Sometimes it's not always easy for you to know if a woman is attracted to you. Some women do clearly show it by teasing, chuckling and blushing when close to you. However, others tend to be more shy and more vague in showing their true feelings. However, no matter what kind of woman you're trying to find out how she feels, there are some surefire clues if she's really interested in you. Maybe you like this woman and want to know if your feelings are reciprocated, or maybe you just want to know if a woman you know is interested in you or not. The following steps will help you figure it out.
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Method 1 of 3: Watch His Behavior
Step 1. Try to catch his eyes staring at you
This is a hint. If you look around the room or at a party and find that he's looking right at you, this means he may be interested in you. If when you catch him staring at you, he looks away and blushes, or smiles a little, this means he may be admitting that he likes you.
Don't be too obvious when you try to get him to stare at you, because he may think you're the one staring at him
Step 2. Observe if he (very) blushes when he is close to you
This is another clue that he may indeed be interested in you. If every time you walk by him or talk to him you notice that his face turns red or he looks nervous, this is a sign that he likes you and that he is shy when talking to you for fear of doing/saying something wrong. If you do notice her blushing, don't tease her and don't mention it, as this will only make her even more afraid to talk to you.
However, make sure that she is not the kind of woman who always blushes when talking to any guy. If so, she is a woman who is shy when it comes to men, not women who are attracted to you
Step 3. Observe if he laughs a lot when he's with you
Many women often chuckle when they are close to the man they like, because this feeling of liking makes them feel amused and difficult to think when around the man they like. If you find that this woman laughs a lot when you're around, even if you're not joking, then maybe she really likes you. He may be amused, or he may find that everything you say sounds funny, because of his feelings for you.
The next time you talk to him, observe how often he laughs. Try telling a short joke and see if he laughs excessively, as this may mean he's attracted to you
Step 4. Observe the behavior of his friends
A girl's friends can give you lots of clues about how she feels about you, without saying much. The next time you run into the woman while walking with her friends, observe if her friends laugh when they see you, or maybe they elbow her or nod their head at you to let her know you're there. This is a pretty clear clue that a woman might like you.
If her friends always greet you with smiles that seem meaningful, then this means they're trying to tell you that she really likes you
Step 5. See if he often makes excuses to see you
If a woman is attracted to you, she will want to be around you as much as possible. If he likes you, he may find reasons to meet you, for example, ask you to help him with his Math homework, or even take you to a certain movie or concert. He may be very casual while doing these things, to hide his feelings for you.
If you and the woman are in the same social circle, and she is showing up a lot more often than before, this means she may be attracted to you
Step 6. Observe if he pays more attention to his appearance when he is around you
If he looks more stylish when he meets you and pays more attention to his hair and make-up, this means he may be trying to make a good impression on you. If you're alone with him, or hanging out in a small group with him, but he spends a lot of time rubbing his lips or in the mirror, or repeatedly tidying his clothes, this also means that he's trying to make a good impression on you.
- If you see him not looking too stylish when you bump into him, it means he is trying to look more stylish just to get your attention.
- If you bump into him at the supermarket or other places, and he jokes about his easygoing appearance, it means he's embarrassed that he doesn't seem attractive to you.
Step 7. Pay attention to his body language
A woman's body language can be a very complete clue about her feelings for you. If he's always making eye contact, leaning toward you, and facing you when you talk, this means he probably likes you. Here are a few other things to look out for:
- If he plays with his hair while talking to you, this may mean that he is nervous because he likes you.
- If he shifts the direction of his body weight from one leg to the other, this may also mean that he is nervous when talking to you.
- If he breaks eye contact and looks down every now and then, this may mean that he likes you.
Step 8. Observe her behavior when around other men
This is very important. You may think that a certain woman likes you, but it turns out that she is actually always flirtatious, talkative and likes to play games with all men. Or there are also some women who like several men at once, or do like to be close to men (because there are types of women who prefer to be friends with men than be friends with women). You may misunderstand the clues and think that the woman likes you, when in fact she just wants to be friends.
- Know the things she does to other men. If he behaves the same way with everyone, it means that's his personality.
- However, if he treats you differently and pays more attention to you (or ignores you more because he's shy when he talks to you), it means that he probably really likes you.
Method 2 of 3: Watch the Words
Step 1. Observe if he is joking with you
If a woman jokes with you, this is another clear sign that she is really interested in you. Joking is a form of flirting, as well as a way for women to show their love in a style that doesn't look too serious. If he jokes with you, such as teasing your clothes, gently shoving your shoulders or body, or teasing your hair or shoes, don't be offended. This is his way of showing he cares for you.
See if he's also joking with other guys, or just joking with you. If he jokes around with everyone, it's probably just his playful personality. But if he's just joking with you, it means you're a special person to him
Step 2. See if he compliments you
If a woman is always complimenting you, it most likely means that she likes you. If he says he likes your new shoes, or your historical presentation, or your high-scoring game of baseball, then yes, this very likely means that he really likes you. If a woman likes you, she will love whatever you do, and she may even have the nerve to tell you.
- See if she's the kind of woman who really likes to compliment you, or if she just compliments you a lot. Who knows, she's just a really good-natured woman. However, that's probably not the case.
- If he compliments your new clothes or new haircut, it means that he notices your changing clothes and appearance, which is also a clear sign that he likes you.
Step 3. Observe if he makes excuses to talk to you
If a woman is attracted to you, she will try to talk to you as often as possible, unless she is really shy. If you don't have any friends he knows well or don't have any reason to see each other, he may ask questions that have easy or obvious answers, such as Maths homework answers that he could easily ask other friends. Maybe he'll even call or text you asking these obvious things, because he hopes that this will bring him into a conversation with you.
If he's attracted to you, he might even try to talk about something he knows you like, such as a particular sport or television show. He may come to you just to ask if you watched a sports game on television last night or to ask what you think about the latest installment of your favorite television movie. Of course, maybe he likes the same things that you do, but it's also possible that he's using that as an excuse to talk to you
Step 4. Watch if he asks if you like someone
A woman may think she's asking vaguely if you like someone, or if you're going out with a girl this weekend, or if you like a certain woman, but it's actually a very clear clue. If he asks if you like someone, what he really wants to ask is, "Do you like me?"
- There's only one other possibility -- he might ask if you like someone because one of his friends likes you and he's helping his friend as a go-between.
- If you tell him that you don't like anyone, then he continues the question with, “How can you not like anyone? You must like someone, dong…”, this means that he wants you to say that you like him.
- His curiosity about your own feelings shows that he is interested in a romantic relationship with you.
Step 5. Pay attention to what he says about other women you hang out with
Is he subtly trying to “put down” the other women you hang out with? Is he saying that the other women you've been with weren't really good enough for you? If so, what he's really trying to say is that he's the best for you. If he's trying to "put down" any other woman you interact with, even the one you happen to talk to in the hallway, this means that he's jealous that he's not getting all your attention.
This jealousy is only natural if it appears when you have not been in a special relationship with him. Just make sure that this doesn't become a problem when you make him your girlfriend
Step 6. Observe if he gives hints that he wants to have a girlfriend
Maybe he's thinking he's giving vague hints, but if he keeps saying, "It would be great if I had a girlfriend," or "It really sucks being alone," or "If only I had a boyfriend who could watch movies with me, "This means that he wants you as his girlfriend. If he keeps making the same vague comments, it means you are the person he wants.
There's only one other possibility -- that he wants to date one of your friends. But if he never asks about your friend, it means he's actually interested in you
Step 7. Observe what he says about other men
If he's always saying that this guy and that guy aren't good enough, or not as good as you, then he's saying he's attracted to you. He may even say that he wishes this man or that man had certain qualities or traits that you actually have.
- If she says that she wishes the guy she's been watching movies with has more of a sense of humor, while he always compliments your sense of humor, it means he's showing that he wants to date you.
- If he always compares you to other men and puts you in a superior position, this means that he is telling you that he likes you more than any other man.
Step 8. Observe if he often calls or texts you
If he's always doing these things, then there's a good chance that he really likes you. If he often sends lots of smiley face emoticons, or calls just to say hello or ask trivial things like homework in class that he can easily get from any other friend, this means he's looking for an excuse to talk to you..
If he sends you a text message that only contains smiley face emoticons or certain words that indicate laughter like “hehe”, this means he is flirting with you
Method 3 of 3: Know If He Likes You
Step 1. Ask your friends
Your first source of information should be your own friends. Ask if they've seen you and this woman close together and ask their opinion on whether she likes you. Your friends may have a broader perspective on this woman's attraction to you, or whether she's just being playful and flirty with everyone else too. Ask your friends to answer honestly -- if they think they don't like you, they should tell you about it.
- Guys can also tell if a girl likes someone else, not you. This can be useful information before you attempt to approach the woman.
- Don't ask friends who talk too much or who are also close friends with the woman. These friends may tell the woman that you are asking for her, and this will get you caught.
Step 2. Ask his friends
Asking a girl's friends if she likes you is like asking her directly. But if you really trust one of his friends and are sure that he won't report your question to her, then go ahead and ask if she's really interested in you. His friends will know if he really likes you -- it's just a matter of whether he'll tell you or not.
Don't take it too seriously, and don't reveal your feelings to the woman
Step 3. Ask him directly
If you like him too and want to know how he really feels, don't be afraid to ask him directly. Find a time when you can be alone with him in a quiet place, then ask him if he likes you. If you like him, you can tell him how you feel in advance, then let him know if he likes you too. Speak calmly, make eye contact, and give him all your attention to let him know that you think he's important. But don't take it too seriously, because he'll get scared.
- If he admits that he likes you, and you like him too, ask him out and observe how the relationship continues.
- If he says he doesn't like you, react accordingly. Don't be offended or angry. Stay calm and show him that you are a superior man.
Tips
- If you want to tell a woman that you like her and want to know how she feels, some women won't like it if you do it at lunch or in class. Find a less crowded place.
- Don't act like she's weird. Don't just stop saying hello and act like you don't know him. You might break her heart if so.
- If you like him too but he's shy, you should approach him first.
- Never be a coward, because he will hate you if you do. Be normal.
