Knowing what an 11-year-old boy is thinking isn't always easy. It's hard to tell if he likes you because he might be able to flirt or send you vague signals. However, if you can attract him by showing how friendly, confident and kind you are, you'll be able to find out how he really feels in no time. Boys only want girls who are happy about themselves and who are attractive and caring. However, the boy sometimes has a very different personality than the others. Don't worry, this article will explain everything.
Step
Part 1 of 3: Get Him To Notice You
Step 1. Don't be afraid to talk to him
Many girls your age don't have much experience talking to boys so you can make yourself stand out by talking to boys you like. You don't have to come up to him and start an intense conversation, especially if you've never spoken before. You can start a conversation by saying “hi,” a little wave to him or asking a question about class. He will be most impressed if you are very confident and want to talk to you more often.
- At first, you can say "hi" to him in the group or even introduce yourself. You can talk to him next time.
- If you're feeling shy, you can think about what to say first, such as whether she liked the class she was in or how the baseball game was.
Step 2. Smile at him
You don't have to hide behind a desk or ignore him every time he passes you. He will think about who you are and make him want to know more about you when you smile at him. Boys like friendly girls because they will make boys happy and more comfortable. You can think they really like cool, quiet girls, but that's just a myth. Smiling at the boy will make him notice you and want to know more about you.
Smile at him when making eye contact. You don't have to look for him, just smile at him
Step 3. Let him see you having fun
Another way to get the boy to notice you is to make sure he sees you when you're having fun. Whether you're talking to friends, playing in the streets with the neighbors or waiting in line at the cafeteria, he should see that you're a positive person who enjoys himself wherever he is. The boy will be interested and want to know you if he sees that you are a happy and very happy person. If he always sees you frowning or staring at your phone screen, he'll think you're not a fun person to spend time with.
This doesn't mean that you have to pretend. If you're having a bad day, you don't have to laugh out loud to get the boy's attention. But in general, you should be a happy and sociable person. If he sees you smiling and laughing, he will want to spend time with you to merge with the positive energy you have
Step 4. Have confident body language
If you have a confident attitude, the boy will think that you are confident in yourself. You should maintain good posture when standing or sitting and make sure not to slouch. Don't cross your arms over your chest, as this will make you seem unfriendly or agitated. Instead, straighten your arms at the sides and use both hands as a gesture when speaking. When you walk or talk to people, look straight ahead, don't look down.
Another way to get confident body language is to turn towards the other person. If you are talking to a boy you like, turn to him to show that you are comfortable talking to him
Step 5. Impress her with your confidence
Boys like girls who are confident and who are happy with themselves and their appearance. While many eleven-year-olds are nervous about how their bodies and minds can change, you can try to be confident about yourself and the changes you're going through. Speak loudly enough to be heard without being obnoxious and don't mention your name in conversation. You shouldn't sound like you're perfect, but you can give the impression that you're grateful for yourself if you want to get the boy to like you.
- To be confident, don't say bad things about yourself except when joking about yourself and make sure that you're only joking.
- Talk about the things you are really interested in or mastered. This can show that you are happy with yourself.
- You don't have to be perfect to feel confident. However, you must be aware of the shortcomings and should try to overcome them.
Step 6. Be friendly to everyone
Don't think that a guy will like you if you are popular and mean to a lot of people. If you pick someone who's "less cool" than you are to make yourself look cooler, every guy isn't going to like it. You can build a positive personality by being friendly and kind to everyone who deserves it, instead of being nice or bad to certain people. If you're friendly to everyone at school, this boy will want to know you because he'll think you're a cool kid if you're nice to people.
- Boys tend to hate drama. They find it easier to like girls who are friends with everyone than girls who are hostile to everyone else.
- If there's a new girl at school, try to make friends with her.
- If you're hosting a party, try to be inclusive and invite everyone you like rather than ignoring people.
Step 7. Get him to notice you
If you want the boy to pay attention, you need to find a way to get him to pay attention. This doesn't mean you have to dye your hair pink or play with the banjo to get her attention. However, it means that what you do must be different for him. It can be a distinctive sense of humor or it can be how you start a conversation with everyone. Find a way he has and make sure he notices it.
- It can range from something you love to sing and dance to to jewelry you make for friends. The shape of the object is considered unimportant, but your passion for it is what matters.
- Of course, the positives should stand out, not things like your mean attitude to the teachers or starting a drama.
Part 2 of 3: Keeping Her Interested
Step 1. Make him laugh
Feel free to show a sense of humor even if you think it would be a little weird or not to his liking. Girls sometimes hesitate to show a sense of humor because they don't think it's "cute". In fact, many boys like girls who can make him laugh. You can tease him and even say different things and tell some dry humor, or just make funny observations about your teachers, television programs or friends. He'll be even more attracted to you when he senses that you can make him laugh.
Talking to a boy you like is no different than talking to one of your girlfriends. Don't try to limit your humor and act as funny as ever
Step 2. Give a little compliment
Another way to get a boy's attention is to give him a little compliment. This could mean telling him that you like his shirt or complimenting the logo of his favorite sports team and saying that you are a fan of the team or watching his basketball game with some of your friends and saying he's doing well. You don't need to say anything too much, like saying that she has beautiful eyes, because doing so can make them blush too much. However, mentioning something he's good at or something he's wearing can get him to notice you.
Don't get off track. Just say something like, “Great game today” or “I like your new shoes” to get his attention
Step 3. Don't take things too seriously
Another way to keep him interested is to show that you don't take things too seriously and that you can accept humor. You can joke around without feeling uncomfortable or talk about how much fun you had playing with the soccer team without worrying about how good you are. You don't have to be stressed about school problems, friendships or outside activities. You also have to show that you can adapt. Boys enjoy it when girls are motivated and when they are less worried, because it's more fun to let go and have fun.
- Don't worry about what's happening all the time and focus on enjoying the moment. It's more important to enjoy yourself than to have the perfect impression.
- Focus on talking about all the good things you want to do instead of worrying about all the things that could go badly for you.
Step 4. Ask about yourself
If you want the boy to be attracted to you, you have to show that you are attracted to him for who he is. You don't have to interrogate him, but you should try to find out by talking about his siblings to his favorite band or television program. Make sure to stay balanced in telling him about yourself and asking him a few questions. Then, give him time to explain. Here are some great things to ask:
- Favorite television program, band or movie
- Favorite sports team
- Hobbies and interests
- The pet
- Weekend or summer plans
Step 5. Don't ask your friend to pass the message on to him
If you want the guy to really like you and even see you as a potential girlfriend, you shouldn't have your friends text him, text him or take notes. While this isn't as bad as talking to him in person, he'll be more impressed if you're mature enough to talk to him directly. If you have something important to say to him, take a deep breath and muster the courage to speak directly.
Your friends may even offer to talk to him. This can be very tempting, but you should gently decline it and explain to him that you prefer to talk to him directly
Step 6. Let him know what you like about him
If you want to keep the boy interested, you have to let him know what makes him special. This doesn't mean you have to give him a list of things he likes about him, but it can be helpful if you show that you know what makes him special. You can mention how much you like his sense of humor, how easy it is to talk to him or the reasons why he's different from other boys he knows. Letting him know about your feelings can let him understand that you really like him once you've known each other and it's been pretty clear that you like each other.
- You might say things like, “It's so easy for you to talk to almost everyone. How to do it?" You could also say, “You always manage to keep me entertained.”
- You can also say, “I think you really understand me. It's so easy to tell you anything."
Step 7. Find something in common between the two of you
While it can be useful to impress him with your charm and confidence, you have to find common ground so you can have a topic to talk about if you're going to keep him interested in you. You don't have to be the same in every way, but it helps if you have something in common when it comes to bands, television programs, sports teams, celebrities or even outdoor activities. Try to find something you like and find ways to explore those interests together such as watching a baseball game, watching a movie together or even reading the same book. Here are a few things the two of you might have in common:
- Favorite music group
- Favorite television program
- Favorite movie
- Similar educational background
- Both have siblings
- Favorite food or restaurant
- Common sense of humor
Part 3 of 3: Making His Feelings Last
Step 1. Be friendly with his friends
Making friends with guys when you're eleven can be difficult, but it's important to be nice to guys you like if you want to make their feelings last. You don't have to be friendly with his friends, but at least be nice and kind so they'll talk to him about nice things about you. If you are unfriendly, they will tell him not to be with you. At this age, some boys tend to listen more to their friends.
- Say "hi" and ask how they're doing when you see their friends. Get to know them to show that you really care about their friends.
- Don't tell him you don't like any of his friends. This will only cause a rift between the two of you.
Step 2. Show him affection
Since you're only eleven, you shouldn't think about getting too close to the boy. However, a little affection can help your relationship stay strong. You can hold hands while walking together or watching a movie. You can hug him when you meet him or even put your arm around him when you go for a walk together. A little affection can keep your relationship strong.
Keep in mind that many eleven-year-olds don't like to show affection in public even when they really like someone. Start slowly when showing affection in public and see what makes him feel comfortable
Step 3. Don't overdo it with feelings
You can see hearts, rainbows and butterflies whenever you look at them, but you need to keep them to yourself. You have to let him know that you like him without saying that you want to marry him and that you really are in love with him or you will scare him. Keep in mind that it's important to keep your relationship light and fun rather than getting intimate too quickly. In fact, this is good advice for any relationship starter at any age!
You can write a note to say hello and to let him know you're thinking about him. However, you don't have to tell him the fifty-five things you love most about him
Step 4. Don't put too much pressure on your relationship
You should be able to spend time leisurely with the boy and enjoy the present moment instead of thinking too much about the future. Enjoy the present moment instead of worrying about what will happen next year, summer or Valentine's Day. Instead, focus on finding out the boy and having a good time together. You'll find that you can have fun without worrying too much about it.
At first, don't inquire about long-term plans with you or what will happen after the summer or when you graduate from high school if that happens soon. You don't have to worry about the future
Step 5. Always make time for your friends
If you want the relationship to last, you have to make sure to strike a balance between spending time with your new boyfriend and old friends. Friends will always be for you. You shouldn't get rid of them just because you have a new lover in your life. Finding a good balance between your new lover and friends will help keep the relationship strong and meaningful.
- If you spend time with your friends in addition to spending time with your boyfriend, you will miss each other more.
- Balancing relationships with friendships is a skill that takes years to master, so why not start early? Making time for all the people we care about is important to your happiness.
Step 6. Find new things to do together
To make a relationship last long, don't do the same old routine. While there are some limitations to what you can do at eleven, you can still try to keep things interesting by trying out a new restaurant, going to dance class together or even watching a sports game together. Finding a routine that you both enjoy is fun and can keep the relationship fresh with new and fun activities.
- Go to the pond, lake or beach with your boyfriend and friends.
- Visit an old comic book store together.
- Do flashbacks and play on the playground.
- Play a game of kick ball with friends.
- Invite some friends over for pizza and a movie at night.
- Sometimes, you can spend the most enjoyable time just walking together and telling stories about life.
Tips
- Don't be possessive because he won't like it. Make room for him, but stay close to him.
- You should find out about him before going after him. You just have to walk up to him and say "I like you" and other ways. Most boys like to be asked questions so choose the best approach.
- In the end, give him a chance to like you. Be around him and do what he does.
- A good boy will appreciate that you like him and won't care about your embarrassment. Don't be nervous.
- You must have a reason why you like it, because you both have something in common. Maybe you can do a random survey about what interests people have.
- Don't be jealous if he plays with other girls.
- Don't stare at him all the time. This can frighten him.
- Not all boys are the same. Some boys like girls who skate. Others like quirky women, while others like shy women or maybe all of the above! Be yourself. If he doesn't like you for who you are, you should find another lover.
- Find the right moment to let him know you like him. Boys don't like girls who often make fun of them. Laugh and smile!
- At first, try to be friends with him and then you will find out what he likes about girls. Sometimes, you're better off just being friends with him.
- Laugh when he tells jokes.
- Don't chase him.
- Don't spend time with him all the time because he'll get scared.
Warning
- Don't pretend you don't like him because the child will lose interest or start hating you.
- Don't be upset if he likes someone else. He'll think you're jealous and start to walk away from you and play with the girl he likes.* It's okay to cry, but don't cry in public (around people or in front of them)*
- Be careful.
