Are you busy, quiet, annoyed, or depressed? If any of these words describe you, it's best to avoid certain people or groups. Or maybe you want to keep them all away from you. Sometimes, happiness can be found in loneliness. Whatever your reasons, you should approach the situation with caution. Start in a subtle way. Don't offend other people. You just need some alone time. If the person still can't figure it out, you need to be more direct. If you've been honest and polite and it still doesn't work, sometimes you have to take more extreme measures.
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Method 1 of 3: Using the Subtle Way
Step 1. Use body language
There are many signs you can give to let the other person know that he has to leave. In general, if you have your back to the person, this is a clear sign that the conversation is over. Likewise with a bored expression. A bored expression can convey dissatisfaction. Cross your arms, bend down, look the other way. These signs, of course, depend on the circumstances around you.
- For example, if you're at work and your chatty coworker doesn't want to leave your desk, start looking through papers and nagging about a report that needs to be done. This will notify the uninvited guests that they must leave. You certainly look too busy to chat.
- As with most of the tactics described in detail in this article, be sure to gauge the situation. Sometimes, negative body language can produce a negative response as well. If the person you're dealing with is irritable or violent, it's best to do something else.
Step 2. Build the walls
It's undeniable that you'll be interacting with other people, but there are some techniques that will get in the way of interaction from the start. If you're at home and your parents keep telling you something you don't want to do, wear headphones. Headphones can build a listening “wall” between you and your parents. They won't bother asking you to take your headphones off so they can tell you. Apart from headphones, if you're reading a book, doing your homework, or anything else, your parents won't bother you and talk to you.
Step 3. Ask others for help
We've all been caught up in conversations or situations we'd like to avoid. Whether it's an acquaintance who doesn't stop talking about his problems, or a family member who keeps asking when you're getting married or having kids. One of the easiest ways to get out of a situation like this is to ask someone else for help.
- If you're at a crowded party, say goodbye by calling your friends. You can tell him that you're trying to avoid talking to the person you were chatting with. Then you can leave without hurting anyone. Ideally, there will be someone else to talk to. Don't go and stand in the corner on the other side of the room alone.
- Set a signal with others before getting into a party or other event. For example, your office party tonight. You will go out with coworkers you like. You know that this party is going to be boring and you're going to have to chat with people you hate. Set a signal that will tell the friend you are taking that you want to leave. Make sure to give the signal subtly. Flick your sleeves. Sugar the hair back. Your signal should be obvious to your friends but not catch the attention of others.
Method 2 of 3: Be Frank
Step 1. Tell the person you want to stay away from
Don't trick other people, especially when you're dating someone. Be honest with your feelings. Avoid excuses like, "I can't talk right now." Even if you think your cues are very clear, some people will take them literally. They will contact you at a later time. Explain that you are not interested without quibbling. This doesn't mean you have to lose your temper and say something offensive, but you can say, "Sorry, I'm not interested. I like you, but I don't like dating."
Step 2. Be polite
Other people don't always get the point of your subtle cues. Sometimes, you just have to say it. No one wants confrontation, but when it's time to tell someone to stay away from you, you should do it politely. Start by getting their attention, then ask them to leave you alone in a soft voice.
Step 3. Give reasons or excuses
No one wants to be expelled for no reason-to be exiled for no reason. Tell the person why he has to leave. Do you have to talk to other people? Is there work to be done? Whatever the reason, be polite and provide some explanation as to why he should leave. The person will tend to comply with your wishes without arguing.
Step 4. Generate an automatic response on the internet
Set your email account to automatically reply to some email addresses you don't want to respond to. Log into social media accounts and do the same. You may have to consider unfollowing and unfriending people you don't want to talk to.
Automated e-mail replies saying you're “out of the office” are now commonplace in the business world. If you know that you won't be checking your email for a certain period of time and you don't want to receive dozens of emails about the same issue, set up an automatic reply with a text like this: “I'm not in the office right now or won't be able to be contacted during [enter period]. I will reply to messages in the order in which I return to the office on [insert date of arrival].” This way, you don't have to reply to dozens of emails and other people will know why
Method 3 of 3: Using More Extreme Measures
Step 1. Avoid contact
There are many ways to avoid contact with people you don't want to see. If you know the schedule, you can adjust your schedule to avoid it. The key is not to be a turtle in a shell. Don't just stay at home all the time. Weigh the pros and cons. Should I leave the house at the risk of meeting other people? Is the risk so great that I'd be better off staying at home all day?
In fact, there are now several apps that can help evade others. An app called Cloak collects positional data from other social media like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, then notifies you if someone you want to avoid is nearby. While it won't be 100% successful, it can be a great tool especially if you're trying to avoid someone who uses social media a lot
Step 2. Ignore them completely
Silence them. If you are forced to interact with someone who doesn't understand your subtle cues and direct explanations, you should use more visible but less violent actions. Silencing someone isn't just for kids. This is a “toxic maneuver” because it will usually be perceived as disrespectful behavior. This is a quick way to let someone know that you are not interested in talking to them.
In many cases, this action can backfire. If you're faced with someone who doesn't care about their relationship with you, they may try to piss you off until you say something. You shouldn't falter if this happens, or try another method
Step 3. Don't be rude
Violence is not the solution, unless you have to protect yourself. Hitting someone who annoys you may sound more tempting than using non-violent means. You definitely want to slap or punch someone who insults you or is annoying, but resist that urge. Fight with words, not with fists.
Step 4. Seek legal assistance
If the harassment has turned into harassment or stalking, you should consider contacting the police and filing a restraining order. Protection warrants should not be made at random because it can have serious legal consequences for someone. So don't ask unless you feel insecure around someone. If someone physically attacks you or makes threats to you or your loved ones, consider a protective warrant.
