are a few things to try:
- Ask about dance lessons or sports he plays. Girls love to talk about their interests.
- Ask about the pet. If he has a cat or dog, he'll be happy to know that you care.
- Ask about his friends. Girls love to talk about their friends, and all the drama they've been through.
- Make sure there is reciprocity here. He also needs to know about your life, not just tell a lot without listening.
Step 2. Ask her opinion
If you want him to see that he matters to you, you should ask his opinion on various topics so he knows that you care what he thinks. You also have the opportunity to seduce her here by asking if she likes your new shoes or asking what style of hair you should cut, but besides that, you can also ask her opinion on more serious matters.
- If there is an interesting debate in class, you can chat with him after leaving class to ask what he thinks about the matter being debated.
- If you know he's also seen the movie you just watched, ask him if he liked it and why?
- Ask about his favorite music. Know what kind of music he likes and what he doesn't. Who knows, maybe one day you can take him to a concert together.
Step 3. Praise him
If you want to make her feel special, you have to compliment her on both her looks and personality. Don't over-praise and say something that makes her uncomfortable, for example, don't say, "You are the most beautiful girl in the world," instead say, "Hey, I like your sweater. The beads are like your eyes." Here's another example of a compliment that can make him feel special without discomfort:
- "I like talking to you."
- "Your laugh is delightful."
- “Has anyone ever said that you look like… (name of a beautiful artist here)?”
- "It's great that you can be a champion in school and play basketball."
Step 4. Seduce him a little
Once you get to know each other better, you can start flirting by teasing him, playing pranks, and making him realize that you like him more than a friend. If you want to seduce him, you have to use body language to let him know you care about him, the trick is to face him, make eye contact and smile at him, as well as give subtle signs that you like him.
- Tease him a little and let him reciprocate. Don't flirt so seriously that it will be misinterpreted. Instead, tease her favorite color purple or her obsession with boy bands.
- You can cross the touch line by pretending to hit his arm or let him nudge you a little if you say something that makes him laugh.
Step 5. Make him realize that you care about him
If you want a girl to start thinking that you want her to be your boyfriend, you have to make her realize that you care about the things she says or does. If she just got a haircut or put on a new jacket, tell her that she looks beautiful. If on Friday she says she's nervous about the weekend because she has ballet, ask again on Monday. Those are examples of the little things that will make him realize that you are important to him.
- If he ever says that his favorite actor is Ryan Gosling, you can tell him a new movie starring the actor is out over the weekend. He'll be touched that you remember his favorite, maybe even want to go to the movies with you.
- If you've been talking to her a lot and notice that she's not as cheerful as usual, you can casually say, “Looks like you've got a problem. Want to chat?” Even if he's not ready to talk, he'll appreciate your attention.
- If you know he's going to have an important exam and he's nervous, say "Good luck!" and ask again after. You don't have to memorize all of his schedules to know the key moments that matter to him.
Step 6. Do something unusual for her
If you and he are already flirting and getting to know each other better, you can start doing something more meaningful to let him know that he's important to you. You don't have to do anything big to make him realize that you would do anything for him and care about his feelings. Here are some examples of things you can do:
- If he can't make it to the cafeteria for lunch because he has to study for an exam, offer to bring him some bread or a quick lunch.
- If the two of you have been chatting a lot outside of class, this time do something a little more, like taking him to his class.
- If your friends are waiting somewhere, don't just leave them. Keep chatting for a while to a point where it's reasonable to show that talking to her is very important, even if it means the other friends have to wait a minute or two.
Part 3 of 3: Asking Him Out
Step 1. Make sure he likes you too
While there's no surefire way to tell if a girl likes you without asking, there are some signs that show she likes you more than a friend. If you're pretty sure he likes you or even just suspect that he does, you'll be more confident when you ask him to be your girlfriend. Here are signs that show he likes you:
- If his face brightens every time you walk up to him and you know he likes to chat with you.
- If he's always laughing or giggling when you're chatting, even when you're not that funny.
- If your friends start giggling or suddenly stop chatting when they see you with them.
- If he's hinting that he'd love to have a girlfriend or asking about your plans for the weekend, expect you to ask him to do something.
Step 2. Find the right time and place
If you want to increase your chances of success when asking him out, you have to do it at the right time and place, in a situation that is most comfortable for you as well as for him. Choose a place where you can be alone, or a place that isn't too crowded, so he has time to think and doesn't feel like he has to tell his friends right away. Pick a time when he's in a good mood and he doesn't have to catch up on basketball practice or the next lesson.
- You don't have to stress about finding the perfect or even the most romantic place to ask her out. If you wait too long to wait for the right place or moment, you might lose your chance.
- Taking him down the hall after school is a pretty good idea as long as it doesn't make him late for practice.
Step 3. Say that you like it
You don't have to say she's the prettiest girl you've ever seen or that you can't stop thinking about her, even if that's how you feel. Start slowly by saying that you think he's really cool and that you're happy to know him. And if you have something in common with him, mention it too. This shouldn't take more than a minute. You don't have to go into all the reasons why you like him.
- Say, "I just wanted to say that," so he's flattered and pleased that you've made the effort to convey your feelings.
- This is also a good time to gauge his reaction. If he moves closer, smiles or blushes, or even says that he feels the same way, then you can ask him out. If he backs off, says he has to go, or doesn't respond well, asking him out will only make him more uncomfortable.
Step 4. Ask her out on a date
Once you've expressed your feelings, you should ask him if he wants to date you. In middle school, this meant asking him to be your girlfriend, so don't be afraid to ask. Look him in the eye and ask with confidence. Don't stare at the floor or mumble. In fact, you should practice in the mirror first if that makes you more comfortable.
A simple question, “You want to be my girlfriend?” it's enough. He will appreciate your candor
Step 5. React maturely
The last thing you should do is act mature after asking a girl to be your girlfriend. If he accepts and says he likes you too, you have to show happiness. There's no need to celebrate by jumping up and down, but don't try to be pretentious as if it's normal. Showing that he means a lot to you is a great start in a relationship.
- Have a date idea ready if he accepts you. You can take him to a movie or to a music concert. This shows that you have thought about the date carefully.
- If he refuses, don't be rude and leave without saying anything. Thank you for listening and say that you had a great day. Even if he doesn't want to be your girlfriend, he will appreciate your maturity.
- Either way, remember not to get too upset if you get rejected, or get into a relationship that's too serious if it's accepted. Middle school is the perfect time to learn to relate to other people without being burdened by the seriousness of adult relationships.
- At some point before or during a date, kiss him. However, make sure you and he are both comfortable and happy.
Tips
- Never give another girl more attention than you give her. Also, when expressing your feelings, don't appear aggressive. Say it in a kind and gentle tone.
- Don't do all of this at once. Do it gradually. If you suddenly change, he may think that you are a bit scary.
- Remember, you and he are still young. Just slowly. On the first date, do something casual, like go to the movies, watch a nature documentary, or help her with her homework.
- If he says you don't have to pay, be a man and say, "No, I'll just pay," in a nice way, and smile. If he offers to pay, suggest a joint venture (meaning the bill is halved). Remember, he did offer to pay, so you're not really obligated to pay him.
- You must always conform to his expectations and usually you will do anything for him from the start. Maybe he wants you to make him float happily or he just wants a shoulder to lean on when he cries. Let him plan a date and you just have to adjust.
- Make sure you accept all aspects of him, including his flaws and uniqueness. Ignoring it will become a problem later on.
- The point is, be yourself. Don't force yourself to get the girl you like. Just show that you're not afraid to be yourself, and he'll understand your freedom.
- If he wants you to do something with him, like sit down at lunch, do it. However, if you have to do something else and can't be with him, say, "I have to (what you have to do), see you later."
- If you don't know if he already has a girlfriend or not, don't rush to ask him out. Wait and see if she's with other guys a lot, or else you might get into trouble with her boyfriend.
- Feel free to hang out with his friends, or make him feel comfortable hanging out with your friends. If you can make friends with his friends, he will like you even more.
Warning
- Too much flirting will make a girl unhappy, or she will misinterpret. If you really like him, make jokes that are light and simple, not hurtful.
- Remember not to act like a completely different person when you're with him, because he might not like you anymore if you act differently.
- Don't over-plan the first date, girls may think you're desperate, and you certainly don't want that. For example, if he likes baseball, take him to an interschool baseball game and buy him snacks like candy or pizza.
- Enjoy time with him, but don't obsess over it.
- Don't be too tacky or he won't like you. Be nice, but don't act like a girl (unless you're a girl). Hold her hand when the time is right.
