No one – parents or students – wants to deal with a cruel teacher. A cruel teacher not only makes you lazy to go to class, but can also lead to feelings of guilt. If you are dealing with a teacher like this, try to adjust his behavior and find ways to make him feel more positive towards you. However, if you've tried everything and he's still being mean, talk to your parents about taking it a step further.
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Part 1 of 3: Adjusting Behavior
Step 1. Put yourself in the teacher's shoes
Even if you think your teacher is the meanest person in the world, try to be a little sympathetic and find out why. Try to think about why the teacher is being “fierce” and whether it is because he or she feels unappreciated while teaching. Maybe all the students are bad, many don't take lessons seriously, or some are so annoying that learning doesn't run smoothly. Teachers may also be “cruel” because they think there is no other way to make sure people will listen.
- Putting yourself in someone else's shoes is a skill that will serve you for the rest of your life. Developing empathy and compassion can help you to position yourself in a variety of work and social situations. Getting out of your mind can also help you to have a new perspective and solve problems. You should also tell the person how you feel.
- You may think of a teacher as just someone who is cruel and wants to torture you, but remember that teachers are human too.
Step 2. Cooperate with the teacher and don't fight him
If you're dealing with a cruel teacher, your natural response may be to prove him wrong, make him feel bad about himself, or become a wiser person. However, if you try to fight fire with fire, the situation will only get worse. Instead of trying to beat the teacher, help him out when needed and be a good student. If you try to be kinder to him, he will reciprocate your good behavior.
- While being friendly to people you don't like can be difficult, it can also make them kinder to you, so that you both feel better. This skill is also an attitude that you may need in the future, so practice it now.
- Don't think of your actions as fake. Suppose you are trying to change the situation for the better for everyone.
Step 3. Be positive instead of complaining
Another way to deal with a grumpy teacher is to try to be positive in class, instead of arguing or complaining about everything. Don't waste time grumbling about the final tough exam; but ask yourself if you can get better results if you study harder on the next exam. Don't talk about the most boring book you have to read as an assignment; but focus on the parts of the book that you like the most. Being more positive towards teachers will help create a more positive atmosphere in the classroom, which will reduce teacher anxiety.
- Try to focus on the things you enjoy in the learning experience. Being enthusiastic about the new material you are about to learn will create a more pleasant atmosphere, so the teacher will not be too fierce. He may soften things up if he sees that you really want to learn.
- Think about it: a teacher will certainly be discouraged when he teaches something he really enjoys, but only gets a groan and eye roll in response. This of course will make him cruel.
Step 4. Don't argue with your teacher
Refuting won't do anything. Sure, you might be content when you do it and make your friends giggle, but the teacher will dislike you even more and be even more mean. If you have something to say, speak to the teacher in a calm and reasonable manner instead of trying to show off your courage in front of the whole class.
- Maybe there will be other students who argue and you take it as a matter of course. However, your job is to stand out from the rest and set a good example.
- If you don't agree with the teacher, try to stay as nice as possible, and ask questions instead of making him feel like he's been mistreated.
Step 5. Find out what makes your teacher angry
Determining the teacher's motivation can help you when dealing with them. If he is acting badly because there are no active students in the class, try talking more often. If he is cruel because he feels disrespected, stop laughing at him. If he is mean because the students are not paying attention, try harder to answer his questions and put aside all distractions. Give him what he wants to make him less cruel.
- Believe it or not, everyone has a soft spot. Maybe your teacher really likes cats. Do something simple, like tell a story about your cat or ask to see a photo of the teacher's cat so he can open up more to you.
- Even a casual compliment, such as letting him know that you like the new poster he has on the classroom wall, can motivate him to be kind, especially if the teacher is really proud of his class.
Step 6. If there is a serious problem, document what the teacher did and involve the parents
Sometimes, teachers can act really badly and their behavior can't be justified. If he or she is extremely mean and hurtful, makes fun of you, or makes you and other students feel inferior, you may need to take countermeasures. First, take the time to record everything the teacher says and does; then, hand over the note to your parents and discuss the follow-up.
- Don't be too obvious. Just bring a notebook and write down all the teacher's words that hurt feelings. You can also memorize them and write them down after class.
- While testifying that a cruel teacher is usually enough to make an impact, you should prepare solid arguments with specific examples. The more specific your examples of teacher cruelty will be, the more convincing your case will be.
Part 2 of 3: Behave the best you can
Step 1. Come to class on time
One way to make sure a teacher isn't being mean is to respect the rules. Coming late is the worst and most disrespectful thing, especially if you make it a habit. This way, you're actually telling the teacher that you don't care about the class at all, so that he or she can start to treat you badly. If it's too late, apologize and make sure you don't do it again.
Don't be one of the students who tidy up their bags when class is only five minutes away. The desire to leave early can irritate the teacher more than arriving late
Step 2. Listen to the teacher
If you want to get over a grumpy teacher, you have to really make an effort to listen to what he has to say. One of the reasons why the teacher is fierce is that he feels the students are not listening and respecting him. When the teacher is talking, listen carefully and don't be distracted by cell phones, people in the corridor, or classmates.
While asking questions is important, teachers can be cruel to students who often ask questions whose answers have been explained several times. Make sure you listen carefully so you don't make this mistake
Step 3. Take notes
Notes will make the teacher think that you really care about the lesson and that you are not sitting in class just to pass the time. You will also understand the subject of the lesson explained. The teacher likes students who take notes when he explains a lesson, because he sees it as a sign that the student is paying attention. Get in the habit of taking notes as much as possible so the teacher will be more friendly towards you.
Notes also help you improve your performance at school, so teachers will also be happy and more friendly
Step 4. Participate in the learning process
The teacher may be mean because he thinks you don't care about the class. This may be because you are not trying to participate. The next time you get a chance, raise your hand to answer the teacher's question, volunteer to help the teacher, or be active in group discussions. The teacher will see that you really care, so he or she begins to be kinder to you.
- While you don't have to try to answer all the questions all the time, try to follow the material being explained to make the teacher better.
- Participating in class will not only make the teacher friendlier, but you will also have a more enjoyable learning experience. If you pay more attention to the lesson, you will not easily get bored or distracted in class.
Step 5. Don't talk to friends during class
If you want to get the teacher's sympathy, avoid chatting with friends unless you're doing a group activity. Chat annoys the teacher and makes him feel like you don't care. When your friends laugh or send gossip papers, tell them you want to focus on your studies and you can chat after class.
If you have a chance to choose a seat, try to stay away from friends or students who are often noisy so that the teacher will have no reason to be grumpy
Step 6. Make sure you always have the materials you need for the lesson with you
Step 7. Don't make fun of your teacher
A fierce teacher usually makes the students make fun of him. While you may be tempted to join in on insulting the teacher/provoking ridicule, resist the urge and don't make fun of the teacher. When teased, the teacher will get angry and act more cruelly. You may think you're smart, but the teacher will probably keep glaring at you if you make fun of him.
- Teachers are human too and can be sensitive. If he catches you teasing him, you may never win his heart.
- If your friends annoy the teacher, stay away from them. Don't let yourself be associated with such behavior.
Step 8. Ask for extra help after class
One way to make a teacher friendlier is to ask him or her to help with extra lessons. You may be afraid to be alone with the teacher, but you will be surprised that most teachers are willing to share their knowledge and they will be happy to help you. If you have an exam in a week or two and there are still parts of the lesson you don't understand, ask your teacher for extra lessons; You'll notice that the teacher can act a lot more friendly afterward.
- This method usually works. However, if your teacher is too mean, he or she may refuse to help – but know that you can still try.
- If you choose to ask for help, do so well in advance of the exam. If you ask a question a day or two before the test, the teacher can get angry and wonder why you didn't do it earlier.
Step 9. Don't lick too much
While being a good student and following the teacher's rules can make her friendlier, don't overdo it. If your teacher thinks you're trying to curry favor and not being honest, trying to overreact to questions, praising him or her, or circling around the table asking if he needs help, he could act even more cruelly because he's suspicious of your real intentions.
If the teacher was ruthless by nature, he would be suspicious of the student who was trying too hard to be his best friend. Make sure your actions feel natural
Part 3 of 3: Coping With A Grumpy Teacher As A Parent
Step 1. Ask the child to explain the teacher's actions
When dealing with a fierce teacher, the first thing you should do is learn the facts. Talk to your child about what the teacher does and why he or she is really mean. Make sure the child has some specific examples instead of just saying in general that the teacher is mean; if he doesn't have an example, have him take notes on the teacher's abusive behavior at school. This way, you better understand the situation.
- Sit down with the child and talk about the teacher's cruelty honestly. Make sure the child is given time to tell everything that is bothering him, don't just make short comments.
- If your child cries or gets very angry when they talk about their teacher, calm them down so you can get more concrete information.
Step 2. Make sure the teacher is really over the line
Of course, because you love your child, the desire to protect him or her when someone is being mean will arise – so you can easily assume that the teacher is at fault. However, you must still determine whether the teacher is really cruel and the behavior should be stopped. If your child is sensitive and has made similar complaints about many other teachers before, think carefully before you act.
Of course, you should trust the child more and protect him, but consider how the child's behavior might affect the teacher. Also consider the possibility that both the child and the teacher are at fault
Step 3. Talk to other parents to see if they have heard the same thing from their children
You can do this to look for similar complaints from their children. If other students have made similar comments, it will be easier for you to determine that the teacher's behavior should be stopped. Just because you never hear from anyone else doesn't mean the teacher isn't being mean, but make sure you're careful.
- You don't need to investigate too much, but you can casually mention your child's problems with the teacher, and ask if other parents' children have had it.
- The number factor is important. If more parents are angry with the teacher, you're more likely to do something about it.
Step 4. Meet the teacher in person
If your child is really hurting you or tells you that the teacher is cruel, take the time to make an appointment with the teacher so you can see for yourself. The teacher will prove to you whether your child is right (if he is being mean and uncaring), or he can cover up his temper and pretend that things are under control; Besides, it's possible that the real teacher isn't as cruel as you think. Whatever the outcome, determine the next step.
- Take time for them the teacher's behavior and what frustrates him. If the teacher is cruel or unkind when talking about your child, or other students in general, this could indicate a problem.
- Trust your instincts. If the teacher seems friendly, do you think he is faking or being sincere?
Step 5. If you encounter a problem, report it to the principal or other administrator
When you're sure after talking to your teacher or child, take the necessary steps, then report the case to the principal or school administrator. Do not let the child be in a learning environment that makes him dislike coming to school. Make an appointment with the school administrator as soon as possible and plan what you are going to say.
- Use the concrete details your child has given you to tell you that the teacher's behavior is inappropriate. You should not just say that the teacher is cruel, but point out some of the teacher's words that are out of line.
- If other parents support you, ask them to come see the school administrator, or set up a group meeting for better results.
Step 6. If it doesn't work, specify the next step
Unfortunately, complaints to the administrator may not be strong enough to change the situation. When this happens, determine if you need to extend the case. You can ask your child to be placed in a different class or change schools. Alternatively, if you don't think this step is necessary, talk to your child to encourage him to finish the school year and ignore the teacher's cruelty so as not to shake his confidence.
If you decide not to extend the case, talk to your child that what he's going through is a life lesson. We sometimes have to deal with people we really don't like. Learning how to work with them and ignoring their bad behavior is an important skill in life. This answer may not be the most reassuring option, but it's still the best you can choose
Tips
- Show that you are trying. Teachers want to know that you are at least willing to learn. If you don't know how to do something, ask him for help.
- Focus more on ways to improve your life than on things that make it worse. Remember, cruel teachers don't last forever.
- If you have a fierce teacher, hold yourself back as much as possible not to argue.
- If you have a medical condition/learning difficulty (eg dyslexia), provide the teacher with information so he or she can understand you better.
- If you tell your parents and they don't believe you, try talking about the teacher's behavior every day.
- Avoid interaction with friends during class. Don't pass gossip papers or tease teachers with facial expressions. If your friends think you don't like them for trying to avoid you, talk to them during your break. Say that you want to be quiet in class to appreciate the teacher.
- If you are sitting in the back row and the teacher can't see you, don't "take advantage of" this condition. Some naughty students will share gossip papers with each other and do things that do not contribute positively to the classroom. Be a good student and learn and listen to the teacher wherever you sit.
- Be prepared for 'surprise questions'. Questions like these are prepared to make sure you're listening. If you always answer "Hmm, 42?", you'll be known as an inattentive handyman in class.
- If a teacher physically hurts you, report it to the principal immediately.
- Notify parent/guardian.
Warning
- Notify parents and principal immediately if the teacher is very cruel and unfriendly, or if he or she threatens to physically harm you/torture you verbally.
- The cruel teacher usually has unresolved childhood problems, so he tries to take his frustration out on everyone.
- The teacher may be cruel without realizing it. You may not realize it, but it is common!
