If you're in love with a guy, you might want to tell him. He probably really didn't know! Saying this to him, even if it's scary, will help you continue your relationship with him, and make you realize how you really feel. Saying it in an engaging way will show him who you really are, and flatter him, thus paving the way for a possible relationship.
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Method 1 of 3: Say It Straight
Step 1. Choose the right time
Remember that timing is everything, find a relaxing time where the guy you like is not busy with other things.
- Find a time when he is alone. If he was surrounded by his friends he would probably respond based on their presence, not how he really felt. Don't worry if you can't meet him yourself, calm down and talk to him alone for a while.
- Do not rush. You don't want to feel anxious or rushed. Asking him while you're running to class, or when he's headed somewhere will only make things worse. Choose a time where you relax like after school or during your lunch break.
- Watch the mood. If he's upset or quiet, it's better to wait for the next opportunity.
Step 2. Talk to him
This may be difficult but is usually easy. Open-ended questions (which don't quite answer yes or no) are a good start.
- Ask about his plans. (like "What are you going to do this weekend? I want to…")
- Ask his opinion about the experience together (teachers, friends, class, etc.). (“Did you see it? I thought it was…! What do you think?”)
Step 3. Take control of your body language
Open and caring body language helps a lot - maybe even without saying it.
- Make eye contact. The look in your eyes will show that you listen and care about him. Not looking him in the eye will only show that you are nervous and difficult to approach.
- Posture. Make sure that your body is open and facing him. Point your hips toward him (if you're standing) and make sure your arms don't cross.
- touch. Make an excuse to touch it lightly and politely. The bond created by touch can relax you unconsciously. Slowly place your hand on his forehead while he is talking, or gently nudge him as he walks.
- Follow his position. Giving the same physical position will let him know that you are similar. Humans are programmed to look for people who have similarities.
Step 4. Smile
Remember to always, always, and always smile. Not only will your smile make him feel happy, it will make your mood better too.
Step 5. Tell him
When it's time to tell how you feel, remember to stay calm! After all he is only human, just like you. Here's how to get through it well:
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One good way is to combine it with another sentence:
- "Sarah asked me who I thought would graduate to a public university this year. I told her I liked you and I thought you would."
- "Your history test scores are bad? Mine are bad too, but don't worry, I still like you"
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If you are good friends, a more direct method can be used:
- "We often have fun together. I really like you."
- You may need to ask: "I think I'm starting to like you. How are you?"
Step 6. Deal with the response
Be prepared to hear what he has to say, both good and bad. If he is a good person, he will not hurt your feelings.
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If he doesn't like you, that's okay. You've been brave enough to try it. Be proud that you are brave! To avoid feeling awkward, go with something nice to say:
- "I see, I'm still your friend. You're so cute!"
- "I have to go home: I just wanted you to know. See you later!"
- If he doesn't give a definite response, repeat the conversation later. He may need to find out how he feels. Give him a few days and repeat.
- If he says he likes you too, calm down. Now is not the time to attack him with a kiss or a hug. Smile, and continue your conversation, and find some time to spend together.
Method 2 of 3: Saying Via SMS or Chat
Step 1. Start a conversation
You already have the phone number, so congratulations! You've been through the hard part. Send short but interesting messages.
- Ask him something. People like other people who are attracted to them. Ask how he's been through his day, if he's seen the latest episode of the movie you both watched, if he's finished his English homework - or anything you know about him. #*If you guys have something in common, talk about it! Do you both play certain sports or the same musical instrument? Find a way to keep talking.
- Use emoticons. With electronic devices, it is very difficult to know what someone really means. Emoticons will soften whatever we say. A smiling picture means that your sentence is positive, and a blinking picture of course means that you are teasing him.
Step 2. Find the right time
Sending a reply right away will make him think you've been waiting for him. Actually this is okay, but it's better if you look like you have your own busy life. Do your activities as usual.
Selling expensive is not a good thing. Don't hang it - treat the sms like text from your other friends
Step 3. Describe how you feel
Once your conversation has started, find a time where this feels natural.
- "You told David that I like you? That's true:)"
- "Haha! =] I really like you. Are you going to the movies next Friday?"
Step 4. Answer back
Whatever the response. Don't jump to conclusions. Breathe first, and send your answer.
- If he hesitates, don't force him. He might need some time to think. Continue your conversation - don't suddenly stop. If a few days have passed and he doesn't give any signs to explain, then repeat the same way.
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If he says no, try to improve your mood. Maybe he felt awkward too.
- "Ohh, that's fine. I just wanted you to know. But you can't borrow my ruler anymore!:)"
- "I see. I've been busy too - I just started [your hobby]!"
- If he says yes, then it's time to go together. Don't go to his house, or write down the wedding date just yet. Make plans to go out together next week.
Method 3 of 3: Saying Through Writing
Step 1. Cheer up
Writing that is too intense can frighten him. Write light and cheerful:
Hi!:) I wanted to leave you this note. Oh, looks like Rina's mother saw me! - Not anymore now. Are you going to Sarah's birthday party tomorrow Saturday? I like you - wanna go together:)?"
Step 2. Give it to him in secret
You can put it in his school bag (don't forget to write your name), put it in his book, or give it in person. Giving it quickly saying, "Yours fell!" Of course it would make him realize.
Step 3. Response
Depending on the response, you will need to do certain things.
- If he responds positively, talk to him alone. It does not matter!
- If he responds negatively, stay friendly with him. When you meet, smile and stay normal. Don't chase it any further.
- If he doesn't respond, you may need to talk to him directly. If you don't give your writing directly, maybe he doesn't read it. Wait a few days, if he doesn't respond, tell him directly. Maybe he just needed time to think.
Tips
- Being rejected is not good, but not knowing is not good either. Don't be afraid to take risks!
- Even if you get rejected, there may still be a chance in the future that he will like you, and think back to why he rejected you in the first place. Stay positive, don't hold grudges.
- Be yourself. If you pretend, your relationship will not work out.
- Try getting to know each other before saying you like them. So you'll know if you're really compatible.
- If you don't like talking face-to-face, take her to an event. If he's interested, you can move closer without having to say how you feel.
- There's another guy out there. If he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, find another guy who can.
Warning
- Do not exaggerate. Remember to always breathe. You won't die.
- If his ex-girlfriend is your friend, talk and make sure your friend is okay. You certainly don't want to lose friends.
- Don't forget to love yourself first.
