Breakups can be tough, especially if you didn't want to break up from the start. But if you're absolutely sure that he's the right guy for you, don't despair. Do the following ideas to make him want you back.
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Method 1 of 3: Give Your Ex Space
Step 1. Accept the breakup
Deal with a breakup with grace and maturity. If he breaks up with you, respect his decision and give him time to see things more clearly. He will appreciate your understanding and appreciate you even more for controlling yourself with dignity.
- The last thing you want to do is create drama. Crying or getting angry at him won't get you anywhere, in fact, he may even run in the opposite direction.
- By calmly accepting the breakup, you have leveled the game. He may have expected a different reaction from you, but now he'll be wondering why you're not angry. This may have planted the first seed of doubt in his mind.
Step 2. Disconnect all communications
After a breakup, emotions run high and some people don't always make rational decisions. Therefore, it is advisable to cut off all communication with your ex temporarily.
- Don't annoy your ex with a phone call, text message or Facebook. This will have the opposite effect than desired. Wait for him to contact you first.
- This will be tough, but try not to contact your ex for at least 2-3 weeks. Give him time to miss you.
Step 3. Give him and you time to recuperate
Breakups can be really bad. Harsh words were spoken to each other and feelings were hurt. You need to give your ex and yourself time to calm down, reflect, and recuperate. Only then can you consider continuing the relationship.
- Getting back together when the wound is fresh will cause the same old problems to resurface and your attempts to revive the relationship are doomed to failure.
- Wait until enough time has passed so you can think about the breakup objectively and talk to your ex without getting upset or angry.
Step 4. Value your relationship honestly
Take this time apart to honestly assess your relationship, thinking about what went wrong and what was right. Try to pinpoint the real problem that caused the relationship to end and find out if the problem can be fixed.
- If you believe that the problems in your relationship can be fixed, and both you and he are willing to work on it, then your relationship has a chance.
- If, on the other hand, the circumstances that led to the relationship ending are unlikely to change, or if neither you nor your ex are willing to correct your behavior for the sake of the relationship, then getting back together may not be a good idea.
- Use your head to decide this, not just with your heart.
Step 5. Apologize, if necessary
Towards the end or when you broke up, you may have said things you didn't mean or that you now regret. It's never too late to be big-hearted and apologize.
- If a breakup is the result of your actions, then you should take the first step to apologize. Your ex will appreciate your attitude and may feel more warm and sympathetic to you.
- You can never move on from the past if you don't admit your mistakes.
Method 2 of 3: Focus on Yourself
Step 1. Stay calm
If you've just been through an unwanted breakup, it may feel like your world is spinning out of control. Do not panic. Stay calm and remind yourself that you are strong and that you will overcome whatever life throws at you.
- Don't make rash decisions. You're in a vulnerable state of mind right now, so try not to do anything you might regret.
- If you've set your mind on going back to your ex, that's okay. But give yourself some personal time to work on your own problems first.
Step 2. Talk to someone
After a breakup, it's probably safe to say there's a demon inside you that you need to get rid of. The best thing you can do is talk to someone you trust, friends, family, a therapist. With them, you can release all the pent-up anger, hurt and tears that you have stored. You will feel much better afterwards.
- By talking about your breakup with an outsider, you are free to express all your feelings and thoughts without risking doing irreparable damage to your relationship with your ex.
- Talking about a breakup will help you analyze your feelings and give you perspective on your situation. Maybe you're starting to look at things from a different perspective and understand your ex's point of view. This kind of understanding and empathy can help get you back on the right track later.
Step 3. Be independent
Use this breakup (even if it's temporary) as an opportunity to break free. In a relationship, people tend to be too dependent on their partners and forget how to live life on their own. Now is your chance to regain your long forgotten independent self. You won't regret it.
- Go places on your own, meet new people, try new things. Doing things alone will allow you to gain confidence and help you feel whole again.
- Reconnect with your friends. Many people feel guilty for ignoring their friends when they are in a relationship. Now that you're free to do the things you want, take the initiative and organize events with your girl friends. You'll soon be laughing so hard you'll wonder why you didn't do it so often
Step 4. Take care of yourself
You've been going through some tough times lately, so take the opportunity to focus on yourself and your needs. Do things that make you happy and feel good.
- Take a long bath, get plenty of rest, eat healthy and exercise. You will look and feel better.
- You have to be happy with yourself before thinking about getting into a relationship again.
Step 5. Try to improve yourself
Have you complained about your job this year? Quit and find a better job! Always say you want to do a new hobby or start a new exercise program? It is time! Take this opportunity to improve yourself and be the best you can be.
- Many people say that a sexy new body is the best way to get their ex's attention back. But don't just do it for him, do it for yourself. Exercise and a healthy diet will release hormones that cause a good mood and will give you more energy and motivation to go about your day.
- Getting a new job or taking up a long-discussed hobby will give you a new release to focus on and give you very little time to mourn the breakup. Hopefully your ex will also be impressed by your new attitude of daring to pursue your dreams.
Step 6. Mingle
Just because you've made up your mind to get back at your ex doesn't mean you can't have fun for a while. Dress up and go out and feel free to flirt to your heart's content. At the very least, you will be reminded that you are an attractive and attractive person and that you have other options if your relationship does not go as planned.
- Letting your ex see you with another guy will fuel his feelings of jealousy and desire. This may make him realize that he wants you back and help you in your quest.
- But be careful with tactics like this. If your ex thinks you're really happy with someone else, he or she will probably move on to forget you too.
Method 3 of 3: Make a New Beginning
Step 1. Let him contact you
Let him take the first step. It may be hard waiting, but stay strong. At least when he finally calls, you'll know that he's thinking of you and that he's ready to take a step toward your relationship, whatever it may be. If you push him too fast, he may be pulled in another direction.
- When he calls you, don't play pigeon tame. Respond in a timely manner and be polite and sweet.
- After he calls, you can suggest a meeting to talk privately. Go to a neutral place where you can have a private conversation, but one that can easily be abandoned if something worse happens. Cafe or garden would be perfect.
Step 2. Remind him why he was attracted to you in the first place
Sometimes the bad things that happen at the end of a relationship can cloud all the good things that came before. Remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place.
- Spark her memories by wearing the same perfume you wore on your first date, or a dress she thinks looks great on you.
- Remember the happy times you had together. Make him remember his feelings for you in better times.
Step 3. Go slow
Don't rush to re-enter the relationship head-first. Take the time to talk things over and make sure you both have the same idea. Make sure you both know what to fix and are willing to give it a chance.
- Try dating again. Go to dinner, bowling, or a movie together. Spend short but focused periods of time together. Get to know each other all over again.
- If you try to continue from where you left off, history will repeat itself.
Step 4. Leave the past in the past
If both of you have tried to overcome the problem and intend to make a new start, be grateful. Think of this as a new relationship, with no burdens. Forget what happened in the past and focus on the future together.
Tips
- Have confidence. Remember that men LOVE strong women and by showing her you have control over your world, this will attract her attention.
- Have good intentions. Sometimes it's tempting to try to get revenge, but if you don't really want him back, you're better off moving on with your life and finding someone else.
Warning
- If he's directly involved with another girl, you may not be on his mind, but stay strong and happy and he'll soon realize what he once had.
- Make sure you want this person back for a good reason, not because you're lonely or afraid to be alone.
- Maybe he has forgotten you, forgetting him is not the end of the world, maybe this is for the best.
