Has your love affair lasted long enough and are you ready to take it to the next level? Some people think that sex is normal, but others think of it as something special to do with a special person. While you shouldn't be pushy, you can try to calm your boyfriend's fears and reassure him that you're someone he can fully trust. After that, sex will happen naturally.
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Part 1 of 3: Building Lover's Trust
Step 1. Be a reliable partner
If you intend to make your lover want to make love, show that you are a reliable man. If he has to trust you before he wants to make love, regardless of the fact that it will be his first experience or if he has already done so, he has to be sure he can count on you. Maybe one of his fears is that as soon as you have sex, he won't be able to count on you anymore because you've already got what you want. So prove him wrong by being a respectable and reliable man.
- Come at the time according to the appointment. If you're used to being half an hour late when you pick him up for a date, he'll think you don't think he's special, and he's less likely to think about sex.
- Be trustworthy. If you say you're going to take her to the beach on the weekend, do it. If you don't keep your word, he won't be able to trust you.
- Be a good and strong figure for him. Let him talk about his problems and anxieties because he knows that you can make him feel better.
- Don't disappear for hours or even days without news. It will make him feel like he can't count on you.
Step 2. Be patient
Some men may feel ready to have sex with a woman in a very short time, while women may take months, or even longer, to decide they are ready to make love. In addition, some women are completely determined to maintain their virginity and do not even have the desire to have sex before marriage. So, don't rush. Right now you just have to make him believe.
- If he even feels uncomfortable kissing, don't try to talk about sex for now.
- However, if the two of you are comfortable making out after a few weeks of dating, you may think about taking it to the next level.
- Never suggest sex in a vulgar way or try to force a desire too early. That way will actually make him lose his passion and reduce the possibility.
Step 3. Don't act like you're obsessed with sex
Admit it, if you're a guy of a certain age who really wants to have sex, you may actually be obsessed. However, that doesn't mean you can make jokes, satire, or even make explicit references to sex all the time. You don't want your boyfriend to think that you're a maniac who doesn't care which woman he wants to go to bed with. You have to make your boyfriend feel special, as if all you want is him.
- You don't have to hide the fact that you're a normal guy with needs, but you shouldn't be vulgar, talk about sex a lot, or talk about other people who are sexually active.
- Don't make derogatory comments about other women. It will make the lover feel nothing more than an object. Remember that you are not with a guy friend, but with a special girl.
Step 4. Be a loyal man
If you want your lover to trust you, you have to be loyal to him. He will never want to make love to you if he thinks you are approaching or paying attention to other women, or wanting to hang out with other women. While you shouldn't be rude or dismissive of other women, you should still focus on your boyfriend so he can be sure that you'll always be there for him, especially after he wants to make love.
- Spend a lot of time on him. Make sure you plan at least one or two dates each week, and always call at least once a day when you're not together.
- Loyalty, possessiveness, and suffocating a lover with affection are three different things. You should try hard to keep your date, but don't try to stay together 24 hours a day and 7 days a week because he will start to withdraw.
- Don't just show that you are a loyal lover, but also show that you are a loyal brother, friend, and teammate. Show loyalty in all aspects of life and your lover will be impressed.
Part 2 of 3: Treat Your Lover Well
Step 1. Treat her like a lady
You should treat your lover like a lady, not just an object. For that, you have to be a real gentleman and be polite, kind, understanding, and generally admirable. Open the door for him, lend him your jacket when he's cold, pull out a chair for him to sit on, and help him carry heavy bags.
- Make sure you compliment her so she knows she's beautiful or that she's special.
- It's important to be a real man, but don't do anything that feels unnatural because your boyfriend will feel that you're not being yourself.
Step 2. Clean your house
This may sound silly, but if you want your boyfriend to feel special, don't ask him out if your place looks like a scene from a war movie. You should remove all dirty clothes from the floor, clean the dining table, and make sure the bed looks and smells clean and inviting.
- This will not only make your lover feel special, but also make him feel like making love. He certainly wasn't interested in a bed full of candy wrappers and dirty clothes.
- If you are traveling in a car, make sure the car is kept clean. Give your lover the reward he deserves in the form of a clean car seat to sit in.
Step 3. Show interest in all that is in him
The biggest fear for a woman is that her partner doesn't care about her personal qualities at all because she's too busy obsessing over her body. So you have to prove him wrong. Show that you care about him as a person, care about his hopes and dreams, and pay attention to anything that makes him angry.
- Ask about his friends, his childhood, and his favorite experiences.
- Show that you value his opinion. Ask him what he thinks about the current political situation or about your new clothes.
- Look him in the eye when you speak. Show that everything he says is important to you.
Step 4. Ask her out on a romantic date
If you want to create an atmosphere, you have to create romantic things first. Make her feel special by taking her out, dressing up, and choosing a romantic spot for dinner, a drink, or even just enjoying the stars. You don't have to overdo it or go outside of who you really are to make her feel special.
- While the two of you may enjoy time at a sports game, birthday party, or music concert, such events are less conducive to your goals.
- An occasional romantic gesture will show that he really matters to you.
Step 5. Give full attention to his needs
If you don't pay attention to his daily needs, how can you be attentive in the bedroom? He wants you to know when he's sad, nervous, anxious, or even feeling cold or hungry. Pay attention to his eyes, body language, and words to see if something is bothering him. If you're completely unaware that he's angry, he'll think you're not really paying attention.
If something goes wrong, don't be afraid to ask what happened. It will show that you care
Step 6. Make sure that he is ready
If you really want to treat him well, you have to have an idea of whether he's ready or not. If you are his first person, if he is completely inexperienced, or if he is very religious or has very strong moral beliefs, you should step back and wait until he trusts you enough to reconsider. However, there are a few ways to tell if he does have the same passion:
- If the atmosphere starts to heat up and thicken with a tendency in that direction, maybe he's ready to go further.
- If he's already started talking about sex, giving physical compliments, and touching you more and more, he's probably ready to make love.
- If he's hinting that he wants to stay with you, spends a lot of time in or near the bed, or invites you to come over late at night, he may be ready for a more intimate relationship.
- If he has very strong moral or religious convictions to wait, don't try to force your way around. Accept that some women don't want to have sex before marriage, and there's nothing you can do to change that belief.
Part 3 of 3: Awakening Lover's Passion
Step 1. Get ready
If you plan to invite your lover to make love, prepare a condom just in case he says yes. Condoms are not to show and make him uncomfortable, but as a preparation if things go according to your expectations.
If he turns out to be willing and you have to rush to the pharmacy, your first two experiences could fall apart
Step 2. Set the mood
If you want to excite your lover, you have to set the right atmosphere. You can start with a romantic outing to make him feel comfortable and relaxed. Then head back to your (clean) place, which may have red wine, grapes, chocolates, and some light jazz playing. Light a candle and play some music to make him feel romantic, then offer him a meal or drink.
If you find this method tacky, do whatever it takes to create the atmosphere you want. If you don't want to light a candle and just dim the lights, that's fine
Step 3. Kiss her lips
To excite your lover, you must be good at kissing. Even if you get used to it, you should still be aware of some variations and make sure your kisses don't get boring. Hold on and don't rush to move your hands. Kiss him gently or touch his lips while stroking his hair or face.
- Stop every now and then so he has time to breathe and want more.
- Usually, you won't be able to move on to sex if you just keep on kissing. It may take a little longer to achieve natural progress.
Step 4. Pull back a little
If what you really want is to make your boyfriend want you, don't act like a starving person who wants everything fast. Instead, kiss him for a few seconds, then stop, pet him, and talk to him. Repeat several times and wait for the passion to rise.
- Why does tug-of-war work in this situation? Because your boyfriend feels that you like him, but can control his urges and don't act recklessly (even if you really want to).
- This trick will make him ask for more.
Step 5. Touch him
If you want to turn your boyfriend on, you may want to think about doing something more than just a kiss. Start by stroking her arms, the back of her head and her hair, and when things heat up, caress the more intimate parts of her body.
- Make sure that your actions are reciprocated. If you touch him and he just lies down silently or doesn't do anything, you may have made him uncomfortable. Make sure he's fully prepared before you move on.
- If you're both in the bedroom, you can ask him if he's ready. Your questions don't have to be complicated or roundabout. Just say, "Are you sure you're ready?" and be prepared to receive any answer from him.
Step 6. Never push
If he says he's not ready, you shouldn't force him. Don't try to argue with this by saying, "But we've been dating for a long time," or "Everyone does," or "But I love you so much." Those words wouldn't make him feel any better. In fact, persuasion will only make him more frustrated, irritated, and less likely.
Step 7. Respect his wishes
If he changes his mind from "yes" to "no," or asks you to stop halfway, do what he wants right away. Maybe the two of you should have a chat first to find out what he wants to do and what he's not ready to do. Pay attention and never force your lover to do anything that makes him or her uncomfortable.
Step 8. Be good at judging
Learn to translate his reactions and don't insist if he doesn't agree. There's always tomorrow to try again. It's a good idea to try to excite your boyfriend when he's in a good mood. Feelings cannot be forced because they are a function of the mind. With the right timing and relaxed attitude, sooner or later he's bound to melt.
