Having someone you like even though you're still in elementary or middle school is a very natural phenomenon. But be aware that love is a very strong emotion and can make you lose control; As a result, you will not only end up losing yourself, but will also lose the woman of your dreams. Therefore, instead of trying your hardest to grab the attention of the girl you like, try focusing on improving yourself and moving on from there. Want to know more detailed information? Read on for this article!
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Method 1 of 4: Paying Attention to Appearance
Step 1. Wear neat clothes
Regardless of age, generally women will not want to date a man who looks dirty. Therefore, there is no harm in learning to take care of yourself and maintain cleanliness from an early age! Don't wear the same clothes for days; don't wear clothes that look dirty or dusty. Wear neat, clean, and fragrant clothes when you meet the woman of your dreams.
Ask your parents to buy you a collared T-shirt and cloth pants (not jeans)
Step 2. Keep yourself clean
Make sure you cut your nails, brush your teeth, and wash your hair every day; don't leave the house before doing it! Remember, one of the things that any woman hates the most is bad breath.
Step 3. Put on deodorant
Teenagers tend to be tempted to put on too much perfume or deodorant used by adults in order to better attract the attention of those around them. Resist the temptation! Head to the local supermarket and choose a deodorant scent that is suitable for your age. One of the most popular scents among men and can show your maturity is the scent of musk.
- If you use a spray deodorant, just spray it once on each armpit. Don't overdo it!
- Instead, try wearing dry deodorant or a bar.
Step 4. Cut your hair
For children who are still in elementary or junior high school, generally hairstyles are not the thing they pay most attention to. But believe me, having a comfortable and cool hairstyle will help boost your confidence significantly! Try looking at celebrity hairstyles in magazines, then pick a few styles that look right on you. If necessary, you can also ask your parents or siblings for their opinion about the hairstyle that suits you.
- Gathering opinions from other people can help you find a hairstyle that really suits you.
- Bring a photo or picture of the hairstyle you want.
Method 2 of 4: Recognizing His Interests
Step 1. Observe her presence in the school
Once you're sure you've "liked" someone, take action. Observe the girl you like in a natural way and not excessive; remember the things he said in class, observe his group of friends, also observe the men who seem close to him.
Don't stalk him if you don't want your reputation to be ruined
Step 2. Ask questions about the girl you like
Approach one of his friends and ask the things you want to know. Trust me, one of the most effective ways to make your presence known is to talk to her friends; especially since his friends will surely leak your actions to him! Whatever his feelings for you, he will surely be flattered. Try asking things like:
- "What does Samantha usually do on the weekends?"
- "What's Jasmine's favorite book, huh?"
- "Jamie has a boyfriend?"
Step 3. Be confident
When you try to be honest, you are actually showing your powerlessness and ready to accept temptation or ridicule from others. Try to fight shyness by building a positive perspective. If someone confronts you about how you feel, try to be as natural as possible.
The people who tease you are actually feeling insecure because they don't have the courage to express their own feelings
Step 4. Be kind and sincere
If other people ask you how you feel, never say bad things about the girl you like. Protect him and protect yourself. For teens, saying contradictory things when confronted is a hard habit to break; but as much as possible, don't do it! Say positive things about the woman; I'm sure he will appreciate you more.
Remember, you want to be liked by the girl, not by the popular group of teens at your school
Method 3 of 4: Be Yourself
Step 1. Don't try to look more mature
Act according to your current age. If you're 11 years old, there's no need to worry if your leg hair hasn't grown or your voice hasn't cracked; you still have plenty of time before reaching puberty. Trust me, everything will happen at the right time; he will definitely appreciate you more if you act like a teenager your age.
Step 2. Get into a hobby that you enjoy
If you know he just likes riding, don't throw away your whole hobby just to learn how to ride. Let him assess whether your interests intersect. If you don't have a particular hobby yet and are passionate about trying different things, keep doing it! Believe me, pursuing a hobby from a young age will really help you live your life in the future.
If you want to do something, don't hesitate to do it when you get the chance
Step 3. Get closer to your friends
After entering adulthood, the group of friends will play a very important role in your life; especially because generally, people will move further away from their families as they get older. As much as possible, try not to disagree with your family during this transitional period. Also, don't get rid of your friends just because they no longer look cool to you. Be yourself and maintain friendly relations with those closest to you.
- If you make friends with positive people, they are more likely to help you find ways to make the girl aware of you.
- If you are friends with the wrong people, chances are they will only tease you or spread negative rumors about you and the girl. Don't take the risk! Focus on friends who are able to appreciate and enjoy your presence.
Method 4 of 4: Building a Bond With Him
Step 1. Talk to him
When you meet her, try to engage her in a conversation, but don't just walk up to her and say, "I like you." It's not the best method, but it's well worth trying (especially since being straightforward is a positive trait of self). Talk to him about casual general topics like school lessons, teachers at school, or a sport you enjoy. Try to get to know him better. Look for general information about his life, but don't rush past his personal boundaries. Try to be his friend.
- If you're not sure what to say, just say "Hey, Kristen!" when he accidentally bumped into her. Although it seems simple, this action is effective in attracting attention, you know!
- Don't be afraid to talk to him.
Step 2. Try to make friends with him
Try to find common interests with him! If you both like drawing, try asking him to show you one of his drawings and compliment it. If you both like watching fantasy movies, try building a conversation about a specific movie title. One of the keys to building a bond with someone based on shared interests is to bring up specific topics about those interests. I'm sure you'll both be able to engage in deeper conversations and bonding because of it.
Step 3. Praise him
One of the most effective ways to get romantic ideas into his mind is to compliment him regularly. Remember, complimenting someone's physical appearance is not a taboo thing to do! You can even combine it by complimenting the clothes she's wearing. Try saying:
- "Oh, your skirt is so pretty!"
- "Wow, you're so smart! Even though math is hard for me, you know."
- "Your clothes match the color of your eyes."
Step 4. Make him laugh
A great way to deepen a bond with a woman is to make her laugh. Be yourself and don't copy other people's jokes. If you feel nervous, there's nothing wrong with looking a little stupid in front of him. Sooner or later, you will surely be able to create internal jokes that are proven effective in deepening the bond between you.
Step 5. Share your feelings
After you've made friends and chatted a lot, try to share your feelings and ask for a response. If he seems shy, he likely likes you too. If his expression is flat or his reactions are casual, chances are he just sees you as a friend. Remember, don't do this when you're just making friends; your hasty attitude will make him feel depressed.
- If he seems shy or interested, try asking him out. But remember, make sure you do it when no one else is around you. Also make sure you speak at a low volume so that the news doesn't immediately spread to the whole school.
- If her cheeks aren't flushed or she doesn't look flattered, it means you should be ready to just be her friend right now. He may ask why you like him; if that happens, make sure you give an honest and straightforward answer.
Step 6. Be yourself
No matter how attractive he is, you still have to be able to control yourself. Don't try to look popular! Be yourself; Don't be the other person you think he will like.
- If he tries to change you, back off. A woman who doesn't like you for who you are and is always trying to change your personality is not a suitable match for you.
- Show that you are talented but don't show off! For example, you can make a short story or song lyrics inspired by the woman, then show the results to your friends. After people praise your abilities, surely he will also realize it and be interested in getting to know you more deeply.
- The key is to be yourself.
Tips
- Try stealing glances at him often. If he catches you, don't look away and smile as sincerely as you can. Most likely, he will smile back at you!
- Don't be nervous when you talk to him!
- Don't force your will; wait until he feels ready.
- Don't be afraid to accept rejection. Remember, rejection is a part of life that must be experienced by everyone.
- Don't look ostentatious or brag, girls don't like it.
- Don't ignore it; don't make him think you don't care.
- Don't fight in front of the person you like; most likely, he will leave you because girls generally don't like fights.
- If you feel like you've been holding your feelings in for too long, don't hesitate to tell him how you like him! If he doesn't like you, he's more likely to be honest about it.
- Don't force other people's feelings. If he doesn't like you, let him go and focus on other people who like you but haven't been aware of.
- If he seems to be in a hurry to end the conversation, he probably doesn't like you. But believe me, there must be other people out there who have a lot in common and feel right for you; you just haven't found it yet.
Warning
- Never say hurtful things. No girl likes to hear that!
- Don't be overpriced. He's likely to think your interest is gone.
- If you wait too long, chances are he thinks you only see him as a friend. The situation can hurt one or both parties; but if it happens, believe me, you will get through it well.
- Don't stare at him all the time if you don't want to be seen as weird.
