For many men, the most terrifying moment in a romantic relationship occurs before the relationship is formed, which is when they have to ask the woman of their dreams. This moment is especially a scourge for teenagers who are inexperienced in expressing an invitation to date. Do you have the same fear? If so, check out this article for tips that are powerful but very easy to implement, and realize that asking a girl out isn't really as difficult as moving mountains!
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Method 1 of 3: Invite a Friend or Acquaintance on a Date
Step 1. Come up with ideas for dating ideas and their location
Don't just say you "want to travel" with him. Instead, offer a date request in a direct and specific way. Also, make sure you have some backup plans in place just in case he's busy on the dates offered or doesn't like certain types of food.
- If he keeps refusing your invitations without offering a substitute, chances are he isn't really interested in you. Remember, many women find it difficult to refuse someone out on a date because they don't want to hurt that person.
- Dinner at a casual restaurant is the perfect first date idea.
Step 2. Ask her out on a date in person
As tempting as it may be to ask her out over the phone, text message, or online chat, don't do it so you have room to communicate nonverbally. Be careful, misunderstandings are more prone to occur in the process of indirect communication and risk destroying your dreams of building a romantic relationship with him. Therefore, ask him out on a date in person!
- If you have the time and opportunity to have a private chat, try saying, “Hey, are you free, Friday night? Let's have dinner together, at [restaurant name]. Do you want to ?"
- You can ask her out indirectly (via phone or text message) if you don't see her very often. For example, you could send a text message that says, “Hello! This is [your name] from [the location of your meeting or introduction to him, such as in certain classes]. Seriously, you look super cool in class, I really want to get to know you better. Do you want to eat together at [name of restaurant] on Friday around 6 pm?"
Step 3. Ask your mutual friend for help
If you're still having trouble asking her out, try asking your mutual friend for help. Chances are, they have tips or ideas about things your dream girl likes. In addition, they can also help "smooth" your path to ask her out on a date or go on a trip together. However, don't ever ask her out through your mutual friends, okay?
Bring up the topic by saying, "Eh, you know [girl's name], don't you? I want to take her out for a walk together. Has she ever told you something about me? Do you think she's interested in me, right?"
Step 4. Define your goal
There's no need to explicitly ask for a date, but don't hide your feelings either. If he asks about your interest in him, don't hesitate to give the most honest answer. Trust me, pretending to be "cold" and not liking him will only turn your back on you.
Method 2 of 3: Asking Strangers on a Date
Step 1. Don't do anything that makes her feel depressed or insecure
For example, don't approach a woman who is walking alone on a deserted street or at night. Also, don't introduce yourself to someone who is accidentally "trapped" with you, such as in an elevator or a room. The best way to make him feel safe is to talk to him in a fairly crowded public place.
Don't make physical contact until he does it to you. Trust me, invading his personal territory can make him feel scared and threatened
Step 2. Introduce yourself politely
Make eye contact before greeting him. After that, say your name and give a polite compliment that doesn't sound vulgar. If he responds in a friendly manner or even reciprocates your compliments, let him know that you want to get to know him.
- For example, you could say, “Hey! I really like your shirt. [The object on the shirt] is really cool, isn't it!" After that, wait for a response, then follow up by saying, "Hello, my name is [your name]."
- If he ignores your greeting, it's best if you don't want to ask him to get acquainted.
- If he responds positively, and if you're not in a hurry, don't hesitate to continue the process of interacting with him.
Step 3. Provide your personal information
Although most men feel "must" ask for the cellphone number of the woman he likes, it's actually much better if you give it first, you know! This way, he won't feel overwhelmed and will consider your offer with a more open mind. Try writing your phone number down on a piece of paper instead of forcing him to write down your number on his cell phone. Be careful, the second act can make you look terrible and manipulative!
- If they share a common interest, they're more likely to give their phone number or email address right away before being asked.
- Before giving out your personal information, try saying, “Wow, it's been a lot of fun talking to you. Unfortunately I have to go, even though I still want to chat more and get to know you better. If you feel that way too, here's my number, okay?"
Step 4. Contact him by phone, text message, or email to schedule a date
If he gives out his personal information, don't play tug-of-war or expect him to take the first step. Instead, try taking her out to dinner, and don't forget to give her various options regarding the day and time. Make sure you have backup options just in case he's really busy or doesn't like certain foods.
- For example, you could send a text message that says, “Hello, this is [your name] whom we met yesterday at [the meeting location]. Do you have time to meet up or not, Friday around 7 pm? I've been wanting to eat [type of food] at [restaurant name] restaurant, here. You want to come, don't you? If you already have an event or are busy, just let me know, what time do you usually think you will be. Thank you, see you later!"
- If he doesn't return your calls or refuses your date several times without offering an alternative, chances are he isn't really interested in dating you. So why did he seem interested before? Remember, he can change his mind at any time. Respect her decision and try to move on without her!
Step 5. Remember, the worst thing that could possibly happen is to hear him say “no”
Although it sounds cliché, you really need to understand this fact before asking a foreign woman out on a date. But don't worry, asking strangers out on a date actually has its advantages. One of them, you don't need to be faced with the awkwardness of having to meet again with a woman who rejects you in the future. In other words, the external social pressure will be reduced drastically. Always remember this to boost your confidence!
Method 3 of 3: Understanding His Body Language
Step 1. At least try to pay attention to his behavior and words
Remember, the ability to read body language is a very important asset to assess a woman's interest and ask her out, no matter how close the relationship with you is right now.
Although the percentage of body language involvement in successful human-to-human communication is still not agreed upon by researchers, most of them agree that body language has a significant role
Step 2. Look into her eyes
Don't take your eyes off his face and watch his response. If he doesn't look back at you or keeps looking the other way, chances are he's not really interested in dating you.
Remember, this situation is also possible if he has a romantic interest in you. For example, he may have a visual impairment, social anxiety disorder, autism spectrum syndrome, or another condition that makes it difficult to communicate nonverbally
Step 3. Observe her posture
Women who have romantic interests will not hesitate to position their bodies facing you. In addition, he will not cross his arms to show open body language.
- On the other hand, he'll be seen slumping over and crossing his arms across his chest if he's not showing any interest in you.
- Consider the context surrounding the conversation. If it's really cold, he's probably crossing his arms because he's cold, not because he doesn't want to communicate with you. Likewise if he is standing with his back to you in front of the exit. Understand that he's doing it because he really wants to walk through the door, not because he's not interested in you.
Tips
- Don't ask her out if she seems busy or in a hurry.
- Don't ask other people to accompany you two on a date! Be careful, it can quickly turn the concept of “first date” into “traveling with close friends”. If he's asked about the possibility beforehand, make it clear that it's just the two of you. If he's forcing you to ask someone else, chances are he doesn't really want to date you. Don't worry, you still have plenty of time to travel with your closest friends after getting to know each other better. If he asks, "Can [name of a friend] come with you?" make sure you respond by saying, "Not yet, okay. I want to go alone with you."
- The most important aspect you must have is confidence and straightforwardness. Show them both when asking the girl of your dreams!
