Authentic personality is a term for people who always act in harmony with their feelings because they don't want to be "two-faced" when dealing with different people or changing their personality according to context. Personal authenticity is a reflection of the principles of life and one's personality in everyday life. You can become authentic by accepting yourself as you are and respecting others. An authentic person applies the principles of his life consistently and his attitude does not change every time he has a conversation with different people.
Part 1 of 3: Developing an Authentic Personality
Step 1. Accept yourself as you are
You need to change your mental attitude in order to accept yourself. Get rid of the habit of criticizing yourself or feeling inferior when interacting with others. Learn to accept and respect yourself as a unique person. This step helps you behave authentically in harmony with your personality.
- Accepting yourself means accepting your flaws and realizing that you are not a perfect person so that you are able to accept your weaknesses and unique aspects of your personality.
- For example, you are free to choose hobbies or interests that are different from your friends. Find out what's new in your area of interest. Over time, you will meet people who share a common interest.
Step 2. Cultivate self-esteem
Everyone has valid thoughts and ideas with different talents and intelligence. You can't act and behave according to your personality if you doubt yourself or lack self-confidence. People with low self-esteem often imitate the behavior of people who are confident, like to preen, and pretend to be very confident people. These are the characteristics of an inauthentic person.
- For example, people with low self-esteem will imitate the style of clothes or taste in music famous people. Instead of this, focus on what you are interested in whether other people like it or not.
- If you are carrying emotional baggage, take time to think about it and then try to forget it. Consult a therapist or counselor if necessary.
Step 3. Demonstrate attitudes and behaviors that are in harmony with your life principles and beliefs
An authentic person always behaves according to the ethics and virtues that he believes in religious, moral, and other aspects. The principle of life is reflected through daily behavior. Many people unconsciously adopt the beliefs of a partner, parent, or friend without first confirming whether or not these beliefs are appropriate for themselves.
- For example, if you think that everyone is equal, but you despise a group of people from different backgrounds, you are not an authentic person.
- Another example, if you see a friend drinking alcohol or eating a food that you don't think should be consumed, remind him not to do it again or avoid the situation.
- Determine your core values by finding out what makes you feel good, proud, and happy.
Step 4. Invest time and energy to develop yourself
There are many important things you need to understand about authenticity when developing yourself and engaging in activities that make you feel worthy and happy. This knowledge can be acquired by taking courses, volunteering, or engaging in hobby activities.
On the other hand, inauthentic individuals often neglect the things they are interested in in order to pursue their dreams of becoming famous or simply meeting other people's expectations
Part 2 of 3: Behave Authentic
Step 1. Focus on the current situation
Being aware of what's going on helps you to be authentic because you're always focused on the experiences, conversations, and interactions that are taking place. People you interact with will see you as authentic because they can feel your involvement and concern.
On the other hand, inauthentic people allow their minds to wander when interacting with other people so that their attitudes seem insincere or disrespectful
Step 2. Rely on intuition to determine how to behave and build relationships
Intuition is the inner voice or instinct that helps you consider and decide what action to take. Intuition serves as a "moral code" that guides you to make ethical decisions.
Intuition helps you make consistent decisions and implement them consistently, instead of making decisions based on wanting to be famous or according to other people's expectations
Step 3. Express your thoughts and feelings
Express what you think is important. Authentic people communicate their thoughts comfortably and are willing to communicate when they have a problem or want to express their appreciation. If you're worried when you want to express your opinion or are more likely to say what other people want to hear, you're behaving in an inauthentic manner.
Say thanks to others. For example, say to your parents, "Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for helping me pay off my car loan last month. I know you are saving money, but this extra pocket money means a lot to me."
Step 4. Ask for help if needed
Sincere people are able to accept the fact that they are not perfect and will ask for help when needed. Authenticity is not the same as perfection. Asking others for help is a sign of humility and authenticity. This shows that you value the skills and talents of others.
- For example, if you are experiencing mental health problems and your friend is a professional counsellor, ask him to give you a referral so you can consult or undergo therapy with the appropriate mental health professional.
- If your car breaks down frequently, enlist the help of a co-worker who works as a mechanic outside of working hours.
Step 5. Be prepared for vulnerabilities
Learn to trust others by providing information about who you are including your flaws. Don't reveal everything if it's not necessary. You can't have an authentic relationship if you keep hiding your true self.
Part 3 of 3: Treat Others Sincerely
Step 1. Don't be "two-faced" or be a different person when socializing
In order to be authentic, be honest when socializing or in a relationship with someone. Maybe you want to behave the way other people want you to or try to impress a new friend by bragging. Keep in mind that the behavior is inauthentic and very easy to spot.
It's natural for you to adjust your behavior and speech style when interacting with certain people. You'll speak in a different way when you're chatting with your boss, friends, or partner
Step 2. Don't lie
Honesty is an important aspect of authenticity. If you lie a lot, your friends and other people will find out and they will think you can't be trusted.
Consider the best attitude to keep you authentic. For example, you are attending a dinner party, but the menu does not match your diet. Tell the host, "I'm not hungry. I'm just eating salad"
Step 3. Build lasting relationships
An important aspect that supports the formation of authenticity is the ability to establish and maintain lasting personal and professional relationships. For that, learn to trust and respect others. Long-term relationships don't last forever, but they do make you feel valued and confident.
- Inauthentic people usually have a hard time building lasting relationships. Negative behaviors, such as arrogance, lying, or the inability to uphold the values of virtue hinder the establishment of lasting relationships.
- Be prepared to experience rejection. You can build a good relationship if you're not afraid of rejection.