Maybe you've thought about kissing your crush, but didn't know how to start. The best way to start is to befriend him first. Next, you need to let him know that you like him more than just a friend. Once you've done these two things, you're ready to start talking about kissing.
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Part 1 of 3: Befriend Him
Step 1. Say hello to your crush
If he's never noticed you exist, try introducing yourself to him. If you're in his class, use this "advantage" as an excuse to start a conversation with him.
For example, you are in the same class as him in history class. Just say, "Hi, my name is Jenny. We are classmates in history class. What do you think about the boring topic that Mrs. Murti taught yesterday?" or "Hi, I'm Johnny. I'm sitting across from you in math class. I was thinking, can I borrow your notes from your last class?"
Step 2. Try hanging out with that person
Try to see if you can get him to hang out with you. If you manage to get along with him, you might be able to become his friend.
Start by hanging out with him at school first. Maybe the two of you can have lunch in the cafeteria, or study with him in the library
Step 3. Make him feel comfortable talking about himself
One way to get to know someone is to make them talk about themselves. Ask about her life, such as her favorite color, her family background, or her favorite books and movies.
It is very important that you really listen to the answer. This means that you really have to pay attention to what he is saying. One way to show you care is to comment on what he has to say or ask other pertinent questions
Step 4. Make him laugh
One way to build friendships is to laugh and have fun together. Read your favorite funny books with him, or just browse funny photos and laugh with him. Having fun together is a great way to become closer.
Step 5. Be kind to her
Lend your book to him when he wants it. Bring extra food to school for him. Offer to help him take notes if he's going to miss school. Small kindnesses like these will go a long way in building friendships.
Part 2 of 3: Becoming More Than Just Friends
Step 1. Compliment him
Compliments let him know that you notice his best qualities. After all, the compliment will make him feel positive, and he will associate these positive feelings with you.
Don't limit yourself to just complimenting your physical appearance. For example, you might notice how smart he is or how good he is at styling his clothes. Just make sure that you're being sincere and that your compliment is specific to something about him. For example, say, “You always know the right answer in math class. You are very clever!"
Step 2. Ask if you can chat or enjoy time together outside of school activities
You can use an upcoming activity as an excuse. There may be a party being held by one of your friends or even your school is hosting a dance. Consider taking your crush to the party together.
You can say, “Hey, have you heard the announcement about next month's school dance? Mmm… Maybe this is a bit silly, but I wanted to come. Would you like to come to the party with me?”
Step 3. Show that you want to spend time with him
If you're too shy to ask her out right away, try to show her that you want to spend some time with her. For example, you can say that you really want to see a certain movie in theaters, so that the person is prompted to say that he or she wants to see that movie too. After that, you can suggest that the two of you go to the movies together.
Step 4. Express your feelings
Tell him that you like him. It can be difficult, but it's the best way to find out how he feels about you. In fact, it's the easiest way to take this relationship to the next level.
- For example, you might say, “We've been friends for a while, and I really enjoy being with you. I think I'm starting to like you more than just a friend. What do you think yourself?”
- Be prepared to face rejection. This means your friend may say that he doesn't feel the same way about you. He has the right to determine his own feelings. Most of the time, you can still be friends with him. But sometimes, the relationship between the two of you becomes awkward. Still, it's important to ask if he wants to date you too.
Step 5. Recognize that it's okay to feel embarrassed
Everyone feels a little embarrassed when it comes to love and liking. It's okay to feel embarrassed if you want to ask someone out or ask them to be your girlfriend.
Part 3 of 3: Getting a Kiss
Step 1. Talk about kissing with him
If you're already dating him, kissing is the natural next step. Nonetheless, everyone moves at their own pace. Maybe you're ready to kiss, but your boyfriend isn't ready. Talk to him to find out how he feels about kissing.
For example, you might say, “I love it when we hold hands. What do you think about kissing me?”
Step 2. Ask if you can start kissing her
Asking directly is the fastest way to move forward, and it earns you his approval. Consent means he allows you to kiss him. In essence, you're asking him if you can kiss him, or if you want him to kiss you, you should allow him to do so.
- For example, you might ask, "How about we kiss?" or “Will you kiss me?” You can also say, "I want to kiss you so badly, if you want to kiss me too."
- Consent is especially important when you want to have a more intimate relationship with someone. Everyone has the right to have their own opinion about their body. In other words, if you just walk up to someone and just kiss someone, you're not giving them a chance to say if they want to kiss you, even though that "yes" is all that matters. Maybe he's not ready for kissing yet, so at this stage, he could just say "no".
Step 3. Kiss
Once you both agree to kiss each other, just enjoy it. Just make sure that you ask again if the two of you are moving to a more "hot" stage.
