Have you ever been attracted to a girl, but were confused about how to win her over? Every girl has a different character, but there are a few things you can do to impress her.
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Part 1 of 3: Making a Good Impression
Step 1. Melt the mood
It may seem intimidating at first, but once you do, talking and laughing with a girl will be easy, and you will have a chance to build friendships. There are many ways to lighten the mood, but remember to make a good first impression. Don't let him think of you as a jerk or make a really offensive joke!
- Laughter is always an effective way to lighten the mood. For example, you could show him this web page, and laugh at what was written and the idea behind writing this article.
- Learn to be spontaneous. Taking an improv acting class can help give you ideas to lighten the mood, and help you become confident talking to new people. Flowing ideas can make it easier for you to get in and out of the conversation, and help you feel more comfortable in any situation.
Step 2. Make him laugh
Girls like guys who have a good sense of humor. Don't use insulting or cruel humor, as this will make him worry that you may also speak ill of him in his absence. So, be careful with your humor. Take a look at some famous comedians like Raditya Dika and Ernest Prakasa for reference.
- However, don't assume that you don't need to be serious because that will make you look like a clown.
- Try to get to know him a little better before you try to be funny (some jokes may be funny to you, but not to him). Getting to know his culture or background, and most importantly, what he's passionate about will also help.
Step 3. Dress seriously
Fashion is not only for women, but also for men who want to attract women's attention. Buy a good quality pair of shoes. Jeans will also look cool when worn (make sure they are the right size and look good on you!) The same goes for shirts.
Don't just buy one outfit. It's best not to wear the same clothes more than twice a week
Step 4. Try to smell fresh
Smell is very important to attract people's attention. While smelling good isn't the determining factor, body odor can ruin your chances! Take some basic steps to get rid of body odor that is common to humans!
- Shower regularly and don't just use water. Use soap and scrub your body well to help keep your skin healthy. If you tend to sweat, this step is especially important. Some women are attracted to the smell of fresh sweat, but sweat that stays on for more than two hours will drive them away while wrinkling their noses.
- Buy cologne or body spray that smells clean or smells like citrus. Just use a little. The smell should be faint, not overpowering. If you only use a small amount, he will lean in closer to emphasize the scent. The pungent smell will make him take a distance of 1.5 meters from you!
Step 5. Don't be threatening
You have to remember that women are often the subject of violence which makes them more cautious around men. You have to make them feel comfortable if you want them to have a chance to get to know you better. One of the most common mistakes is behavior that looks more like a stalker (eg being too friendly and always wanting to stick with him). You have to give him space. If you're stalking him or wanting to follow him everywhere, he'll get annoyed and start avoiding you.
- Try to stay close. Call him from time to time, but remember that he has friends and doesn't want (or shouldn't) spend time just with you. However, sending a funny message once a week is fine.
- Compliment her in a way that doesn't make her feel like she's being stalked. If she's wearing a pretty necklace, say "That's a great necklace" or "That's a cool necklace" NOT "I've always loved that necklace of yours."
Step 6. Master a skill
Everyone has talent. Develop your talents or learn new skills because talent makes someone super sexy! Your skills will be the attraction. However, make sure it's something you like. Enthusiasm is very important because it makes girls expect you to care about them as much as you care about the craft.
Consider the possibility of learning to play a musical instrument. Girls like guys who can cheer them up by playing music
Step 7. Boost your confidence
There's nothing sexier than confidence. However, nothing subverts one's attractiveness like arrogance or, even more annoying, a lack of self-respect. That's why it's important to know what true self-confidence looks like. Having confidence means being willing to admit weaknesses or mistakes, but moving on because you know you can overcome them and eventually become a better person.
- If a man is truly confident, he will not lower himself. He dared to express his opinion and defended it. He is willing to make friends and is willing to talk to people he doesn't know.
- A confident man does NOT always turn the conversation on himself or belittle others to increase his self-esteem. A confident man will NOT think he can do no wrong.
Part 2 of 3: Talk to him
Step 1. Try to look him in the eye when you're talking to him
By looking him in the eye, he knows that you're paying attention to what he's saying and he'll appreciate someone really listening to him. It's also a subtle sign to him that you're genuinely interested in him.
Be careful not to get lost in the look in his eyes while listening to him speak. Otherwise, the only response that will come out of your mouth is “Wow, your eyes are so beautiful.”
Step 2. Be careful if you want to tease him
Funny jokes don't matter. You can imitate the way he talks or give him a funny nickname like "The Laugher." It will create a pleasant relationship between the two of you. However, don't cross the line and keep belittling him as this will make him angry and he may tell others that you're an asshole. Mistakes will lead to anger and distrust. That is not a goal to be achieved.
Step 3. Be a sensitive and caring person
Let him cry on your shoulder when he's feeling down. Make him smile when he's in a bad mood. Listen to what he has to say and provide support when he is going through a difficult time. Women want to be in a relationship with a man who can be a pillar of her strength when things don't go according to plan. So show him that you really care and are ready to take on the responsibility.
- Ask him how he is and try not to pay attention to his mood. If he is sad, comfort him. If he's angry, ask "What's wrong?" If you think something's not right, ask what the problem is, but don't push if she doesn't want to talk about it.
- If you have a sibling or nephew, show them that you really care about them. Play with them, watch and protect them, and show the girl that they idolize you.
- Help others when they're around (you should do this all the time too). Help the poor and needy to show that you care about others. This shows that you have a noble soul.
Step 4. Find something you can share and bond with
Having some things in common that you can enjoy together is crucial to the success of a relationship. Having some differences is also good and creates enthusiasm and opportunities for self-growth, but at least you need to learn to enjoy some of the things he also enjoys.
Try one of his hobbies. Even if the hobby looks downright feminine, you might be surprised. Many “feminine” activities can also be an effective way to reduce stress for guys
Step 5. Be honest with her
Don't lie to him, even if you think it's for his good. For example, if she asks you what she looks like in a dress you don't like, give a polite but not rude answer, and tell her honestly what you think. Say something like, "You look beautiful, but I'd rather see you in that red dress."
Step 6. Make him feel at the center of your universe
A girl wants to be with a guy she believes will be loyal to her and doesn't have to worry about her boyfriend leaving her for the next hot girl. Part of the reason is that he wants to feel that you really like him, not because of his beauty or what he can do for you. When you're with him, make sure your eyes are on him and only him. It may be difficult, but ignore the sexy girl at the next table.
Step 7. Respect him
Treat him with respect. Make sure you are never mean to him. Girls will not accept it. You should respect her opinion, listen to her, never belittle or insult her, and never do anything that you know will hurt her (such as flirting with other girls, even when she's not there).
Don't badmouth him behind his back. Of course, don't divulge anything personal! This kind of behavior will eventually get caught and you will not only scare her, but also send a message to other girls that you are not worthy of a partner. This will jeopardize your future opportunities
Part 3 of 3: Creating Romance
Step 1. Show that you are willing to be the initiator or follower
Some girls prefer having a man guide them when it comes to romance, but others prefer to be in control. However, most enjoy swapping roles from time to time. You have to be willing to take the lead and take the initiative if he's passive, but you also have to be able to accept his dominant side. If you mind, she's not the right girl for you.
Step 2. Learn to dance
Join some ballroom dance classes to build confidence. That way, you can guide a dancing girl to finish a song. You can even self-study using online videos or wikiHow articles! Girls like guys who can dance. You can even ask him to take dance classes together if you two are close enough or already on a date. This will be a great experience that brings the two of you together and gives you plenty of reasons to spend time together.
Step 3. Get to know her best friend
Good friends are a great source of reference. If you can get close to his best friend, you can also learn a lot about the girl. For example, girls like to tell their best friend their love story, whether it's about romantic things she hopes to happen or romantic movies she loves so much that you can take some ideas from that. You can also use this information to give him something more meaningful than all the common cheesy stuff.
- Be frank with the friend. Don't let that friend fall in love with you! Good friends will be enthusiastic about judging a man who is attracted to his best friend. If you show him how great you are, he might be willing to help bring the two of you closer together!
- Nice comments from her friends can help you, but bad comments can raise serious doubts in the girl's mind.
Step 4. Act like a gentleman when kissing
When you're ready for your first kiss and the atmosphere is supportive, lean into him slowly. Don't turn your face straight at him. If he doesn't pull away, keep coming closer to kiss him. Some advice says to get closer halfway, or about 80-90%. Follow what makes you comfortable for now. You can get closer to yourself completely, but it depends on the girl. In short: take the initiative to kiss, but let him come to you.
- This will allow you to decide whether he welcomes your kiss or not. That way, you're showing that you respect him and appreciate his feelings so you both have a better chance of enjoying the kiss!
- Impress him and show him that you are a real man. Don't try to kiss her on the first date, unless she's up for it.
Step 5. Don't go along with it
For example, for Valentine's Day (if you celebrate it), instead of showing off or doing clichés, just show a sweet or caring attitude. A bouquet of red roses can be a traditional romantic gift, but most women prefer their favorite flower arrangement tied with a red, pink, or white ribbon. Remembering what a girl likes will actually lead to feelings of love rather than planning something complicated.
However, if the relationship is new and you don't know what her favorite is yet, give her a gift that symbolizes how you feel or reminds you of something you did or will do together. For example, give her a peach-scented perfume and tell her that it reminds you of how her smile looks like on a perfect sunny day
Step 6. Study a poem
You can send a romantic message by memorizing a poem and writing it down in a letter or reading it when you are alone or in a romantic situation. You can also use quotes about love. This may come across as tacky, but it's perfect for the situation, and it shows her that you're willing to leave her usual comfort zone to make her happy.
Step 7. Identify the right time to take action
Or, rather, it's important to know that you may never get a clear signal or the perfect opportunity. This is not a teen movie, this is real life. A girl will react in different ways, show feelings or even the absence of feelings in different ways. Some may say nothing at all! You can only tell how you feel once you feel absolutely certain. Don't let another man suddenly appear and snatch it from you. So you have to take a risk for love!
Tips
- Girls don't like bad breath. Eat mints regularly or brush your teeth frequently.
- Girls may be bitchy, or have mood swings. Don't be offended. Give him time to cool off, but don't ignore it!
- Stay calm. Even if a girl doesn't like you right now, you still have a chance to arouse her interest if you act appropriately and make the most of the opportunity.
- Don't just pretend to be natural. You just have to be reasonable. If you're dealing with a smart girl, she'll probably find out that you're just trying to please her, or are trying to show you something that doesn't suit your personality.
- Remember that girls do not behave uniformly. Some may act like they DO NOT like you at first because they are afraid of giving you the upper hand and sending your ego soaring that things are awkward between the two of you. He will ONLY respond positively when he is sure that you are genuinely interested in him.
- Approach the family. Knowing that his family gave his approval will make him feel more comfortable.
- Join a sports team and make friends with lots of people. He won't feel intimidated if he knows you're close with other girls too. If he's insecure about himself or the relationship you're in you need to set clear boundaries that the other girls are just friends and he's a girlfriend.
- Don't confuse him by sending multiple signals. For example, one day you tease him, but the next day you admire him. He will be confused and nervous, and may turn away from you.
- If there is a love triangle between you and a friend, don't be too dominant. Girls like men who are natural, not ostentatious, stereotypical, and overly stylish.
Warning
- Never force a girl to do something she doesn't want her to do.
- Don't have an affair. If you are unfaithful, not only will he find out sooner or later and end the relationship, he will be emotionally hurt and your actions are very cruel. If you're thinking about having an affair for any reason, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
- Watch your behavior because you can't always act the same around girls as you do with guy friends, especially early on in a relationship.
- A girl tells everything to her best friend. Don't be afraid to hear the comments that come out of that friend's mouth about what you have to say. However, there were some things that he certainly wouldn't tell. Most of the time, best friends will keep certain information because the girl doesn't want you to think it's scary. Don't judge a girl by what her best friend does. If he likes his best friend, it means you have to get used to his presence.
- Do this with every girl you are in a relationship with. If word gets out that you treated your last boyfriend badly, no more girls will want to date you.
- Don't discuss intimate details about your boyfriend with your friends because sooner or later the news will leak.
- If a famous girl likes to spread rumors about her ex-boyfriend, be careful and think carefully about whether she's really right for you.
