You would agree that making eye contact is the first gateway that most men need to take to build a more personal relationship with women. However, unfortunately its application is not as easy as turning the palm of the hand. For many people, these activities are not only difficult to do, but also burdensome and intimidating. Do you feel that way too? Do not worry. With patience and a little practice, surely all the worries and fears that arise will disappear without a trace. As a result, you can make eye contact more easily and confidently!
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Method 1 of 2: Making Eye Contact with Women
Step 1. Find the person you want to interact with
You can find such a figure anywhere, really, such as in bookstores, bars, restaurants, shopping centers, etc.
If the person is in a place you frequent, chances are that you both share common interests. The common interest can be used as a topic to "bind" the two of you, you know
Step 2. Relax
Be careful, eyes that are too sharp and tense are prone to indicate anger or other negative emotions. Instead, a calm, controlled attitude can make the other person feel more comfortable and more interested in interacting with you.
Step 3. Throw a casual look at him
Every now and then, stare at the area nearby. Does he seem to be stealing glances at you?
Step 4. Don't stare at him too intensely
Staring at someone too intensely is not only disrespectful, it can disturb their comfort. If your gaze doesn't return, it's likely that he's busy or doesn't hold any interest. As a result, he may also feel offended if you are constantly staring at him.
If someone doesn't look back at you or seems to be avoiding them, chances are that they're not really interested in chatting or further interacting with you
Step 5. Greet her gaze with a smile
If eye contact is successful, don't forget to smile and show a relaxed posture. Once again, a light, polite smile can make other people feel more comfortable!
Step 6. Don't judge it
Staring at someone too intensely, even after eye contact has been established, is rude, intimidating, or even condescending behavior.
Step 7. Read her facial expressions
Although facial expression is a very subjective measure and cannot be used as an absolute benchmark, try your best to interpret all forms of expression that appear on his face. Does he smile back at you? Or is he nodding his head politely as a light greeting? In general, a smile indicates interest, while a polite nod indicates the opposite is possible. In addition, blinking or rapid eye movements also indicate positive attraction.
- Did he raise his eyebrows? If so, it's most likely his way of greeting you or communicating his interest through body language.
- Do his eyes seem to open wider? If so, it's most likely his way of communicating happiness and comfort.
- Does he seem to lower his chin while stealing glances at you? If so, chances are that he is indeed interested in further interacting with you.
Step 8. Make sure he's the first to look away
In other words, don't take your eyes off him until he does! This body language indicates your interest in interacting further with him.
The longer he stares into your eyes, the more likely he is to be interested in interacting with you
Step 9. Keep staring at him
Once he has averted his gaze, continue to stare at him for one to two seconds. If he looks back into your eyes, welcome the gaze and smile.
If his glances come back to you, chances are he's really interested in interacting with you
Method 2 of 2: Overcoming the Fear of Making Eye Contact
Step 1. Relax yourself
While looking into the eyes of someone you don't know may feel intimidating, try your best not to show it. Remember, no one wants to be stared at in a nervous, intense, or overly anxious look!
- After all, it's possible that the other person you're talking to is just as nervous. That's why you need to show a calm demeanor to help her feel more relaxed.
- A stare that is too intense or filled with anxiety indicates hatred or anger. Of course those are not the expressions you want to show, right?
Step 2. Practice your smile in front of the mirror
As silly as it sounds, someone who isn't practicing eye contact is most likely not practicing a warm stare or smile either. This means that you may not feel like you're staring at the other person too much, but your facial expressions say the opposite. As a result, other people will still feel uncomfortable when they see it.
- Remember, other people will feel uncomfortable and will be reluctant to return your gaze if they are stared at you too intensely. Therefore, try to avoid facial expressions that indicate that you are judging or criticizing the person.
- Practicing a smile in front of the mirror can also help relieve the embarrassment or intimidation that comes with looking someone in the eye.
Step 3. Observe other people's portraits
Practice your skills by observing portraits of several people. Feeling awkward? That's the feeling you really have to fight to make it easier to make eye contact with other people in real life!
You can even do this while flipping through the pages of a magazine or browsing the internet
Step 4. Practice making eye contact with the television
While watching your favorite television show, try to make eye contact with all the characters as if they were real people talking to you. Also follow the movements of their eyes and bodies on the screen.
Step 5. Attend seminars held by expert speakers
In fact, the process of making eye contact will be easier to do if you are a listener, rather than a speaker. In addition, joining a group is also effective in reducing social anxiety that you may be experiencing. In particular, learn to make eye contact with someone who is speaking in public.
Even if the speaker isn't looking directly at you, keep your eyes on them
Step 6. Have a short conversation with a stranger
If maintaining eye contact for long periods is difficult or uncomfortable, why not practice it through brief conversations with the supermarket cashier, neighbor, or even a coworker at the office? Remember, what matters is not the depth or seriousness of your conversation with them, but your ability to make eye contact with a real person in a short amount of time.
Increase the duration of the conversation as you become more comfortable making eye contact
Step 7. Look your friend in the eye while chatting with him
Practice your skills with the people closest to you whose eyes you can easily meet. Prioritize that body language when you have to chat with your closest friends and relatives!
Some people find it helpful to look at other areas of the face, instead of looking the person in the eye directly. If you want to try this method, try looking at an area that is not far from your eye position so that the other person doesn't notice that you are not looking into his eyes
Step 8. Take the relevant test or survey
If you're constantly having trouble making eye contact with a woman, try taking a simple test to identify a possible social anxiety disorder in you.
- Social anxiety disorder can be indicated by an extreme and constant fear of being judged, judged, or criticized.
- Chances are, it's the distraction that is rooting your fear of making eye contact.
Tips
- When your eyes meet, try to smile briefly. Don't smile too wide so he doesn't get scared!
- Do his cheeks look flushed when he looks at you? Safe! Most likely he does like you! Even so, still refrain from overreacting, okay? Maybe that expression actually arises because he feels uncomfortable when being stared at by you.
- If it's too far away from you, it's best not to look away when it's staring at you.
- Don't overdo everything. Remember, unwanted attention can actually make you both feel embarrassed. Plus, he'll probably think you're a weirdo after that!
- Even if it sounds awkward, there's nothing wrong with giving him a wink if you really know him or want to tease him every now and then.
- Don't stare at him for too long. Most people interpret it as unattractive behavior.
Warning
- Remember, every woman has different characteristics. This means that the things listed in this article cannot be used as an absolute guide to pursuing love.
- Don't ask her out right away after making eye contact with her.
- Don't assume that every woman who sees you has romantic feelings! Don't even cry out to everyone, "He saw me! I'm sure he must have a crush on me!" Believe me, this behavior is very embarrassing.
- Remember, love isn't the only thing that goes through a woman's mind!
