Acting like a child may be fun, but there are times when you need to show maturity to prove that you've made the transition from childhood to adulthood. Think about things that you haven't been able to do until now, but now you can and then apply the way of being mature that you have determined or want to do. Show your parents that you are trustworthy or capable of taking on responsibilities while working or completing assignments. Maturity includes intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects. Remember that a person's maturity is determined by the perception in question, not by a series of rules or demands. In addition, know some ways to show others that you are growing in your personal life and relationships.
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Part 1 of 2: Having a Personality Like an Adult
Step 1. Live life according to the virtues that you believe in
One way to show maturity is to make decisions based on virtues, ethics, and moral order, instead of just following the whims of the moment. While impulsive decisions are sometimes rewarding, consider the consequences later. Use the value of virtue as a guide when living daily life. Make sure you have a character who is able to control desires.
- Emulate the people you admire and the virtues they believe in. If you admire athletes, emulate their hard work, dedication, and persistence while exercising. If you admire a spiritual leader, model his commitment to honesty and love for others. You can find out your virtues by reflecting on the positive qualities of others.
- Whatever virtue you believe in, apply it consistently. Prove to others that you are able to live according to these values even though you feel less comfortable.
Step 2. Respect your feelings
Maturity must be supported by emotional growth. Unfortunately, many people (especially teenagers) are told that they have to ignore or belittle their feelings, for example by holding back tears, apologizing when they cry, or saying it's okay to feel hurt. However, expressing feelings and really feel it is a useful thing. As a human being who has feelings, expressing them is a noble way of appreciating the beauty and hardships of life. Show maturity by respecting your feelings.
- When you feel sad, take time to reflect on how you feel. Find out why you're feeling sad, for example, because you had a fight with a friend, got reprimanded by your parents, got bad grades, lost your pet, or couldn't see your parents for a week. Instead of ignoring sadness, give yourself a chance to feel sadness. Admit that this step is very useful even though it is painful.
- When expressing your feelings, start by saying, "I feel…" instead of "You make me feel…". Notice the difference between the two sentences. The second sentence is blaming others, while the first sentence says something about oneself. Expressing feelings is useful for strengthening yourself, instead of blaming others.
- Once you've accepted what you're feeling, try to work through it, for example by saying to yourself, "Feeling sad isn't great, but it can go away. I'll get better soon by overcoming the sadness." Also, remind yourself that feelings are not facts. For example, just because you feel "stupid" doesn't mean you're stupid. Be kind to yourself when dealing with negative emotions.
Step 3. Be prepared to accept input from others
There are people who feel all-knowing and refuse to be counseled, but being mature means being open when others share knowledge or give wise advice. You can admit that there are things you don't understand (and so do other people!). Before making important decisions, seek advice from others. Maybe he has knowledge and wisdom that you don't have. This way shows that you are willing to learn from others.
- Before making important decisions, seek input from people you trust, such as teachers, coaches, spiritual leaders, parents, grandparents, uncles or aunts, good friends, adults or reliable friends.
- Remember that no one can determine what you have to decide. Other people can provide assistance, but only you have the right to decide, no one else.
Step 4. Don't judge others
We enjoy making friends with people who are supportive, don't gossip, and are ready to listen to whatever we have to say, even if it's embarrassing. Being non-judgmental means being ready to accept, understand, and treat others sincerely. Accept others for who they are (including yourself!), instead of demanding that they change. Don't look down on other people. Show that you are receptive to the other person by trying to understand their perspective. Everyone is equal. Control the desire to judge others and treat others with love.
- Judgmental attitudes of others create distance between oneself and others. Show empathy for him and try to understand his feelings so you understand that other people are also experiencing problems and sadness even though their lives seem fine.
- Gossiping means judging others by spreading bad news. Watch your words when talking about other people.
- If a friend starts gossiping, say to him, "Ah, that's just gossip. Instead of badmouthing people, let me tell you about my favorite cat."
Step 5. Keep the commitment
As a child, someone else worked out your schedule for activities, such as going to school, playing sports, or dancing lessons. Now, you can make your own schedule. If you say you will do something, do it as best you can. Like it or not, be reliable and show others that they can count on you.
If you undertake or promise something to someone, do what you say to prove that you are worthy of trust
Part 2 of 2: Interacting with Others Adults
Step 1. Respect others
Show courtesy to those around you through your actions and words. In this way, you gain trust and support when you are in a relationship, for example with your parents, brother, sister, friend, or lover. The right way to learn to respect others is to respect yourself. When you want to make a decision, respect your mind, body, and spirituality to find out if there is a message forbidding you to do something, instead of just following along. Get to know what it's like to respect yourself and make sure you respect others in the same way.
- Say "please" when asking for help and "thank you" to the person who helped you.
- When fighting, don't make fun of other people. You can still respect other people even when you're fighting. Take time to think before speaking. Instead of saying things that hurt the other person's feelings, tell him, "I respect your opinion even if our views differ."
- One way to show maturity when interacting with other people is to respect them.
Step 2. Remain calm in the face of conflict
Even though fighting often triggers resentment and anger, try to control your emotions. The ability to calm down when dealing with problems that cause stress is useful for maintaining health in the long term, for example reducing the risk of inflammation in the body. Staying calm and thinking positive things is very beneficial when dealing with stressful events. Instead of throwing a tantrum, choosing to stay calm shows others that you are able to control your emotions in a mature manner.
- When you feel angry, take a few deep breaths while feeling the physical sensations that arise. Observe the source of your anger and then listen to your inner dialogue. Use common sense to decide how to solve the problem.
- If you have trouble responding calmly, it's better to say goodbye, for example by saying, "We have something important to discuss, but I'm still upset. My suggestion is, we can talk again when I've calmed down."
Step 3. Don't get defensive
When the situation heats up, don't insist on defending your opinion. Instead of insisting, listen carefully to other people's opinions even if you are against them because everyone is free to have an opinion. Listen to his explanations politely as you would like to be heard. Listening to what other people have to say and not being defensive shows that you are capable of being mature when dealing with conflict.
- Maybe you have a different opinion and can't compromise with your parents when it comes to dressing, using your cell phone, or choosing friends. If you want your parents to understand your wants, try to understand theirs.
- If you feel attacked, express how you feel and don't attack back. For example, instead of saying, "You said I was a liar! I'm not a liar!", you could explain, "I appreciate people being nice to me, but I'm disappointed that I was accused of lying."
Step 4. Admit your mistakes
Don't blame other people for your problems. Realize that you can decide for yourself what actions to take and how to respond to other people. All relationships are interactive so both parties contribute to how you feel and experience. Instead of blaming others when you feel down, admit that you played a part in this and take responsibility for your actions. Do some reflection to find out the action that triggered the problem and then admit your mistake.
- If someone makes a mistake, it doesn't mean you can blame or demean them because of the problems you are facing or the feelings you are experiencing.
- Apologize if you disappoint others. Instead of making excuses, say, "Sorry, I'm late. I should have left early." Show that you want to make amends by saying, "Next time, I'll walk 10 minutes early so I can get there on time."
- By admitting you were wrong, you are acting very mature, that is, being humble and willing to accept mistakes.
Step 5. Submit a request
If you want something, don't demand. Imagine your reaction if someone always demands something from you. Maybe you don't like it yourself. Therefore, convey the request by explaining the reason. You're not a toddler sitting in a grocery cart whining to his mom for candy.
- If you want to have a cat, don't whine so that your wish will be fulfilled. Make a request to the parents and explain that you will feed them and take good care of them. Show maturity by making requests and taking actions that lead to consequences.
- Instead of saying, "I deserve it!" or "Why not?", say to the parent, "Mom, I have a request. Can I explain?"
