Are you attracted to beautiful girls in the youth community at church? Your gaze is always on the religious girl of your classmate? You can show affection and captivate her by following these tips. Unlike the average teenage girl, polite and obedient Christian girls are less attracted to boys who are overly vocal or overly aggressive. The surefire way to win her heart is to always be kind according to Christian virtues and take care of her appearance.
Step
Method 1 of 2: Approaching With Respect
Step 1. Have a chat with him
Maybe you've heard this message a lot, but believe me, it's very effective! If he also joins the youth community at church, ask if he will attend next week's meeting or attend tonight's worship worship session or other church activities. This topic is perfect for starting a conversation! Instead of saying, "Oh, you're going to church with your dad on Saturday!", invite him to discuss a Bible verse and ask his opinion.
Step 2. Increase interaction with him
You can't love someone without knowing them. If you feel attracted to a girl, try to get to know her the best you can! Look for opportunities to share God's love together, for example: sitting next to him during a Bible course and having a discussion with him. Maybe he likes to chat with you too.
Step 3. Be humorous
The greatest joy is when we enjoy God's blessings by laughing. Everyone loves to laugh. Insert a healthy sense of humor while chatting with him. Take this opportunity to strengthen friendship as the beginning of the blossoming of love.
Step 4. Find out what you have in common
God gives talents and interests to everyone. Find common talents and interests with him and then do activities together. For example: if you like to paint, invite him to paint or collaborate to complete a painting. This method is quite challenging so you can laugh at each other's shortcomings while painting and get to know each other better.
If your interests are different, for example: he's ready to stand in line for hours to get an autograph from a famous person, but you don't like it, don't lie or pretend. Instead, use these differences to learn new things. Ask him why he likes it, for example: "May I know, are you good at playing the piano because of your diligent practice or natural talent?" You don't have to like the same things, but he will appreciate your efforts to like what he likes
Step 5. Be yourself
Let him know who you really are. Many young women who want to have a boyfriend so they can feel close to the opposite sex. However, a serious relationship requires an inner intimacy that is impossible for two people who are simply dating. Relationships that are built on the love of Jesus do not need a masculine or mediocre character. Christian girls value tough and honest youth, able to empathize, able to laugh and cry, responsible, ready to be protective, kind, and full of tenderness.
Step 6. Take time to pay attention to yourself
The ability to respect yourself that is shown through the way you take care of yourself is equally important in the eyes of young women and others. Make sure you always pay attention to your appearance and physical hygiene. Take care of your health by eating healthy foods and exercising regularly. Make a realistic daily routine schedule. In addition to becoming a more attractive person, this step shows that you are able to appreciate the body that God has given you.
Step 7. Start dating
Religious people need to have fun too! Take him to a movie, exercise, ice skate, or whatever he enjoys. Enjoy your company, but show him respect by being polite and kind as a way of proving that you always love Jesus. Never behave in a way that makes him feel uncomfortable.
Step 8. Continue with the second date (and so on…)
Don't let a successful first date pass you by! After the date, signal that you want to see him again, for example by saying, "See you later" or "Would you like to go swimming again next week?" If he agrees, ask him out again! Over time, a date will become the moment you both have been waiting for.
Method 2 of 2: Practicing Christian Virtues
Step 1. Cultivate a deep love for Allah
One of the things that attracts Christian girls to single youths is that their hearts and minds are always focused on God. This can be demonstrated by being a devout believer, for example: attending worship regularly (especially worshiping on the same schedule as him) and reading the Bible every day. Do not use religious teachings to influence others, for example by teaching extreme dogmas, criticizing, or limiting their beliefs. Everyone doesn't want to be punished. One's belief must come from within oneself. If he asks for advice, listen to what he has to say before speaking.
Step 2. Show respect
As a Christian, he will look for a young man who can treat him as a real woman. Behave like a young Christian, that is, by respecting him. Be a man with proper morals, for example: opening the door for him, helping carry his book, and giving a seat to a woman who is standing. However, there are men who think that respecting women in this way is outdated. Don't behave inappropriately. Talking about porn may impress your friends, but in general, Christian girls will shy away from hearing such conversations. There are young women who become naughty when they feel comfortable around you, but there are also those who are able to respect themselves.
Step 3. Pray for him and ask him to pray for you
If you are very religious, pray for what you want and (carefully) ask him to pray for you, for example: making a wish that your life will go well or asking God for guidance to overcome obstacles you face in strengthening your Christian faith. To avoid feeling awkward, don't share your personal intentions until you're more familiar. Ask him to pray for you so that you can live your daily life well without giving detailed explanations.
Step 4. Put God first in your daily life
Even though the Christian girl you like feels very important, she is not the source of your life. You don't deserve to be with a Christian woman if your love for Jesus has not motivated you to reach maturity and holiness. As a young Christian, your main goal is to grow in your relationship with God and center your whole life on God. Do this step before you start a relationship with a Christian girl. You can only feel true love when Jesus is the focus of your relationship and, more importantly, if you put Jesus at the center of your life.
Step 5. Show the behavior of a real man
Christian girls tend to be very dignified and they want to partner with dignified young men. Get in the habit of opening doors, pulling chairs, and paying for food or movie tickets on a date. Be polite and show respect when you meet his family! Parents, especially fathers of Christian girls usually look for young men who meet these criteria so that their daughters are treated well and appreciated! If you are able to behave the way they want you to, maybe you will be easier to accept so your relationship will be approved more quickly!
Tips
- Remember that God always provides opportunities for us. So, trust Him because He will make your way clear.
- Respect others regardless of age and other status. The same goes for both of you.
- Give praise. If he's in charge of playing music at church, say he plays great, but don't lie.
- Be a young man who adheres to tradition. Christian girls really appreciate that. When you want to ask a girl out for the first time, you may have to go to her parents for permission. Make sure first whether he wants you to do certain procedures and obey the prevailing traditions. This is better than being overshadowed by parental disapproval. Show respect by being friendly and polite. Listen carefully to what you have to do before asking their daughter out because many families have their own rules in this regard. Try to understand their point of view because children are a very valuable treasure. If you feel rejected by his father, remember that he is watching your behavior. Sometimes, you are being tested so you have to think carefully before speaking. Instead of treating it as an obstacle, try to control what you say.
- Don't lie because he will find out the truth so you will come across as very bad.
- Join a Christian community, for example: a group of young people. Girls with strong faith like brave boys who are ready to show and express their faith. This doesn't mean discussing Bible verses all the time, but proving your faith with concrete actions.
- Be yourself!
- Do not continue to be by his side when you are active in the community. We recommend that you join a different group (if there are 2 or more groups). Be yourself and be who you are. He will see you when interacting with friends and try to approach you if he likes you.
- Have activities together! If you like reading books, choose 1 book to read together to make your relationship even closer!
Warning
- Prioritize God! Make sure your faith is strong enough so that you can strengthen each other.
- Being attracted to a girl does not mean that God has set you up with her. In order to find the right mate, make sure you live your life according to God's plan.
- Don't let him have to choose between you and God because he will most likely reject you.
- Find out if he already has a girlfriend or is single to avoid any problems.
- Women can support the moral aspects of men's lives, but don't let them take advantage of you. Focus your heart and mind on God.
- Be wary of what people think of you. Don't be obscene to keep your reputation clean and good.
- Being a Christian girl doesn't mean she ignores your appearance. Consider whether you need to exercise or treat your acne, but don't overdo it.
- The young women in the church are not necessarily Christians. Think carefully before getting into a relationship because religious differences can make you feel depressed.
- Many Christian girls enjoy interacting with young men just to make friends.
- Before asking a girl out, take the time to meet her parents!
