High school can be an exciting time when you as a girl get to know yourself and your own interests. A fun way to explore new experiences in high school is through dating. If you want to have a girlfriend while in high school, there are several ways you can go about dating. Try getting started and meeting other people through friends and extracurricular activities. Start dating often until you meet someone you like. From here, try to maintain healthy relationships based on mutual respect.
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Part 1 of 3: Meeting Other People
Step 1. Ask your friends to introduce you
One of the easiest ways to find a girlfriend is to ask your friends to introduce you. If you have a sociable friend, tell him that you want to try dating. Ask him if he knows a guy that you think is compatible with you.
- The advantage if you ask your friends to introduce you is that your friends already know you. He knows your interests and personality. He can also find the right person for you.
- Getting introduced by friends also helps to make sure you get a good guy. Don't let your relationship end later because it turns out that your new boyfriend is a jerk. Your friends can judge if the guy is a good person who deserves your time.
Step 2. Take extracurricular activities
If you want a girlfriend, you go out and meet new people. Try taking part in some extracurricular activities. This will help you find the right guy.
- Choose extracurricular activities that suit your interests. You are more likely to find a suitable guy if you share the same interests. If you like journalism, take part in school magazine activities.
- Try going to an event alone. Going to a club alone can be daunting, but you can be more approachable if you're not surrounded by friends. If you're seen coming alone, a guy who could potentially be your girlfriend is likely to dare to introduce himself because he thinks you're the new kid.
- If you know of a certain club that tends to have more boys, consider joining this group. With more guys to choose from, the more likely you are to find single guys to date.
Step 3. Have realistic expectations
While in high school, you can easily drift into romantic daydreams. If you're imagining meeting the type of guy you want on your first day in a drama club, stop daydreaming. You can even distance yourself from the right guy if you have sky-high hopes. Try to think more loosely. Instead of making a long list of your ideal guy, think that you're looking for a fun, interesting enough guy who shares your interests.
Step 4. Socialize
If you want to meet someone, you need to open up. Even if you're shy, you need to socialize so you can meet guys.
- Try starting a conversation with a guy you don't know. Sit on the new cafeteria bench. Talk to the guy sitting across from you in Spanish class.
- Starting a conversation with people you don't know well can be stressful. Try to have a conversation by talking about things around you. This is easy to do if you are in the same school. For example, you could say something like, "Wow! Last week's exam was tough, wasn't it?"
Step 5. Attend school events
With your parents' permission, try starting regular school events. Dancing, sports, cake sales, and field trips are all great activities to start and meet the right guy.
- Sports competitions can be a very fun event, as students from other schools usually attend. If you're not interested in boys at your own school, you can look for them at other schools.
- For safety reasons, it's best to go with friends. Unlike extracurricular activities, many school events take place at night outside of school. Better to go in groups, for safety's sake.
Part 2 of 3: Setting Up a Date
Step 1. Invite someone out
Asking someone out can be stressful. However, doing so and having the courage is part of the process of finding a boyfriend. Even if it's outside your comfort zone, ask the guy you have a crush on out.
- It's okay if it takes you a few days to build up the courage to ask a guy out. This is natural, especially if you are new to dating. You can spend a few days talking to friends. If you have a friend who already has a boyfriend, ask him for advice.
- You can ask someone out by talking about common interests. For example, maybe the two of you can talk about your love of watching horror movies. You can ask the guy if he's interested in seeing a new horror movie in theaters Friday.
- You can invite someone out casually. Try saying, "Would you like to have coffee with me after school?" If you want to make sure the guy knows it's a date, you can add, "Just the two of us." If you feel comfortable, you can openly say, "Would you like to go on a coffee date with me this weekend?" A guy will appreciate this honesty.
Step 2. Date with a positive attitude
Once you meet a potential boyfriend, you can start dating. When dating, have a positive attitude.
- Stay calm on a date. Don't worry if something goes wrong. Instead, let's say you're out for fun. If it helps, think of a list of conversation topics. This can ease your worries of running out of things to talk about, making dating easier.
- If you're nervous, you might accidentally get into a habit that actually ruins your date. For example, you tear bread from the basket instead of eating it. Trying to stay positive helps you look your best, so the date goes smoothly.
Step 3. Date often
It takes time to find the right person for you. Therefore, you need to prioritize dating. Try to date often. You may have a bad or average dating experience before you find the right guy for you.
- Prepare yourself to meet people wherever you go. Wear attractive clothes when you go out. Introduce yourself to interesting looking guys. However, make sure you take care of yourself. If outside of school, be careful who you talk to and make sure you go out with friends.
- If you're invited out, take the opportunity. Even if you're not attracted to someone, your feelings can change when you're dating. You should also be brave and ask a guy out if interested. He may say "No," but you never know if you don't try.
Step 4. Be yourself
Many people want to have a girlfriend when they are in high school. But remember, just be yourself. Don't change your personality just to get a guy's attention. For example, if you're worried that guys don't like nerdy girls, you don't need to leave the science team. Pursuing your interest in science is far more important to your long-term goals and you don't have to date people who don't like you for who you are.
Step 5. Wear something that makes you feel attractive on a date
Attention can arise from an attitude of confidence. When dating, wear something that makes you feel attractive. If you feel confident and beautiful on a date, you will succeed. This will help smooth the dating event.
- Pick your favorite dress for a date, even if it doesn't feel like a date. If you feel comfortable and relaxed, you will have a pleasant experience.
- While it's best to wear clothes that make you feel comfortable, if you know your date's favorite clothes, you can wear what they like as long as you're comfortable. If your date likes the type of girl who likes sports, wear jeans and sandals that make you feel attractive.
Part 3 of 3: Maintaining Relationships
Step 1. Enter a special relationship
After a casual date, you may want to build a special relationship. If you see someone often enough over the past few weeks, you can ask them about your relationship status.
- Make sure you talk face to face. Messages via SMS can obscure meaning. Asking it can be a little stressful. However, if you see the guy often, he may not be surprised by the conversation about dating. Try starting to talk about it head-on. Don't say, "We have to talk," as this indicates something went wrong. Just ask a question.
- Look back at what happened in your relationship. For example, say, "We've been on dates almost every weekend, and we talk every day. I love spending time with you." Then say something like, "How about I call you my girlfriend."
- It's possible the guy isn't interested in building a formal relationship at this point. If you want to build a relationship, but he doesn't, then you should walk away and move on. Even though rejection is painful, you shouldn't continue to be in a relationship that doesn't live up to your expectations.
Step 2. Use social media wisely
When in high school, you must have a hard time staying away from social media. You and your friends probably socialize a lot via Twitter and Facebook. However, think carefully when posting your relationship status.
- Your boyfriend may not like his detailed information being uploaded. He may be annoyed or embarrassed if you keep posting statuses about your relationship. Before writing a certain status, make sure he agrees.
- Don't be rude or aggressive towards your boyfriend when you're fighting. This will only make the fight more heated.
- Remember, if you write something on the internet, it will stay there forever. Be wise when posting aspects of your relationship. Don't post something you don't want your colleagues or employers to read.
Step 3. Compromise
Compromise is the key to any relationship. However, it's hard to compromise when you're young, no wonder many high school relationships don't last. Alternately choose a movie to watch or a show on Friday night. If your boyfriend isn't interested in hanging out with your friends on any given night, take it easy. Compromising once in a while can avoid a fight.
Step 4. Don't forget your other obligations
You can easily get lost in the romance of high school. But remember, you have more important obligations than your boyfriend. Make sure you keep doing schoolwork, taking part in extra-curricular activities, and hanging out with other friends.
While you may not like this fact, the truth is that most high school relationships end up ending. While your boyfriend may seem like the most important thing right now, chances are you won't be thinking about him for a few years. Prioritize your homework and grades over your boyfriend, because those things are more important in the long run
Step 5. Don't stay in relationships with people who don't value you
When you date in high school, make sure you respect yourself. Don't put up with anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries, physical or otherwise.
- Many high school students start experimenting with sex for the first time. You should not engage in sexual activity until you are completely ready. Always use condoms to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. If your boyfriend is forcing you to have physical intercourse when you don't want to, take your relationship seriously again. You deserve people who respect your boundaries.
- Be wary of anyone who is overly possessive or jealous. If your boyfriend expects you to not hang out with your friends too often, you should be wary of those relationships. Your boyfriend should also expect you to succeed. Don't let him get in the way of your homework and other tasks that need to be done on time.
