You have feelings for someone special, but where will your relationship take you from here? Expressing your feelings to a crush usually starts with impressing him, but how do you make a good impression on him? For many, this is easier said than done. Luckily, there are lots of ways you can get him to see you in a new light, whether you're already familiar with him or not very familiar with him. Being confident and knowing how to start a smart and witty conversation are the best steps to getting started. With a little time and effort you will be able to amaze your crush.
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Part 1 of 3: Showcase Your Best Qualities
Step 1. Be confident
Before expecting others to fall for your charms, you have to look at yourself first. Contrary to what you might believe, there are very many things that are more important than appearance. Good clothes and style are a start, but nothing can replace good manners and self-respect. Girls can tell when a guy doesn't believe in himself. Meanwhile, the most attractive girls are those who know that they have self-respect. Regardless of your gender or the person you are trying to impress, self-confidence is a very important starting point.
For many people, learning how to find confidence in themselves can be the hardest part of this whole process. If you're having a hard time feeling confident about your chances of successfully hooking him, try to write a list of things you like about yourself and a list of personal qualities that your crush might like in you (example: a good sense of humor, beautiful smile, etc.). If you are a shy person, you may find that girls are attracted to you because of your mysterious aura. Your best chance is to take advantage of what feels most natural to you
Step 2. Dress cool
Dressing well can't be achieved with just one formula--part of this step is being able to figure out what style suits you. Do some research on the different styles. Try to find out what style appeals the most and what you feel will suit you best. If you're having trouble, ask a friend for advice--they're there to help and they'll likely have plenty of great suggestions to help you spruce up your style.
Don't try to dress up too much. Find a look that is fashionable yet very casual. You certainly don't want to scare him if it's too much
Step 3. Try a new hairstyle
Nothing can make you look fresher than a new haircut! This way, even if you don't know him very well, he will rethink his impression of you. Who knows--you might have found your new favorite look!
Step 4. Pour your heart out to your friends
Chances are you can feel stressed, excited, indecisive or a combination of the three because of your crush on your crush. While it's natural to feel a little embarrassed about having a crush, you may find that opening up about it with a few close friends can help lighten the load. Especially if they know your crush. They may be able to provide advice specifically tailored to your circumstances. Also, putting your feelings into words for the first time can help you better understand what you're fighting for.
- If you decide to tell your friends about your crush, whether it's to ask for their advice or just to share your feelings, be sure not to express the situation in grim, fatalistic terms. Although you may feel pessimistic, it is much better to talk about this condition constructively. In addition to being positively associated with the benefits of the advice your friends give you, positive thinking will also make you more confident in how you feel about your crush.
- Make sure you pour your heart out to someone you can trust. If there's any doubt that the other person might share your feelings (or even tell your crush ahead of time!) this step can do more harm than good. If you have any doubts, it's better to limit yourself to only talking to the friends you trust the most.
Part 2 of 3: Catching Her Attention
Step 1. Look for opportunities to be around him
This could be anything--are you both students from the same school? Are you two neighbors? In almost all circumstances, there are many opportunities to be around him. A good start is to put yourself around him. Find out what events he's going to or where he's having lunch. The more often you are around him, the more opportunities you will have to interact with one another.
Step 2. Smile
There's nothing more simple and effective in winning your crush's heart than a smile, a universal gesture of kindness. Whenever you see him, don't forget to give him a smile! While this may be difficult if you are shy, it usually gets easier very quickly. The reaction is almost certainly positive.
If, for whatever reason, he doesn't smile back, don't worry! There are various reasons why he doesn't smile back at you. He may be surprised the first time he sees your smile; there was also the possibility that he was simply shy. Taking his actions as a sign that he is not interested in you should be a last resort
Step 3. Introduce yourself by saying "Hi
This sounds simple, but there are so many people who take this easy and very important step for granted. Once you are around the person, there will be plenty of opportunities to say hello. a negative response to a simple act that symbolizes concern and positive feelings like this.
Step 4. Melt the mood between the two of you
There are countless ways you can do this step. Look at the circumstances and the environment around you to find common things to talk about. For example:
- If you both attend the same class: "Hey, may I take a look at your notes. I want to know if there's anything missing."
- If you are both in the library/cinema: "Is there a book or movie you could recommend for me?"
- If you're both watching a sports match: "Hey! Which team do you support?"
- At a party: "Hey! Who did you get the invitation from?"
Step 5. Make your attraction visible to your crush
A common, most crucial mistake that is often made is to be too simple about your feelings. If you don't show any signs of interest, he probably won't feel that you're attracted to him. While you need to make sure you don't show your feelings right away, there are many things you can do to show interest. If you're relaxed enough, you're likely already showing some of these signs of attraction.
- If you are a woman: twist your hair when you talk to her.
- If you are a man: maintain a manly posture when around him.
- Maintain eye contact and smile at him.
- Keep your feet pointing toward him.
- Make light body contact, such as touching his arm or shoulder.
Step 6. Create opportunities for deeper interaction
In the near future you should get your relationship to a more substantive point when you've gone through the dating phase and begin to learn more about him. While the traditional step was for one party to ask the other out on a date, there are countless options for you to achieve this goal:
- As impersonal as it may sound, talking online is a great neutral way to get to know someone quite effectively. Things that might be difficult to discuss in person are much easier to talk about online.
- If you and he go to the same school, you can say: "Would you like to have lunch together sometime?" Again, this is a casual and casual way to get to know someone a lot better.
- While you may feel like you have to wait for your crush to ask you out, continuing to cling to social norms is a waste of time.
Part 3 of 3: Getting to Know Him
Step 1. Be nice and friendly
While the media will give the impression that men will be attracted to you if you are high-priced, this is often caught as cocky. The best way to impress a guy is to be nice to him. First of all treat him like your friend. While you're trying to get to know him, there's no need to add pressure to your interactions.
- This step is by no means unimportant if you are a man. The saying that "good men don't win" is very misleading. Girls want to be around people who make them feel happy about themselves!
- Give your crush a compliment, like "I love your hair!" or "You've got a really good outfit." will be very effective in making him feel happy when he is with you.
Step 2. Get to know your crush through a curious conversation
Don't be afraid to ask questions, even if it seems very direct. Chances are he will be flattered by your concern reflected in the questions. Asking them is a great way to spark a wider conversational scope. For starters these questions don't have to be anything very important; your goal is mostly to get comfortable and possibly jump into deeper topics. If you need examples, here are some sample questions to start your chat with:
- "What's your family like? Have a pet?"
- "What's your occupation?" or "What is your dream profession?"
- If you go to the same school: "What are your favorite subjects?"
- Don't forget to tell a little about yourself too! Of course there's a lot he wants to know about you. This way your conversation will feel more like a chat than an interrogation!
Step 3. Find common interests between you and the him
What do you like? Knitting? Horror movies? A mix of jazz and avant-garde music? Chances are, you already have some unique interests in common with your crush without even realizing it. Finding out a little more about what he likes can provide the perfect opportunity to bond.
- The circumstances of meeting him can help inform you for a preliminary investigation of his interests. For example, if you met him at a rock concert, there's a good chance that you and he both have similar tastes in music. The same goes for art exhibitions, cinemas, or sporting events.
- If you don't share any obvious interests, you can try to open yourself up to the things that he likes. Ask him why he likes certain things and see if you can understand the appeal of those things. If it works, the fact that you have the initiative will show him that you care.
Step 4. Make your interest clearer
While every romantic relationship starts with a friendly foundation, at some point you have to start emphasizing that your feelings for him are more than just friends. When this move feels more natural than artificial, you already know that you've spent enough time with him to get to know each other. Try saying things like:
- "You know what, I think you're cute."
- "Your being so passionate about your interests makes you even cooler."
- Or even a simple sentence like "I really enjoyed the time I spent with you."
Step 5. Attract your crush with seduction
Once you've built a solid foundation for interacting with your crush, don't be afraid to be more forthright about your attraction to your crush.
- Hugs, compliments and smiles are legitimate forms of flirting.
- Use the push and pull system Whether you're a man or a woman, this simple trick can work to get your crush attracted to you: compliment him and increase his ego. After that, step back and be cool with him. If done correctly, this step will make him seek your approval and affection. Give it a try and see how it goes.
- Don't be discouraged if he doesn't embrace these approaches right away. There's a good chance she's surprised at how straightforward you are and it may take her a while to adjust.
Step 6. Express your feelings
Let him know how you really feel about him. This is your time to be honest. However, after so much time that the two of you have spent getting to know each other and flirting, you may find that this stage is going a lot easier than you might have anticipated at first. If you feel like there's a match between the two of you, don't be surprised if your relationship with your crush develops into a life-changing relationship!
- The easiest way to do this step is to tell him directly. Don't tell bits and pieces: "I have feelings for you." or "I like you more than just a friend."
- If you're feeling really brave, a peck on the cheek can make a deep impression.
- If, for whatever reason, your crush rejects you, don't worry about it! There are a million possible reasons why someone might not be interested in a relationship and most of them have nothing to do with you. If for any reason things get worse, don't let that stop you from loving yourself and closing yourself off to the future.
Tips
- While it may all sound intimidating, remember that getting to know someone should be an enjoyable experience. If you think impressing your crush is a chore or a stressful thing to do, chances are this thought will have a negative effect on how you feel about it.
- If you ever feel discouraged or feel that you may not deserve his attention, remember all the good things about yourself. If you need help, ask your closest friends to write a list of your qualities that they like the most.
- Don't blame yourself if someone rejects you, just let life flow as it is.
Warning
- Do not exaggerate! While you should make him aware of how you feel, there's such a thing as going too far or going too fast. The most common mistake people make when dealing with their crush is feeling impatient with the process of getting to know the crush. Just relax, relax and let things happen naturally. If there is a match between the two of you, you will complete each other in no time.
- No matter which way the relationship goes, remember never to beat yourself up. There's a lot of really great things about yourself and feelings about one of your crushes are pretty unimportant in long term life.
- If you are attracted to a certain person, try not to flirt or show interest in other people; because your crush may misunderstand and think you already belong to someone else.
