Sending a short message (SMS or chat) to a guy you like can be fun, but it can also be stressful and a little scary. No matter how nervous you may feel at the start of a conversation, if you stay calm, you'll be able to send messages smoothly in the end! By asking interesting and slightly teasing questions, you can grab their attention and show how fun, interesting, and smart you are.
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Part 1 of 3: Opening Chats Well
Step 1. Send a message first to show your confidence
You may want to wait for him to text first, but if you take the initiative to call him, you can start a conversation and show how confident you are. He will be impressed and relieved because you can reduce the "burden" of contacting you first.
You don't always have to start a conversation. If you've spoken to him several times, make sure he's willing to show his interest by taking the initiative to contact you first
Step 2. List things you've done together
Bring back the last conversation or share things that have been done as a natural and appropriate way to start a conversation. Topics or things like this seem to make you bond through casual things, even if you've only been in contact with them in groups so far. Package the topic or thing in the form of a question so he can respond to it.
- If you're in his class, you can make funny comments like, "Is it just me or Mr. Budi looks weirder than usual in math class today?"
- If you've had a memorable chat, make the topic of the conversation an inside joke by saying, for example, "Okay. I still don't understand why you don't like ice cream. How come you don't like ice cream?”
- If you just met him at an event, such as a sports game or party, call the meeting funny, like "So you're the guy who saved me from spilling that drink at the party yesterday, huh?"
Step 3. Ask funny questions to show your fun side
If your crush has a goofy side of his own, show a little spontaneity to get his attention. Randomly asked funny questions are a surefire way to get his response while grabbing his attention. Some examples of questions that can be asked include:
- "I know this sounds weird, but I want to know: if you could only eat one type of food for the rest of your life, what would you eat?"
- "I'm arguing with my friend and you can determine the answer, but you are free to determine your answer. Do you think hot dogs are actually sandwiches?”
Step 4. Throw in a few compliments
Everyone likes a little compliment, but praising too much can leave you feeling hopeless. So, compliment him in a fun way (and not directly) to show that you're impressed, but not overly. Try saying, for example:
- “He said you won the sports match yesterday. I think you are really good at sports;)”
- “Remember yesterday you fixed the fan in my room? Do not be arrogant. My friend actually feels that you are good at fixing things. Hehehe."
- "It's really cool that you can get the main role on the stage, but don't forget us who already knew you before you were famous, okay:P"
Step 5. Give him an interesting challenge
Many men are competitive and like to be challenged. Give him a pleasurable challenge or request. He will be driven to impress you and show that he can take up the challenge you put him through. You could say, for example:
- "You say you're a good cook, but I can't believe it until you cook something for me."
- “Everyone said you were good at playing the guitar. Maybe you can play a song for me?”
Part 2 of 3: Keeping Her Interested
Step 1. Ask genuine questions about the things he is interested in
Think about the things he is interested in and direct the conversation to those topics. This will give him a chance to show his true self and help you connect more deeply. Remember to keep the atmosphere light and cheerful so the conversation doesn't feel too serious.
- If you know that he likes sports, for example, ask him who his favorite team is and how it's done this year. Also ask how he started and why he followed the team's progress.
- You can also ask him about his pets, television shows, classes he's taken, or places he's been.
- Show that you agree by saying, “Yeah, I feel that way too!” and throw in a light tease when you disagree with him, “I think you're wrong, but that's okay. I forgive you;)"
Step 2. Throw in a light tease to keep his attention
A lot of guys like to chase after something (like confession or something they like) so a light (and certainly not serious) "cheat" will make him want your approval or approval even more. Show your wit and humor to keep him interested and excited to know what you have to say next.
- For example, if he's going to play basketball with his friends, you might say, “Let's get the ball in the basket this time!:P”
- If you're sitting next to him at lunch, you can send a message like “I see you brought your own lunch today. Looks like you can eat your lunch today…;)” after a break.
- Throw in teasing about light topics. Avoid topics like family, appearance, political views, or other sensitive topics, especially if you're new to them.
Step 3. Talk to him about the things you do in your free time
You need to show him that you're interested in his life, but don't make him and his life the main topic of conversation. Tuck in a little “story” about yourself to grab his attention and encourage him to ask questions about you.
- Show that you have a life of your own to make you seem more interesting and mysterious.
- If he talks about his pet, for example, you might say, “I've never had a dog. I think I like cats more. But, I might change my mind;)”
Step 4. Don't overuse emojis and exclamation points
Excessive use of emojis and punctuation marks makes you appear overly aggressive and perhaps a little hesitant or uncomfortable with yourself. It's fine if you insert an emoji or an exclamation point every now and then, but don't add more than one mark (or put a mark at the end of each message).
- Once you get to know his messaging style, you can customize and send more emojis. In the early stages, try “playing it safe” and sending simple messages!
- If you feel that you seem overly enthusiastic, there's a good chance that you are. Even if you've taken steps to be safe, try to lower your enthusiasm a little to play it safe.
- You can also send animated GIFs or funny memes once in a while. However, don't over-deliver such content. Additions like this actually look funnier if they are inserted just a little into the message.
Step 5. Don't over-analyze the short message
When you get a short response, like “ok”, or even no response at all, don't panic! There are many reasons why he can't send longer messages, or he can't reply at all. Therefore, calm down. Put your phone away for a moment and do something else to ignore it.
- Some guys tend to take a long time to reply to messages, so adjust your expectations until you understand how long it usually takes him to reply to messages.
- Don't ask why he didn't reply to your message (or reply briefly) when he finally got back to you. This can make you seem desperate. You can show that you remain relaxed and flexible by continuing to chat as usual.
Step 6. Don't keep sending text messages non-stop, especially if he doesn't reply to your messages
It's great if you feel good when you're texting with a guy you like. This means, the two of you are totally connected! However, don't send too many messages. If you keep in contact with him, or send long messages about trivial things, you will seem dependent on him.
- When you're just texting her, try not to send more than 2-3 messages when she doesn't respond.
- If he doesn't respond to you and you start to get annoyed, put your phone away and do something else for a while.
Step 7. Be yourself when you text him
Regardless of how much you hope that he reciprocates your feelings, don't try to be a different person when you text him. Show your natural humor, wit, and cheerful personality, and don't force yourself to be a different person, just to make yourself more attractive.
- Guys are attracted to confidence so the best thing you can do is just be yourself.
- Keep in mind that it's a waste of time to put together an interesting short message chat if you turn out to be a completely different person in real life!
Part 3 of 3: Making Him Want You More
Step 1. Close the chat at peak moments
He-or you-may not be very interested in the conversation again if the conversation ends when you get bored. Therefore, end the conversation while both of you are enjoying the peak of fun
- It may be difficult for you to end a conversation while you're enjoying it, but this way, he will still think about you afterward and always look forward to chatting with you again.
- Use your instincts to tell when the time is right, like when you just sent a clever message and he responds with a laugh (“hahaha”), or when he just asks an interesting question. The question itself actually shows that he is interested and involved in his conversation with you.
Step 2. Use excuses as a “relaxing” farewell message
Even if you don't really need to do anything (or go anywhere), excuses like that (e.g. having to do something) are a casual and natural way to end a conversation. You're not destroying his ego by sounding like you're "throwing" him, and you're actually making him interested in what you're about to do. You can try things like this:
- Try saying, for example, “Ouch! I have to cook dinner. I'll answer your question later, okay? Just wait;)"
- “I have to do PR. Sorry I can't tell funny stories anymore!”
- “I have to drive now. I'll call you again when I get there. That too if I remember;)”
Step 3. End the conversation with a question to keep him thinking about you
Try saying, for example, “I have to go, but what do you think about…?” This is a surefire way to get him to respond to you, without requiring you to respond right away. He will check his phone all day long to see if you have replied to his messages or not!
Try saying, for example, "I have to go now, but, do you think Persib will win this season?" or, “Oh, I have to go. Uh, you watched the new episode of the show, right? Really good !"
Step 4. Throw in a possible future plan
A good short message chat usually leads to a live chat! To strengthen your chances of meeting and interacting with him in person, hint that you may see him later or tomorrow. However, do not make definite plans in advance. Show a little mysterious side so that he is more interested in meeting you.
- You could say, for example, “Hmm… see you later. Maybe…” or, “Maybe we'll meet tomorrow;)”
- To provide a little teasing or joking, you can say, "I know you can't wait to see me in class tomorrow;)"
