It's rare for anyone to enjoy being unknown to anyone, whether it's at school, at work, or by someone they like. Even if you're afraid to open up and hang out, you have to take risks to be recognized. Try to relax, and challenge yourself to meet new people and create an impression that people will remember. If you want others to notice your talents, develop and promote specific skills, and strive to exceed expectations. Self-confidence can make a deep impression, so you should work on increasing your self-esteem and being comfortable being who you are.
Method 1 of 3: Stand Out
Step 1. Focus on specific talents and interests
Focus on and highlight a particular interest, whether it's to become famous or to make your resume more interesting. Determine what your strengths are, find concrete ways to apply your talents, and clearly describe your abilities.
- For example, if you like computer science, join a relevant club, such as a coding or robotics club. Don't go into 10 activities at school just because it will look great on your resume.
- If you are applying for a job, ask the referrer to specifically promote your skillset. Say, “Would you mind telling me how I trained new employees? I want to show that I can master new skills and communicate clearly.”
Step 2. Exceed minimal expectations
Always try to exceed your own expectations and those of others. People will notice that you are always trying your best at work, school, or relationships.
For example, teachers will pay more attention if you participate in class and take extra sessions even if you are not the top-scoring student
Step 3. Give your emails, applications, and other correspondence a personal touch
Adding a personal touch will make you stand out, especially in written communication. Enter personal details about yourself, such as a memorable story or an interesting part of your chat with someone.
For example, if you want your college entrance essay to be noticed by the campus (usually for studying abroad), don't write general information that you respect and follow a particular parent or teacher. Instead, tell an interesting story. For example, while on a field trip to the science museum, you, your biology teacher, and some friends are trapped in an elevator. While waiting for help, you and the teacher chat and then you are inspired to enter the field of biomedical research
Step 4. Use flattery wisely
As long as you don't overdo it, flattery can get you noticed. Try to give sincere and specific compliments, don't give off false admiration.
For example, your professor marks your draft paper in red ink, but his or her input helps you write a fantastic final draft. You could say, “I really appreciate your criticism of my first draft. Your input helped me focus on the topic, and I ended up learning a lot from this project.”
Step 5. Follow up after interviews, meeting new people, or promoting
Without follow-up, you will be forgotten. When texting or e-mailing someone, include specific information about yourself or the chat so that they remember chatting with you.
For example, after a job interview or meeting with a company executive, say, "Thank you for explaining the company's manufacturing process in such detail, and for recommending an article that opened my eyes about the industry."
Method 2 of 3: Meeting New People
Step 1. Start chatting with new people every day
Challenge yourself to chat with at least two new people every day. It's hard to approach new people at school or work, especially if you're shy by nature. Try to relax, remember that everyone gets nervous at times, and dare to step out of your comfort zone.
- For example, instead of having lunch alone, find someone you don't know and say, "Hi, is this seat empty?" Later, he may recognize you when you pass in the hallway and say hello.
- If you're nervous, remember that everyone has flaws and is shy at times, even if they seem confident on the outside.
Step 2. Smile and make eye contact
When meeting people or chatting, smile naturally and look them in the eye. Don't fake a smile, and if you have to, think of something to amused you. When making eye contact, don't stare without blinking, but look at the other person to show that you are paying attention.
Step 3. Ask meaningful questions, but don't interrogate
When having lunch with new people or at a work meeting, try to think of meaningful questions that show that you are involved. When answered, listen carefully, don't just think of interesting answers.
For example, when you enter a new school, ask the person sitting next to you, “What are you doing here? Are you in a club or sport?” Instead of asking irrelevant questions after the other person has answered, say, “Cool! I've never played hockey, but I love watching it. Usually a lot of people watch the game at this school?”
Step 4. Develop your own interests and hobbies
Whether it's music or sports, an interest or hobby can make you more recognizable. However, don't just follow the interests of your crush or popular person to get them to notice you.
- Know what you love, and do it. If you like a particular genre of music, listen to as many songs and artists in that genre as you can to learn about its evolution.
- Developing interests and hobbies can spark conversation and get you recognized by like-minded people. If you already have an interesting hobby, you can also make it a topic of conversation.
Step 5. Get involved in clubs and activities
Joining a sports club or team also helps you meet new people and make connections. Since everyone involved already has something in common, it's easier to form relationships with teammates.
- Running for student council president or BEM chair is also a great way to get known to fellow students and students.
- If your workplace has a sports team, join or support them. For example, if your company has a soccer team, but you're not the best athlete, watch their games, cheer them on, and bring some fresh drinks.
Step 6. Don't miss the get-together
Try to attend social events, such as parties. You have to be social if you want to be known. If you're only at home, you may miss out on a fun opportunity or a possible connection.
If you're an introvert, don't worry, because you can take advantage of it at social events. Listen and watch as all the extroverts talk. Then, when the opportunity arises, you can say to one person, “You mentioned Pramudya earlier. That's my favorite writer!” Whoever he is, your crush or an executive in the office, he'll notice you're paying attention and start a lively chat
Method 3 of 3: Developing Confidence
Step 1. Make a list of what you like about yourself
Confidence will leave a deep impression. Plus, you'll have a hard time getting along if you don't like yourself. Make a list in your head about your qualities, accomplishments, and other attributes that you enjoy. If necessary, write and read again to remember that you are special.
For example, remember that you are good at playing the piano, great at math, always there for friends, and a good role model for your younger siblings
Step 2. Keep yourself clean
A clean and well-groomed body can increase confidence and self-confidence. So, take care of your teeth, hair and general hygiene. It shows your friends, colleagues or loved ones that you care about your health and appearance.
Brush your teeth every day, take a shower regularly, and clean your body from head to toe when showering. Try to keep your hair and nails clean and tidy, wear clean clothes, and use deodorant
Step 3. Practice good posture
An upright posture conveys that you are comfortable with yourself. Lift your chest and pull your shoulders back, keep your head straight, and try not to slouch.
Good posture does not mean stiff. Find a balance between comfort and using posture to show confidence
Step 4. Cultivate a healthy self-image
Remember that there is no ideal body size or shape, and everyone has certain body parts they want to change. By realizing this, it will be easier for you to interact with other people so that they are more recognized.
- Try to focus on the parts of your face and body that you like. Praise yourself daily, and if necessary, write a list of positive self-attributes. When you feel insecure, read the list and remember that you are unique and fantastic.
- If a fit body will help your confidence, you can try eating healthier and walking, jogging, or doing other sports. However, do not view yourself negatively. Instead, focus on improving your health and taking care of yourself.
Step 5. Practice speaking more confidently
Usually, you won't be noticed if you speak quietly or mumble. So, when speaking, pronounce each word clearly. Try filling your stomach with air and using your breath to amplify the sound.
If you are nervous when chatting or speaking in front of a group of people, take deep breaths and try to relax. Imagine something relaxing, like a place that makes you happy. Remember that there's nothing to be afraid of, and everyone gets nervous or misspoke at some point
Step 6. Choose supportive clothing
Find a style that shows your personality and makes you more confident and comfortable. You don't have to go overboard with expensive clothes, but wear clothes that fit, make you look more attractive, and are clean and wrinkle-free.
- A messy appearance may get you noticed, but not in the positive way you want it to.
- If you want a new style or look even better, try looking for inspiration on Pinterest. Save pictures of clothes that interest you.