Figuring out if a girl likes you can be exciting, confusing, and terrifying, especially if you really like her figure. If you and the girl in question are texting each other, you can look for clues about how she feels for you through her messages. By paying attention to the content, time, and manner of sending a message, you can get an idea of how he really feels about you.
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Method 1 of 3: Understanding the Meaning of the Message
Step 1. See if he already knows a few things about you
If someone is attracted to you, there's a good chance he or she has already done some of the initial "tasks." He may give a hint that he knows your hobbies and interests, either by talking to his friends or following you on social media accounts. This can be a good sign that he likes you.
- For example, if he asks about the ski vacation photo you posted, you can guess that he may have feelings for you.
- It can also indicate that he is interested in you as a friend and wants to get to know you better.
Step 2. Look for messages that build rapport and intimacy
When someone likes you, they usually build an emotional bond through messages that create closeness. One thing to pay attention to is the nickname he uses when texting you. He or she may also try to connect with you by sharing experiences or things you both share an interest in.
- Is he texting you reminiscing about a funny incident at school or giving each other support for a difficult assignment or upcoming exam? This can be a sign that he wants to connect with you emotionally.
- This kind of relationship can also indicate that he is interested in forming a friendship with you.
Step 3. Pay attention to his compliments
Things like compliments and gratitude send the clear message that he's thinking about you a lot. Messages like these also give you clues about what you like or find attractive about you.
- Does he compliment your appearance? Your clothes? Does he thank you for the kindness you gave him? You can learn a lot about what he thinks by noticing the things he appreciates about you.
- Compliments don't have to be outspoken. If he shares the good news with you, he's actually showing that he's thinking about you a lot.
- If he shares something that reminds him of you, this can be a positive sign that you are always on his mind.
Step 4. Pay attention to the questions and details he shares
Text messages are an appropriate and low-risk medium for two people to get to know each other better. If he shares details about his interests and likes/hates, it could be that he's trying to find an important match between the two of you. If he continues these details with a question for you, he may want to show that he is interested in getting to know you better.
- Answer her questions wisely and don't forget to keep the conversation going by asking her questions.
- This can be a great way to become closer friends with someone in general.
Step 5. Pay attention to short or unclear messages
If he likes you, there's a good chance he wants to share his thoughts and perspectives with you, and is interested in getting to know you better. However, if he continues to give short responses without much content or details about his life, he may not be interested in you.
If you get a message that makes you feel confused, stop chatting with him. Try texting him again tomorrow to see if his attitude has changed. If his messages seem cold and unfriendly, or he doesn't respond to your messages at all, forget about him and get up
Method 2 of 3: Looking for Nonverbal Clues in the Message
Step 1. Pay attention to the emoji he sends
When he sends a string of heart emojis, this can be a good sign that he is interested in you. The more emojis he sends, the better. By sending interesting emoticons, he wants to show you that he is a smart and funny person.
Some emojis (eg kissing faces or lips) are often used to show interest that goes deeper than friendship
Step 2. Observe the memes he sends
If he sends you a meme, he may be trying to get your attention and build a relationship with you. By sharing memes that are usually meant to spark laughter, he wants to try to create a joke that only the two of you will understand or laugh at something you both find funny. Humor alone can be a great way to connect with someone, and he may be trying to find out if your sense of humor is the same as his.
Laughter and humor are important aspects of many relationships, including friendships
Step 3. Pay attention to when he texts you
If he often texts at night or in the morning, he wants to show that you are the last thing he thinks about before he goes to sleep, and the first thing he thinks about when he opens his eyes. He may also want to make sure that you think about him often.
Classic “good morning” and “good night” messages can be a good sign that he likes you
Step 4. Observe the photo he sent
Pictures of him or what he does throughout the day can indicate that he wants to give you an idea of his life. He wants to build your interest in his life by sharing what he does or sees. In addition, he can also ask for input or advice on the things he shows.
Photos of his daily life can be a medium to show that he often thinks about you and wants to involve you in his life
Method 3 of 3: Asking It Directly
Step 1. Ask about his busy life and indirectly invite him to do activities together
By casually asking him to do something together, you can ease the anxiety and fear you feel about wanting to ask him about his feelings for you in person. For example, you could ask about his plans for tonight or this weekend. If the schedule is still empty or uncertain, you can tell him what you want to do and invite him to join you.
- If he says he's busy, he may not be interested in you, but there's also a chance that he's actually busy. Ask him if he has any other days to spare and pay attention to his answers.
- For example, you could ask: “What are your plans this weekend?” If he answers “Nothing” or “I want to see a movie”, you can say, “I'm actually planning on watching a movie too. Wanna go together?”
Step 2. Let him “guide” when you spend time with him
If he tells you about a restaurant he wants to go to, an exam he's worried about, a movie he wants to see, or a certain school event (like a party or dance), he really wants you to ask him about it. Continue the conversation with an indirect invitation to do things that he is interested in with you.
- For example, if he often talks about a new pizza restaurant in your city, say that you want to visit the restaurant too and ask him to go with you.
- If there's a school event coming up that he talks about a lot, let him know that you can't wait to attend too and want to see if he'd like to go with you.
- He's probably been talking about the exams you two are going to face lately. This can be the right opportunity to invite him to study together.
Step 3. Try to speak clearly and directly
If all the steps you follow don't work and you still don't know how he feels about you, try asking him directly. If he really likes you, he won't say "no" when you ask him about it. You can first say that you like him, then ask him if he feels the same way for you, depending on how brave or confident you are with your feelings.
- By taking the first step, you can release the "burden" from it. He will appreciate it, especially if he is a shy person.
- Be prepared if he is not interested in you. Humans are very complicated figures. Even if he sends the appropriate signs, there's still a chance that he doesn't really like you.
- Regardless of the response, state your intentions directly so that you can understand the situation that exists between the two of you.
Step 4. Accept the word
Even if he's still confused about his feelings or doesn't want to text you flirting, "no" still means no. If he tells you he's not interested in you (to be more than just a friend), even though you feel that he's sending a confusing signal, accept what he's saying and stand up.
If you've asked him directly and he doesn't respond at all, pretend he's not interested in you. Silencing someone isn't a good attitude, but it's not uncommon for someone to not respond when they feel uncomfortable, awkward, or guilty about having to reject someone
Tips
- Don't make assumptions based on how long it will take him to respond to your message. Maybe he's busy or not holding his phone. In general, the quality of the response is far more important than the response time.
- If you don't like someone who likes you, don't ignore them because your attitude can hurt them. Firmly and kindly let him know that you are not interested in him.
- When he texts you, he may just want to be your friend. If you think revealing the secret behind his messages is too confusing, ask him about his feelings directly and calmly so you don't get caught up in waiting.
- When you message someone, you're actually creating a written record of the interaction that can be shared with others. Therefore, discuss the most sensitive chat topics when meeting in person to ensure your messages don't become public consumption.
